[cuddlebunny]

i am not sure about it i mean i want to go but after failing maths even though i studied so much i am not sure i will get offered a place and offers come out tomorrow morning.. its all a bit overwhelming

[FooZe]

Hi cuddlebunny, welcome to Psych Central!

Originally Posted by cuddlebunny

college looks like a biggie :/

For me, things look all different ways depending on where I'm looking at them from. If anything, viewing something as big or scary or difficult makes it harder for me to cope with. Logically it seems as if I'd be better prepared if I go into something braced for it to be difficult; sometimes it does work that way but lots of times it doesn't.

An example of when it has worked that way for me: say I'm preparing to drive to the mountains to go camping. I know it's about a four-hour drive and it's going to get pretty hot along the way. I make sure my car has good tires and new radiator hoses. I make sure I have drinking water, trail mix, sunscreen, sunglasses, anything else I might need within easy reach. Once I'm sure I'm as well prepared as I'll ever be, I can let go of worrying and make the trip one mile or one hour at a time. It usually turns out to be nowhere near as difficult as the "worst case" I've been preparing for.

An example of when it's worked the other way: I repair things for a living. If someone asks me to take a look at something rare and valuable that's still in pretty good condition but not quite working as it should, I hesitate to take it on because I could easily make it worse. If, however, something is obviously beyond repair, I feel as if I can't possibly do it any harm -- and I often succeed in getting it to work again, though perhaps by unorthodox means.

Good luck with college or with whatever you choose to do instead!

[gina_re]

After I graduated high school, I went away to college, and failed miserably. I felt so bad as to why I couldn't get through school. But then in time, I took a step back and realized everything happens for a reason. Sometimes college isn't for everybody, but I was determined to go back. I just had to figure out what I really wanted to do at my pace. Eventually I went back for my degree in psychology and I've been successful (graduating this fall!!). All I can say is don't beat yourself up if you're not successful right away. You can do what works for you.

[fishsandwich]

Hi Cuddlebunny, did you get your offer in the end?