Help with hoarding

Buffy01 · Jun 07, 2018 at 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Im still chipping away. I dont want to die and leave a big mess for somebody to clean up! Otoh, i dont want to get rid of everything without ever having used it. I have an IDEA of maybe taking some things to goodwill this friday. I have the next 3 days clear with no appointments, and im feeling pretty good, so im gonna try to make a dent in the laundry and also now that my knee is better, get some walking clothes together (shorts, socks, tshirts).

I understand! I have a niece who become upset if I buy something because I have so much stuff. But it is a great idea to donate.

Buffy01 · Jul 15, 2018 at 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by htoun

I have a goal but keep getting side tracked with life. I'm starting to do things again but it's frustrating. I have to get better at follow through as I have half finished projects every where. There are still two bags of donations in my bedroom and two in the hall. I just haven't had the energy to load them up and take them away. Hopefully I can get them dealt with soon

Don't feel to had because I am the same way. I just bought some more stuff for my room and there is no room.

htoun · Jul 16, 2018 at 08:36 PM

still haven't taken any of the bags away. The Dr changed up my thyroid meds so I'm hoping that will help with the awake and alert problem. I hate feeling this tired and blaah.

Buffy01 · Jul 19, 2018 at 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by htoun

still haven't taken any of the bags away. The Dr changed up my thyroid meds so I'm hoping that will help with the awake and alert problem. I hate feeling this tired and blaah.

I completely understand! The heat is what drains my energy because of how hot it been. Even with the storms and rain.

rechu · Sep 21, 2018 at 05:44 AM

My husband and I have been working on decluttering for about the past two months. I wouldn't say our house is at the level of a hoarder's, but there is definitely clutter we need to get rid of. We should be buying a new house in the next few months, so this will give us less to move.

Most weekends we focus on one area to not get overwhelmed. We don't have time during the week usually. We just had a five-day weekend for our national holidays, which gave us some time to really advance. My husband finally recognized that he has a bunch of papers accumulated from classes he took years ago, which he wasn't going to look at again. He got rid of three huge binders of them, which was good progress for him. He definitely can have a tough time throwing things out.

The bedroom closet is this weekend's goal.

Buffy01 · Sep 22, 2018 at 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by rechu

My husband and I have been working on decluttering for about the past two months. I wouldn't say our house is at the level of a hoarder's, but there is definitely clutter we need to get rid of. We should be buying a new house in the next few months, so this will give us less to move.

Most weekends we focus on one area to not get overwhelmed. We don't have time during the week usually. We just had a five-day weekend for our national holidays, which gave us some time to really advance. My husband finally recognized that he has a bunch of papers accumulated from classes he took years ago, which he wasn't going to look at again. He got rid of three huge binders of them, which was good progress for him. He definitely can have a tough time throwing things out.

The bedroom closet is this weekend's goal.

I might get a new bed set and all I have the one mattresses from this old bed. Already the thought of getting rid of this mattress is already cause anxiety attack

rechu · Sep 24, 2018 at 01:17 PM

We went through clothes over the weekend and got rid of some. My husband had a hard time with his sweaters for some reason and kept a few that I have never seen him wear. Still, we managed to fill a medium-sized garbage bag of things. I set it up next to the dumpster yesterday and it was gone this morning. People generally will take clothes you leave out like that and sell it at flea markets and such.

I still need to address the mess of shoes on the closet floor next. I'm thinking of buying a shoe organizer. I also think there are some things that need to be gone through on the upper shelf.

Buffy01 · Sep 25, 2018 at 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by 88Butterfly88

You said you donated the clothes, that's great. Maybe knowing your donation can help someone can make you feel less guilty.

For a long time I had trouble donating clothes and now because of where I live they are making it harder to donate clothes. I try to think about it th a way if I can help out one homeless person who need clothes than I giving something out to the world that good.

Buffy01 · Sep 25, 2018 at 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by rechu

We went through clothes over the weekend and got rid of some. My husband had a hard time with his sweaters for some reason and kept a few that I have never seen him wear. Still, we managed to fill a medium-sized garbage bag of things. I set it up next to the dumpster yesterday and it was gone this morning. People generally will take clothes you leave out like that and sell it at flea markets and such.

I still need to address the mess of shoes on the closet floor next. I'm thinking of buying a shoe organizer. I also think there are some things that need to be gone through on the upper shelf.

Your doing better than me. I'm still struggling to get rid of something.

rechu · Sep 26, 2018 at 06:09 AM

Thanks Buffy! I definitely know it's not easy. For me getting started was the worst part. I kept procrastinating.

rechu · Sep 28, 2018 at 05:44 AM

I ordered a shoe organizer and it arrived yesterday. I cleaned out all the bottom of the closet, threw out an old comforter and old shoes, etc., swept it all out and then put the shoes in place. It looks so much better!

Buffy01 · Sep 28, 2018 at 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by rechu

Thanks Buffy! I definitely know it's not easy. For me getting started was the worst part. I kept procrastinating.

