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Default Dec 13, 2021 at 07:42 PM
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My history has been such that I have had great difficulty dealing with social situations because I am self-conscious of my thoughts. I have been told many times that people can not see my thoughts. However, a dynamic has been built in which I feel anxious about what to do with my thoughts. That coupled with perhaps some elements of thought broadcasting has caused me to do things meekly with others responding as if I am telling them to police my thoughts. In effect, my belief that people can hear my thoughts has become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

How would I go about changing this dynamic? How could I not let people see that I am anxious about whether the thoughts I have is right?
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@meetlaw I hear you that many thoughts in our mind can cause facial expressions that other people can read as I learned that in Interpersonal Communication. It was not my thoughts that they were reading as much as my reaction to those thoughts as the expreessions on my face. That is what I found when practicing non verbal communication in a class.

For me it has not always been easy but not reacting is a good start. Rather than focus on my thoughts, I try to ask people open ended questions like "How has your week been so far?" And sometimes that leads them to talk and I focus on what they are saying and give non verbal cues that I am listening like nodding my head once in a while and verbal cues like "I hear you." or "that sounds like a good week so far" By talking about what is important to others the thoughts in my head are of less importance.

It is all an experiment so try something and see if it works. Have a good one.

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This is really good!!

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