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drclay · Nov 15, 2006 at 01:58 PM

Okiedokie:

Thanks for the link to Root Cause Analysis. I read it. It reads like it was written by some of my friends in Industrial Technology. I kept wanting to translate the schools, the 5 Whys, the general process, and so on into my Chapter 2 where the steps in self-help are spelled out: (1) selection of the problem, (2) collection of basic data, (3) understanding the problem by five parts or levels, (4) setting realistic goals, (5) select self-change methods to use, (6) make a treatment plan, (7) collect and plot data frequently, (8) get going according to plan, etc, etc.

What treatment plan have you worked out to reduce your hypersensitivity? I bet a lot of posters have had some success with this problem. It is a good problem to discuss on this forum.

drclay

drclay · Nov 15, 2006 at 02:13 PM

alexandra:

I tend to agree with you...especially understanding, accepting and tolerating others helps us feel better about ourselves.

drclay

nothemama8 · Nov 16, 2006 at 01:07 AM

Why do service providers tell us we need to be more self-sufficant, then when we try they tell us how hard it is, and to let them keep doing for us?

okiedokie · Nov 16, 2006 at 01:30 AM

Hi Dr. Clay,
Very interesting! Thanks for sharing.
Take care,
Sandy

okiedokie · Nov 16, 2006 at 01:47 AM

Hi,
You're right on the money -- that's what I do for a living! It really is part and parcel of your work, isn't it?

My tx plan for hypersensitivity really isn't all that impressive. The first thing I try to do is take care of myself physically: take the antidepressant, sleep, rest, good nutrition, exercise, work and fun. And not necessarily in that order. Welcome to Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting!

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But, I have to tell ya, it's quite a trapeze act without a net. For instance tonight, I'm exhausted having not slept last night, worked all day and school presentation tonight. My physical anxiety level all day today was really uncomfortable. I don't see a pdoc or a T and I'm sure you know why.

I'd love to hear your and other's suggestions as to how to better manage this. On days like this, I do remind myself that this too shall pass, but it's difficult knowing that years ago having suffered a major depression with psychotic features, that I could end up that sick again. It's my biggest fear.

Thank you. I appreciate this dialogue with you. I'll expect your bill in the mail! Welcome to Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting!

Sandy

drclay · Nov 16, 2006 at 12:59 PM

nothemama8:

I agree, this does seem like a mixed message. I guess I'd ask the helper why he/she sent conflicting messages. For example, What exactly did you mean about being self-sufficant? Can you give me some examples of what I could do?

Why did you tell me that it is so hard to help yourself? Was that encouragement to work hard? Was it a suggestion to start with easy chages? Was it trying to prepare me for some failures?

I'm wondering if you are pretty sure I can't get far trying to help myself? Are you feeling discouraged that you have to do lots of things for me? How long do you feel we will need to continue the counseling? What should we be doing in therapy?

Those are the kinds of things I'd like to talk about, if I were you.

drclay

drclay · Nov 16, 2006 at 02:01 PM

okiedokie:

Looks like a good plan. I'm a believer in exercise (I'm up at 5:00 and off to the "Y") and in meds to the extent needed and healthy food.

What about a direct attack on the tension by good sleep (Ch 4), reducing worries (Ch 5), relaxation (Ch 12), and meditation (Ch 12). Not all of them but the one that sounds the best to you. I'm just going to suggest you look these methods in my Chapter Indices. (I went to the book to get these URLs and then I lost the whole post--so I'll do it the easy way.)

I understand about the concern about depression returning. My only suggestion is to avoid the crises you can, stay as calm as you can (without worrying about it) and believe that in time the threat of feeling low will become less and less likely.

Nice talking with you. Let me know how you are doing. My bills are very high...but you can pay me in full by filling out a feedback form (see on first page). Welcome to Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting!

drclay

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okiedokie · Nov 16, 2006 at 09:34 PM

Thank you...chapters 4,5 & 12. I'm on it! I will provide feedback -- I missed that somehow. Dr. Clay, this is the best thing since sliced bread. Conversation with a PhD at no charge and no threat of physical harm. You can't see me and you can't touch me. Thank you for being there.
Sandy
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*Mindful · Nov 09, 2009 at 02:06 AM

This Forum is an excellent idea it will help me to focus on one thing that is positive and see it through... it might take me a while to get through a 1500 pages book i am a slow reader but i use the discipline of staying on track and get somewhere rather that being allover the place and get no where... i will try to have one positive thought everyday and post it... this will be my gift to myself for my birthday today... i am looking forward to meet all the members in this forum and mutually encourage each other bringing the best in all of us.

Mindfully yours!

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This should set you well on your way to a newer and deeper understanding of how to tame the thoughts, and emotions, and progress on the path to being the person we all want to be: our best self~! :-) your friend, Gus

Alluring Lady · 10:22 PM

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Michimu · Oct 14, 2011 at 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by drclay

To all the Welcomers:

Thanks for the warm welcoms and sometimes poetic comments. I'd like to welcome each of you with equal enthusiasm.

Several of you promised to read more of my book. You probably know that it is 1750 pages and growing. It may be better to think of it as a reference book that covers many topics. So, much of the book can be covered by just reading about topics you want to know about right now. Topics of interest can be found by going to the Chapter that interests you and then look for specific topics of interest in the Chapter Index. Or better yet, go to the search engine at the top of any page and type in the topic you are looking for.

For our purposes on this forum, it is probably best to discuss "how to change this behavior or feelings or thoughts" as if we were discussing a treating some problem rather than discussing the topics covered in a given Chapter. So, bring some problem to the forum that seems to be resisting change.

Please don't expect me to come up with the answers. My wife gave me a nice plaque that quotes Michelangelo: I am still learning.

Clay

I have a problem that so far resists change. I do not know if anything can be done about it,but here it is. I have always been ''Slow'' concerning micro-movements,such as typing,buttining shirts,even things I love doing. While employed,I was accused of not trying my utmost to ''get the project done''and I had tried to tell the boss that I am doing the best that I can. He thought I was lazy. I have always had to deal with this,and I fell as though my body's system rebels against what I intend for it to do. Sometimes the results are quite funny,sometimes annoying,as in the case of maintaining employment.Is there a way to gain speed without making a mess of things?

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