[concernedex]

Hi, it's my first time posting here..I have nobody else to ask so I thought asking other people with psychotic disorders would be helpful. This is gonna be a long one but please please please help.
I have a long roller coastery history with a man who's a drug addict and has schizoaffective and bipolar disorder. Every year for the past 12 years he has at least 4 episodes that involve police and/or hospital intervention. I should mention now that a lot of these episodes are drug induced (he'll take anything he can get) Until this summer, he lived in the same area, where he had support and people who knew how and when to intervene. Friends and family were able to help, the local police knew him and what to do when they were called for him. When he's on meds he's a wonderful person. but when he's off its a quick downward spiral and he'll take as many people down with him as he can. At the begining of the spiral, he rants and raves, stops eating (relies on the sun for food and energy),has no personal hygiene, he'll dress up like Hindu gods and yell in the streets, and not sleep for days. Its dangerous for him but to the outsider it looks silly and like its not an issue. but it doesn't take long for him to start "receiving mind transmissions" and get violently mad at anyone who questions him (he's attempted to hit me with an axe, thrown knives at construction workers, hurt his mother, completely destroyed our apartment)
After those incidents 2 years ago, I broke up with him because my safety was in jepordy. I had to get a restraining order because he was so mad. it was a scary time for me. But even now I still care about him. I just know that my involvement has made things worse in the past for both of us.
over this past summer he moved from upstate ny to canada where he has no friends or family, no connections what so ever. i'm not sure how he's affording everything but that's besides the point.
he stopped contacting me a year ago but it started again when the restraining order expired in July 2016. First it was rational "I miss you, can we start over? etc." but he mentioned he wasn't on the meds, which scared me a little. I never and still haven't responded to anything hes sent.
over the past few weeks the emails have grown in frequency, length, and I can tell he's in the middle of the spiral. He's in the first stages right now...making 20+ instagram videos a day of his rantings. I was able to locate the street where the videos were made.

my question is should I intervene? If so, how?
Should i contact his local police and let them know he's spiraling? he doesn't seem violent yet, but i can see the look in his eyes and I know it's coming soon.
I contacted his mother and she's going to visit him but not for another week..and a LOT can change in one week as I'm sure you know.
I'm not sure how the psych wards are in canada, but i've seen how he's been treated in the past in the US and I feel terrible putting him thru that trauma again...but I think it's necessary for him to come down from the episode, re-evaluate and start the regular med schedule again.
please help.....if you can put yourself in his shoes, what would you want your exgirlfriend to do? His mother said I should just block him so I'm not getting hurt anymore because he'll never change. its been the rollercoaster for almost half his life now. and it gets a little worse every time I really care about him and miss the great times we had when we first met

[Turtleboy]

it sounds like the mania phase of his bipolar cycle and the mix of drugs are causing psychotic breaks, if he wont take his mood stabilizers and stop the drugs, he is only going to get worse over time, i cant imagine how it feels from the outside (like my wife) my heart goes out to you, i really think tho that if he is refusing medication, in my opinion you should walk away, this type of mental illness is very serious and is way above the head of any of us not qualified to deal with. from my experience he will turn against anybody trying to intervene (as i did while psychotic)
bottom line for me was to give up drugs and take my medication (which is really difficult because the medication can take so long to get right, self medicating with drugs is an easier option and makes things so much worse)
please take care and know no matter what you do the change has to come from his end

[Skeezyks]

Hello concernedex: I'm sorry your find yourself in this most difficult situation. I've never been psychotic. So I can't speak as a person who has had that experience. However, my personal opinion is that your ex's mother is absolutely correct, as is Turtleboy. Simply do whatever you need to do to put this behind you. Your ex bf is deeply disturbed. He's in another country. Do not insert yourself into this sad situation.

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

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