I just want to keep everything!

Buffy01 · Sep 28, 2018 at 06:59 AM

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Originally Posted by rechu

I ordered a shoe organizer and it arrived yesterday. I cleaned out all the bottom of the closet, threw out an old comforter and old shoes, etc., swept it all out and then put the shoes in place. It looks so much better!

Wow! I have one myself! I still struggle struggling to get rid of old things.

unaluna · Sep 28, 2018 at 07:59 PM

Hey, i cleaned out my shoe closet this week too! I have a big bag to donate, and i wrote descriptions on the boxes that didnt have them, about half.

hvert · Oct 20, 2018 at 05:40 AM

A family member passed away a few months ago and I had to clean out his hoard. Some of what I found was pretty incredible. I have taken truckloads to the dump, recycling center, charities, given away a lot - and still wound up with a room full of stuff in my house. At first it was packed in so tightly I couldn't even get in. I have made a lot of progress and now mostly just have boxes lining the walls, but it feels slow. I had a hard time throwing out his socks the other day.

Anyway, since having to deal with all of his stuff, I have been more likely to throw out my own stuff. I read that the Swedish Death Cleaning method tells you to ask yourself 'does this object have meaning to anyone but me?' I have found that helpful as I sort through things.

Buffy01 · Oct 20, 2018 at 06:32 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Hey, i cleaned out my shoe closet this week too! I have a big bag to donate, and i wrote descriptions on the boxes that didnt have them, about half.

That great! I'm happy you are doing so well.

Buffy01 · Oct 20, 2018 at 06:35 AM

[QUOTE=hvert;6307809]A family member passed away a few months ago and I had to clean out his hoard. Some of what I found was pretty incredible. I have taken truckloads to the dump, recycling center, charities, given away a lot - and still wound up with a room full of stuff in my house. At first it was packed in so tightly I couldn't even get in. I have made a lot of progress and now mostly just have boxes lining the walls, but it feels slow. I had a hard time throwing out his socks the other day.

Anyway, since having to deal with all of his stuff, I have been more likely to throw out my own stuff. I read that the Swedish Death Cleaning method tells you to ask yourself 'does this object have meaning to anyone but me?' I have found that helpful as I sort through things.[/QUOTE

My sister is a hoarder and she is worse than me. Everything has meaning to me which make it harder for me.

rechu · Oct 23, 2018 at 09:27 AM

I did some work on the kitchen last weekend, clearing out some old dishes and containers we no longer use. I still need to face the closets.

Buffy01 · Nov 11, 2018 at 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by rechu

I did some work on the kitchen last weekend, clearing out some old dishes and containers we no longer use. I still need to face the closets.

I hear you! I went through my dresser and found shirt that I can't wear and had only worn once. So I put them into two bags one is keepsake and the other is donation. It was very difficult to do. My next door neighbor is a hoarder and he worst than me and is bad as one of my sister.

When I get a new bed frame it going to be hard to get rid of

rechu · Nov 14, 2018 at 09:08 AM

It looks like we are going to have to step up our efforts. We are probably going to be moving in 3-4 months if our plants work out, and we don't want to move a bunch of stuff we never use.

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htoun Member Member Since Feb 2016 Location: southern Ont. Canada Posts: 327 8 49 hugs given	Jul 16, 2018 at 08:36 PM #23 still haven't taken any of the bags away. The Dr changed up my thyroid meds so I'm hoping that will help with the awake and alert problem. I hate feeling this tired and blaah.
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rechu Magnate Member Since Apr 2016 Location: Somewhere in South America Posts: 2,343 8 1,070 hugs given	Sep 26, 2018 at 06:09 AM #30 Thanks Buffy! I definitely know it's not easy. For me getting started was the worst part. I kept procrastinating.
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rechu Magnate Member Since Apr 2016 Location: Somewhere in South America Posts: 2,343 8 1,070 hugs given	Sep 28, 2018 at 05:44 AM #31 I ordered a shoe organizer and it arrived yesterday. I cleaned out all the bottom of the closet, threw out an old comforter and old shoes, etc., swept it all out and then put the shoes in place. It looks so much better!
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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,980 (SuperPoster!) 13 69k hugs given	Sep 28, 2018 at 07:59 PM #34 Hey, i cleaned out my shoe closet this week too! I have a big bag to donate, and i wrote descriptions on the boxes that didnt have them, about half.
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rechu Magnate Member Since Apr 2016 Location: Somewhere in South America Posts: 2,343 8 1,070 hugs given	Oct 23, 2018 at 09:27 AM #38 I did some work on the kitchen last weekend, clearing out some old dishes and containers we no longer use. I still need to face the closets.
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rechu Magnate Member Since Apr 2016 Location: Somewhere in South America Posts: 2,343 8 1,070 hugs given	Nov 14, 2018 at 09:08 AM #40 It looks like we are going to have to step up our efforts. We are probably going to be moving in 3-4 months if our plants work out, and we don't want to move a bunch of stuff we never use.
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