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So, I deferred a year of college last year as I was ill. I knew everyone that was in my class then, and could get on with them - on orientation day, I knew nobody, so I drank lots of energy drinks, got really hyper and spoke to EVERYBODY, and they all seemed to like me from then on.
However, I don't know anybody in this class now, and they have been around each other for the past year and a half, so groups of friends has formed within the class, and I just feel so lost. I find it easy enough to get the confidence up to go say hi to people when it is a group full of people who don't know each other - at least that way I'm trying to connect with an individual. But nobody seems to be on their own in this class and I get too scared to speak to groups of people, especially when I haven't got the slightest idea of whether they would be the kind of people I would get along with, or who would get along with me. Anybody know ways of making friends in such a big group of people? I really don't know what to do, and it feels far too lonely not having friends in college. __________________ Not broken, just bent. |
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it's a scary experience, and it's natural to feel a little awkward to begin with. but you'll get their- perhaps if you feel scared to make friends yourself, wait for a project or something where you have to work with someone (everyone does them at 1 stage or another)
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Ugh, I empathise with how hard it is to go up to a groups of friends. I could never do that. I was lucky in my case since I pushed myself hard to be proactive at the very beginning when no one knew each other, and managed to form a 'safe' group which grew enormously, something I actually didn't even want. Is there anybody that strikes you as non judgemental and friendly, more quiet, or maybe someone who is also on their own, or in a pair rather than a massive group? I would stick to those who may appear to be more likely to want to make a friend or so.
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The smallest group in the class is of 5 people, I tried to approach them, but got blanked...which really isn't a nice feeling! Since I did a lot of the classes last year, I've been trying to just help people out on the facebook group for the course, hoping it'll lead to them actually talking to me in person.
Though, I joined the LGBTA soc in the college this week, and made loads of friends there, which helped a lot __________________ Not broken, just bent. |
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