[AubreaM]

Im bipolar with schizoaffective disorder. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. He was afraid of a commitment because of my health. I do love him and miss him but this is bout so much more. Im tired of being sick. I got out of the hospital friday because of a relapse
I feel like im a complete burden to my family. Now my therapist says it will be hard to find someone new cause im sick. I just feel like im never going to be happy. Need someone to talk to
Thanks

[Sometimes psychotic]

It's not that hard to find someone if you're stable so focus on getting better first....my current boyfriend actually said he wishes he was there for my psychotic break so he could help and support me....I'm bipolar with psychotic features.

In the UK, there's actually a dating site that matches people with MI, is there such a thing in the US? I just Googled and found one in NY
http://www.nolongerlonely.com

Originally Posted by AubreaM

Im bipolar with schizoaffective disorder. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. He was afraid of a commitment because of my health. I do love him and miss him but this is bout so much more. Im tired of being sick. I got out of the hospital friday because of a relapse
I feel like im a complete burden to my family. Now my therapist says it will be hard to find someone new cause im sick. I just feel like im never going to be happy. Need someone to talk to
Thanks

Hi AubreaM,

First, you're not a burden to anyone; you're a person who deserves the same amount of dignity and respect as any other person. Never forget that.

Second, feel free to PM me anytime you want, and I promise to get back to you within 24 hours.

Dating when you have a mental illness is tricky. If you're not mentally well enough it's not fair to whoever you're in a relationship to have to deal with you and dealing with any chaos that comes from dating won't help you become happy, healthy, and stable. It sounds bad the way I'm saying it, but I believe before dating people need to get their **** together. There is a reason psychiatric hospitals tell patients not to get contact information from other patients.

I'm sorry to hear about your struggles and I pray for good things to come to you.

[Als1495]

I used to feel like a burden to my family until I learned that I deserved their love and support. I'm sure they probably do not see you as a burden. I too am single and I have schizophrenia , ocd, anxiety and a lot of physical health problems as well. I am on disability, but I still believe that when the time is right and I am doing a bit better I will meet someone who will care for me, accept me and my illnesses and treat me the way I deserve to be treated, and I believe the same for you!

I don't date anyone out of fear of being rejected
the other thing is, I am still struggling with my "illness" and I am not at all stable long enough to have a working relationship

Some people try asking me out but I always end up saying no because I worry that if t goes any further I may end up getting sicker and they will see me when I'm bad and they will leave

Id rather have no one and be sick than have people leave me and be sick