[Koko2]

I was never a goal-setter in the classic write-it-all-down-on-a-checklist sense, but I've always had a strong sense of identity and generally what my "bag" is. The problem is there's someone younger I've known for a long time who came to the conclusion at some point, probably around the time I showed them my personality profile, that they would have a great life if they adopted my identity wholesale but applied a classic goal-setter mentality to it. In other words, be the first dog over the fence at whatever fence I may be nearest to. Or make a huge, belly-flop splash in whatever pool I happen to wading in. For instance, they use my favorite color since a child as the dominant color in their wardrobe. They're ostentatious about their dietary choices, but their diet is based on my diet since childhood. Their college major is one that I had tried and "failed" before switching majors.

They've talked to me about goal-setting, follow-through, completion, etc. because they feel they're more successful and can lead the way for me. But they lack goal-setting ability themself because they're just snatching my goals, or "doggy bones" as it were, before I nab them at my leisure. It's like I'm the invisible wind and they're the visible weathervane. They're Fred and I'm Shaggy, so it seems everyone assumes that I'm influenced by their "maverick" leadership. But Shaggy was always the one to stumble into the solution of the crime while Fred was being a blowhard. I don't like goal-setting within such a competitive framework.

[unaluna]

Life isn't a 100 meter sprint, it's a marathon, and you have to run your own race, at your own pace, or else you'll never make it to the finish line. Don't worry about this other person and how things MAY appear to the crowd, and don't listen to the trash-talk - just go along at the pace you know works for you. You're on the right track.