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Student of Life
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Hi everyone,
I have a problem with taking everyone's advice seriously, like not quite to the point where I'd ask a stranger for advice, just because that would feel extremely uncomfortable in many ways, but I feel like I hear one person's opinion, and I latch onto that opinion, and I cannot detach myself from their opinion very easily. It's like I get an idea in my head and I cannot let go of it. It's like the feeling that I get when I think "who do I trust?" and I come up empty on that question. I have to remind myself consciously that I can trust myself. But it's really difficult to trust myself because of past psychosis and other decisions I've made, etc. Anyway, I have a hard time with intuition as well, because sometimes my so-called "intuition" has led me far astray. So I don't know. I guess it's a matter of fine-tuning things a bit. I don't really know what else to do. Can anyone else relate to this? __________________ "Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!” |
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I can definitely relate.
Sometimes it helps me to write things down so I can slow my thinking down and try to find the pros and cons of various options and decisions. Otherwise I often just go with intuition, which something leaves me a bad place. When one gets used to doing things in a certain way, it takes time to get used to new ways of doing things. It often involves a lot of effort too especially if one struggles with mental illness. Sometimes it is good to just aim at making a little progress at a time. Sometimes I have to take baby steps towards some goal I would like to achieve. I am sorry that I don't have anything really helpful to offer. And I hope others here will see your post and respond with useful ideas. Life can be so tough sometimes. |
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You are the expert on you no matter past psychosis….there’s a difference between reality checking and giving up control.
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Student of Life
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True. I think that's very true. And yeah, for example today I could have given up control but I decided to take a shower and kind of put the ball back in my own hands so to speak. And so that is a powerful action in itself.
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well done!
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Yeah I was lucky my first pdoc basically refused to take even the tiniest bit of control even though I was super confused early on. He might give me choices but it was shared decision making.
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Lately I've had to be very assertive with my pdoc though which is frustrating. But I guess it is the way it is. I gotta remember: "No" is a complete sentence. __________________ "Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!” |
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I can relate. In the past, mentors have told me I'm "impressionable" and I had a boss tell me I was "child like". I was also diagnosed with aspbergers in the early 2010's and then in 2017 diagnosed with autism by a psychologist and then a pyschiatrist. Now its gone in the complete opposite direction: I don't trust anyone, almost to the point of complete paranoia. This is a result of following a lot of advice that led me into really painful situations.
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