[TakingMyMeds]

My psychiatrist keeps suggesting that I try dating. I keep telling him that personally I don't think I'm ready because I'm not working and I think that I need a backstory. Like oh I work at _____ and I'm a homebody so I don't have many friends. I believe this because there is no way that I would tell anyone about my diagnosis unless we were serious. I know that I have my real estate license so I could just say I do that but once you get to know me it's apparent that I'm not actively selling houses. I'm working towards a certification to help me get a decent job with good insurance. I'm not saying that I wouldn't be open to dating but I've never dated anyone. I got diagnosed at 19 and when I was in school I didn't attract anyone. Idk I just really hate he's pressuring my like this. I just want to tell him "I'm sorry that I don't have a freaking line of suitors waiting to date me but I must not be that intriguing so I don't need you to repeatedly remind me about my current forever alone status...I am already aware of this. Thanks a bunch." I'm thinking about not seeing him anymore and going to get my meds from my primary care physician.

[Sometimes psychotic]

Honestly dating has made me more stable and happy....while I wasn't happy with the pressure at the time my pdoc was saying it, I understand it now.

Why not say you're in school if you're working on a certification.

[ofthevalley]

I agree with SP. saying your in school should cover your bases. sorry you are feeling pressured.

[TakingMyMeds]

Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

Honestly dating has made me more stable and happy....while I wasn't happy with the pressure at the time my pdoc was saying it, I understand it now.

Why not say you're in school if you're working on a certification.

Ha! Well I'm just studying for a test to be certified HR professional so I'm not in school. But even if I found an acceptable excuse I just never meet guys. I'm either at home, gym, the library or at my parent's church (which is small and there aren't any potential guys to date there). I'm 26 and have never dated and I'm not massively overweight (like over 300). I have gained back all the weight I recently lost after a delusion and increaseing my meds. So now I'm working on losing it. I know it's not good to feel like this but I almost feel like I'm not good enough to date at this weight because I don't want someone who encourages me to gain weight like a chubby chaser. I want someone to lose it and keep it off with.

[Emotionally Dead]

How about next Saturday?

Haha, just kidding just kidding. Trying to lighten the mood a bit. Honestly really the main thing I have to add here is that "love knows no bounds". I know I know, you're probably laughing at how cliche and corny that is, but it is true. It doesn't matter what sort of job you have, where you're staying, or even your mental health. Sure, those things are important but they shouldn't be the deciding factor in a relationship.

I have a buddy who has consistently pushed girls away because he still lives at home and doesn't make as much as he thinks he should. I never let that bother me. I didn't actually get my driver's license until I was 19 but I still dated girls. I can't even tell you how many times I had to walk miles to get to their house lol. I don't think our jobs should define us either. I feel like you can be honest about it, or if it makes you feel uncomfortable you can just say you're in school, but I don't think you should let it keep you from dating. At the same time, I don't think you should feel pressured to either. If the opportunity comes along and you feel something for that person - take it. But I don't think it's necessarily something you have to go looking for. But that's really all up to you.

[Sometimes psychotic]

Originally Posted by TakingMyMeds

Ha! Well I'm just studying for a test to be certified HR professional so I'm not in school. But even if I found an acceptable excuse I just never meet guys. I'm either at home, gym, the library or at my parent's church (which is small and there aren't any potential guys to date there). I'm 26 and have never dated and I'm not massively overweight (like over 300). I have gained back all the weight I recently lost after a delusion and increaseing my meds. So now I'm working on losing it. I know it's not good to feel like this but I almost feel like I'm not good enough to date at this weight because I don't want someone who encourages me to gain weight like a chubby chaser. I want someone to lose it and keep it off with.

I was 36 before I started dating...I used ok Cupid and pof...it's worked so far. As far as the weight just put that in your profile and you can find guys that want to lose weight with you.

[TakingMyMeds]

Originally Posted by Emotionally Dead

How about next Saturday?

Haha, just kidding just kidding. Trying to lighten the mood a bit. Honestly really the main thing I have to add here is that "love knows no bounds". I know I know, you're probably laughing at how cliche and corny that is, but it is true. It doesn't matter what sort of job you have, where you're staying, or even your mental health. Sure, those things are important but they shouldn't be the deciding factor in a relationship.

I have a buddy who has consistently pushed girls away because he still lives at home and doesn't make as much as he thinks he should. I never let that bother me. I didn't actually get my driver's license until I was 19 but I still dated girls. I can't even tell you how many times I had to walk miles to get to their house lol. I don't think our jobs should define us either. I feel like you can be honest about it, or if it makes you feel uncomfortable you can just say you're in school, but I don't think you should let it keep you from dating. At the same time, I don't think you should feel pressured to either. If the opportunity comes along and you feel something for that person - take it. But I don't think it's necessarily something you have to go looking for. But that's really all up to you.

Ha! I guess you're right about love knows no bounds but mainly for me the right opportunity never came. I'm sure there's someone out there for me I just have a hard time imagining I'll meet him at the present moment.

Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

I was 36 before I started dating...I used ok Cupid and pof...it's worked so far. As far as the weight just put that in your profile and you can find guys that want to lose weight with you.

I was on those for a bit a long time ago but I really don't like online dating. It just feels so awkward. I met a guy a while ago and then decided not to talk to/meet him because it didn't feel comfortable. I just don't think it's my thing.