The end of my college's semester's coming to a close. I should be happy, but I'm getting so stressed that I'm turning in the last of my homework late. I used to let that same stress push me to get it all finished on time, but now it's just overwhelming. Something bringing me down is that because of my failure to earn good grades in a few of my past classes, people who hear of this make unflattering assumptions of my intelligence. I was dealing with emotional issues at the time which were drastically eating me away. I wasn't taking care of myself, and neither was I being very hopeful or kind to myself. My intellect's one of my pride and joys... For them to say that, it's very sad . I hear big talk of how grades don't reflect intelligence, but I feel like people people who say this take a complete 180 when they hear I received a bad grade in something. "Oh, they must be stupid." It's like they want me to stupid, but maybe I'm being paranoid. However, it seems to be affecting how I think. I just don't seem as "smart" when I had a higher respect for myself. I feel like I'm becoming this image of "stupid." I guess I shouldn't let it get me down.

[healingme4me]

Not sure, who these people are, saying these things. Facts about college, not every low grade is purely a result of not grasping subject matter. Each professor has their own grading system, certain things weight heavier than others. Another point, once in the workforce, rare is it, to be asked your GPA. Then, there's your overall GPA and your Major's GPA. You're expressing a stressful semester. It's exactly that, a stressful semester.

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[bearita]

Wondering if the emotional issues that led to lower grades in the past are still around? Or is the stress mostly the result of worrying what others think/being hard on yourself because of the low grades in the past? It sounds like you might still be struggling with being kind to yourself.

I can relate to that, as I have been feeling a loss of confidence related to work recently. I know that I am intelligent, but I rarely come across that way - till others know me better.

I'm not sure what the key is. Sometimes we bite off more than we can chew and it's best to change course in order to experience success. But, the decision to change course (such as choosing a different career, or major) can feel like a failure in itself. Maybe there is also some external aspect of study (or in my case, work) that we didn't anticipate, that contributes to stress. In my case, I didn't realize that my work environment would be overstimulating.

I hope you find something that helps break the cycle of your thoughts and lets you regain confidence. Good luck on your finals, and be sure to be good to yourself over break!