![]() |
FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
#1
|
|||
|
|||
I moved away for college and I have been extremely homesick. I have had separation anxiety my whole life and I thought it was getting better as I got older but now I just cry everyday and I want to go home. Has anyone else had this experience? My anxiety is so bad it's also making my dissociation worse than ever. Does anyone have any suggestions to help until I can go back home next semester? I just want these feelings to go away.
![]() |
![]() anon20141119
|
#2
|
||||
|
||||
I am pretty anxious to leave my parents' house so I can't say I know how you feel. But hey it sounds really hard so here's a big
![]()
__________________
Like diamonds, we are cut with our own dust. |
#3
|
|||
|
|||
Hey birdling,
I'm sorry you're feeling so homesick while at school! Last year was my first year at college away from home, and I started out the same way! I spent the first week holed up in my dorm room either crying or sleeping (crying only when my roommate wasn't there, and sleeping the rest of the time). Other than going to class and eating in the cafeteria (by myself) that's pretty much all I did. After the first week I managed to accidentally make a friend, however I found her incredibly annoying, so that didn't really help much. But she did give me someone to go to lunch with. Finally nearly halfway through my first semester I met a group of friends through being forced to do a group project in one of my classes (I know, how can something good come out of a group project???) and once I met them I was able to get away from the annoying "friend" (who was basically using my for my car and ability to drive her everywhere she needed to go), and had a much better time. Basically what I'm saying is this: you HAVE to talk to people in your classes. You HAVE to ask people to eat lunch and dinner with you. I was absolutely terrified of doing this, as I've always had trouble making friends and talking to people, but once you just sit down with someone you recognize from class (make sure it's someone you think seems nice) you realize that it's not so bad. Most people are trying to make new friends and get over their own homesickness too, so they will probably be grateful for someone else to talk to. Once you do this you can start asking them to hang out and have movie nights or do whatever it is you like to do (boardgames, go workout at the workout center on campus if there is one, play football, etc....), then you won't feel so awfully homesick. You'll still miss your friends and family back home, but having friends at school will definitely make it better. Also, like the other poster suggested, see if your family would be willing to write you letters or notes, and send you packages and whatnot in the mail. My mom still sends me little notes every once in a while and they really make me feel better about being so far from home. One last thing, even if you can't seem to find friends in your classes or meet people who you like that way, you can always go to different events and things on campus to meet people. If you live in a dorm and have a roommate you can ask them to go with you to something, and then you can branch out from there. Most campuses have campus minitries (the BSM, the Weasly, Catholic Student Center, etc...), and even if you aren't religious they usually have events that are just fun like game nights or different sports and whatnot. Okay now for the real last thing I almost forgot! Check with your school adviser or even look on the school's website and see if they have a counseling center. If they do, this will be a lifesaver! Make an appointment ASAP and even if you don't have any other problems aside from the homesickness and dissociation, they can help you with those! They will give you tools to help you get through this and learn to LOVE living on campus! Trust me, I've been exactly where you are now and I know it's hard to believe that things will ever be different, but by the time you come home next you may find yourself anxious to get back to school!! Hope this helps at least some! let me know if you try any of this and if it helps! |
#4
|
|||
|
|||
I wish you were at my college. We have all kinds of programs with upper classmen involved to reach out to first year students and get them involved in all kinds of on campus activities(I'm a member of one of them). Could you ask some staff at the college if there are any programs like this?
|
Reply |
|