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Default May 07, 2023 at 07:39 PM
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Hi everyone,

I have a problem with taking everyone's advice seriously, like not quite to the point where I'd ask a stranger for advice, just because that would feel extremely uncomfortable in many ways, but I feel like I hear one person's opinion, and I latch onto that opinion, and I cannot detach myself from their opinion very easily. It's like I get an idea in my head and I cannot let go of it.

It's like the feeling that I get when I think "who do I trust?" and I come up empty on that question. I have to remind myself consciously that I can trust myself. But it's really difficult to trust myself because of past psychosis and other decisions I've made, etc.

Anyway, I have a hard time with intuition as well, because sometimes my so-called "intuition" has led me far astray. So I don't know. I guess it's a matter of fine-tuning things a bit. I don't really know what else to do.

Can anyone else relate to this?

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Default May 07, 2023 at 10:57 PM
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I can definitely relate.

Sometimes it helps me to write things down so I can slow my thinking down and try to find the pros and cons of various options and decisions. Otherwise I often just go with intuition, which something leaves me a bad place.

When one gets used to doing things in a certain way, it takes time to get used to new ways of doing things. It often involves a lot of effort too especially if one struggles with mental illness.

Sometimes it is good to just aim at making a little progress at a time. Sometimes I have to take baby steps towards some goal I would like to achieve.

I am sorry that I don't have anything really helpful to offer. And I hope others here will see your post and respond with useful ideas.

Life can be so tough sometimes.
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You are the expert on you no matter past psychosis….there’s a difference between reality checking and giving up control.

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You are the expert on you no matter past psychosis….there’s a difference between reality checking and giving up control.
True. I think that's very true. And yeah, for example today I could have given up control but I decided to take a shower and kind of put the ball back in my own hands so to speak. And so that is a powerful action in itself.

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True. I think that's very true. And yeah, for example today I could have given up control but I decided to take a shower and kind of put the ball back in my own hands so to speak. And so that is a powerful action in itself.
Yeah I was lucky my first pdoc basically refused to take even the tiniest bit of control even though I was super confused early on. He might give me choices but it was shared decision making.

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Yeah I was lucky my first pdoc basically refused to take even the tiniest bit of control even though I was super confused early on. He might give me choices but it was shared decision making.
Yeah my best pdocs have been like that.

Lately I've had to be very assertive with my pdoc though which is frustrating. But I guess it is the way it is.

I gotta remember: "No" is a complete sentence.

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Default Dec 24, 2023 at 09:48 PM
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I can relate. In the past, mentors have told me I'm "impressionable" and I had a boss tell me I was "child like". I was also diagnosed with aspbergers in the early 2010's and then in 2017 diagnosed with autism by a psychologist and then a pyschiatrist. Now its gone in the complete opposite direction: I don't trust anyone, almost to the point of complete paranoia. This is a result of following a lot of advice that led me into really painful situations.
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