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Old Dec 05, 2013, 02:55 PM
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So around two months ago classes started at college and I was going through a deep cycle of depression and anxiety and I decided, stupidly, that there was no point going to classes anymore. Now, obviously, I have my regrets. I don't necessarily regret not going to school, I regret wasting so much time and having really nothing to do. I'm looking for a job, but I'm wondering if I should try to go back to college or if I should put my focus on other things. Any opinions?
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Old Dec 05, 2013, 04:41 PM
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It really depends what you want to do - do you need a college degree for that? If so, do you think you would be able to manage the workload?

I went through a stage when I first started uni where I was similar - depression sank in and I didn't go to classes, did bare minimum and my grades and GPA suffered. I ended up leaving. A few years later I tried again and things were different. My mind was in a different place where I could keep up with the demands. It wasn't always easy but it was possible.

For me, the deciding factor was that I needed a university degree for the job I wanted to do. I spent a year just working and found that I wasn't happy. It gave me some of the motivation to go back and try again.
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Old Dec 05, 2013, 05:05 PM
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So around two months ago classes started at college and I was going through a deep cycle of depression and anxiety and I decided, stupidly, that there was no point going to classes anymore. Now, obviously, I have my regrets. I don't necessarily regret not going to school, I regret wasting so much time and having really nothing to do. I'm looking for a job, but I'm wondering if I should try to go back to college or if I should put my focus on other things. Any opinions?

I found the beginning of school was so hard for me being out of it for a couple years. Now I am actually doing pretty well. Not great, because I got behind a lot in the start of my classes, so I was playing catch up all the time.

For me my depression was worse initially, because I was like I am just stupid and can't get through school as easily as other people. Then I found that I wasn't stupid and just had to keep at it which raised my confidence and decreased my depression.

I think if you really want to get back into school try to stick with it for a full term. Try your absolute best, and if this ends with poor grades that doesn't matter. You will have learnt how to study more efficiently and the next term of school will come easier and if you try your best you might have good grades, and over a couple years of this you might achieve great grades and school will come easy.

"Stick with it and the pain will subside, but if you quit it will last forever" This was a quote I heard, but can't recall from who lol.

I find my depression worsens when I'm alone, not exercising and not socializing. Sometimes forcing myself into these things is the best thing I can do when I really really don't want to do them.
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Old Dec 05, 2013, 05:10 PM
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It wasn't that I wasn't good at it, I had a 3.7 average, it was more that I found it pointless. I have no idea what I want to do or what I'd be good at. I just hated sitting there and feeling bored, apathetic, and like I wasn't really doing anything. I don't know, I just felt empty, so I left. I can't really explain it, I just thought I could do more, bt I never actually planned anything, oops.
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Old Dec 06, 2013, 09:19 AM
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So around two months ago classes started at college and I was going through a deep cycle of depression and anxiety and I decided, stupidly, that there was no point going to classes anymore. Now, obviously, I have my regrets. I don't necessarily regret not going to school, I regret wasting so much time and having really nothing to do. I'm looking for a job, but I'm wondering if I should try to go back to college or if I should put my focus on other things. Any opinions?
For me the best investment I ever made was getting a college degree! It's never too late to get one! Best of luck!!

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Old Dec 06, 2013, 10:26 AM
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It wasn't that I wasn't good at it, I had a 3.7 average, it was more that I found it pointless. I have no idea what I want to do or what I'd be good at. I just hated sitting there and feeling bored, apathetic, and like I wasn't really doing anything. I don't know, I just felt empty, so I left. I can't really explain it, I just thought I could do more, bt I never actually planned anything, oops.
Do you think going into a variety of all kinds of courses would help? It seems like you are just having a hard time figuring out what you want to pursue as a career. Honestly it doesn't have to involve going to college. For me money means nothing, so I'm going for social work to ultimately help people. My ultimate goal would be to become a counselor. This took a long time to reach as far as figuring out that I wanted to do this. You really aren't alone in this feeling. I think the majority of students will question what they would like to do for a career.
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Old Dec 07, 2013, 04:02 PM
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I was considering that davie, however, I don't know how I will be able to do that know that I basically got four Fs.
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Old Dec 12, 2013, 10:25 PM
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I would take some time off and focus on yourself and your mental health. While I managed to juggle three hospitalizations, a job and school, it was very difficult.

College will always be there. And when and if you decide to go back, I suggest taking only one or two classes at a time so you don't get overwhelmed.
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