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Old Nov 10, 2011, 04:09 PM
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It seems the more I go to college the more I hate it, I don't particularly like my course and I only did it because my parents basically said I had to go to college. I chose the college closest to home so I wouldn't have to go far.
I can't drop out because I'll probably be disowned or something and I don't even want a job in what I'm studying.
I'm studying computer programming and computer software design, and tbh, if I have to spend the rest of my life doing that I'll probably snap.
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Old Nov 10, 2011, 05:40 PM
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I'm sure if you spoke with you're parents after deciding you're passion, nack and intended major and expressed you're dislike for what you're currently studying that they would be understanding.
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Old Nov 10, 2011, 07:03 PM
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Oh, wait, don't think you have to spend the rest of your life doing what your learning now, but what your learning now may come in handy with what you eventually choose to do down the road. Hey, don't think about everything you learn as being just that one thing, you take from each thing and add that to what comes next. Computer knowledge is always a plus. And you don't have to ace everything either. You have to look at education differently, it is not a must achieve for your parents, this is for you and what it means is each thing you learn is a means for YOU to gain tools for something you want down the road. And anything with computers is a good skill to have.
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Old Nov 23, 2011, 01:10 AM
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I was going through something similar in my first year and it's a discussion I've had multiple times with myself and others (studying software myself).

So first off, you don't like the course you're taking? Yea well it's not all butter & sugar, but if there is something else you feel passionate about at the moment, I think you should present your passions to your family and try and look into your options. Consult your academic adviser and discuss your situation.

If you can't find/think of anything else that you'd rather be studying (the problem I had), then stick with what you've got now. You've already invested the time. BUUUT IT IS ESSENTIAL to remember what you study in school is NOT what your career will be.

School is there to give you some tools. It's up to you to decide how to use them. Think of all the English majors out there, they're not all becoming writers (some even work in Q&A). Especially in technology, the field is expanding to so many fields, social tech, sciences, art, and fields we don't even know about yet. You have a lot of options, look around your college for any options you can take or side courses that sound appealing to you.

I know it's tough to grit your teeth together and head to class, but just remember, your career is YOUR DECISION. You choose the jobs you apply for, college is just there to help you out for the skills.

Most people spend around 30 years working (or start your own company and retire early!), and just look at your life so far, how many times has it changed? 30 years, you'll find new interests, try them out, use your skills that you've acquired and apply them in new ways.

Just remember, life is the adventure you choose. I hope this helps you out, best of luck.
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Old Nov 23, 2011, 05:17 AM
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Hello, deniswazere. You state your parents required you to go to college. It does not make clear they also required you to study computer programming and computer software design.

While as others have noted what you are currently studying might well be useful in almost any career, would your problem be resolved by changing majors?
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Old Nov 23, 2011, 12:30 PM
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Good point, Elan. If you hate your major, then college sure will be miserable. I might be a dumb parent, but I'm not pushing my sons (much) about majors. They both did choose to go to college. I didn't insist.....
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Old Nov 24, 2011, 04:04 PM
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Would they let you take a class or two of something you did like? Just to see if you could possibly enjoy yourself?

Believe me, I have had a ton of college, and got to where I hated it sometimes, but looking back, I really loved 99.9% of it.

It was kinda cool being able to do what I wanted within reason, think more abstract, and be my own person.

That is the beginning of adulthood to me, when you can do that. Or at least a good turn to being an elderly teenager
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Old Nov 29, 2011, 02:01 PM
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I have three stepsons, two of whom took the path you are on (computers) and all three of whom eventually dropped out of college. All three are doing well now (in their 30's and 40's) though it took some time out of college to find their path. You can only do what you need to do, going down the "wrong" path doesn't help anyone.

I would see if there is a counseling center with interest tests at your school and take those to see what you could study that would be a better fit for you since you do not see yourself working in the computer field as you are currently studying it. Barring that, I would study the computer field, it's huge, and see if there is some other place for you in it besides programming. Maybe you should be a game designer or repair tech (hardware instead of software) or engineer, etc. Find your passion and go toward that.

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lif...r-passion.html
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