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Default Sep 20, 2018 at 08:50 PM
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I am still struggling with hoarding. I still have anxiety at the thought of throw in away items I can't used or need anymore.any suggestions? I have a few months before I might get a new bed. It was the last thing bed my cat black magic curl up on before passing away. I already got rid of one mattress and soon the next mattress sometime in the end of this year or early next year. I know I have enough time from now until then to get ready. I still freaking out! Any suggestions?

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Here are links to 4 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of hoarding that hopefully may be of some help:

10 Things You Should Know About Compulsive Hoarding

The Genetics of Compulsive Hoarding

Compulsive Hoarding and 6 Tips to Help

Why We All Have Clutter and How to Get Rid of It

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Here are links to 4 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of hoarding that hopefully may be of some help:

10 Things You Should Know About Compulsive Hoarding

The Genetics of Compulsive Hoarding

Compulsive Hoarding and 6 Tips to Help

Why We All Have Clutter and How to Get Rid of It

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I been cleaning out more of my closet. I can almost close my closet by next year my closet should be organized.

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I have been declutter more in my sister bedroom.

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I have been really decluttering a lot out of my closet and and entertainment center I already pulled out half of my carpet from my bedroom

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I have been decluttering more of my bedroom

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Sounds like you are making progress. Don't think of it as giving up things. You are giving yourself the gift of more space. Some "stuff" just doesn't earn its keep. I'm a mild to moderate hoarder. But that's bad enough to make me feel like I'm drowning in stuff.

If you search for "decluttering" on YouTube, there are some inspiring videos. I actually hired a professional organizer. They're expensive, and I'm low income. Still, it was worth the money to me. I needed the emotional support to part with things.

Good luck whittling down your excess baggage. It actually takes some courage.
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Sounds like you are making progress. Don't think of it as giving up things. You are giving yourself the gift of more space. Some "stuff" just doesn't earn its keep. I'm a mild to moderate hoarder. But that's bad enough to make me feel like I'm drowning in stuff.

If you search for "decluttering" on YouTube, there are some inspiring videos. I actually hired a professional organizer. They're expensive, and I'm low income. Still, it was worth the money to me. I needed the emotional support to part with things.

Good luck whittling down your excess baggage. It actually takes some courage.
I been watching a lot of declutter lately on YouTube.

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Sounds like you are making progress. Don't think of it as giving up things. You are giving yourself the gift of more space. Some "stuff" just doesn't earn its keep. I'm a mild to moderate hoarder. But that's bad enough to make me feel like I'm drowning in stuff.

If you search for "decluttering" on YouTube, there are some inspiring videos. I actually hired a professional organizer. They're expensive, and I'm low income. Still, it was worth the money to me. I needed the emotional support to part with things.

Good luck whittling down your excess baggage. It actually takes some courage.
Thank you. I actually been watching a lot of decluttering on YouTube looking for better ways to clean.

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I’ve been working on my on my bedroom gotten rid of a lot of stuff

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Yaaay! That's big news. Good for you. As time passes, eventually you won't even remember a lot of what you let go of. Enjoy the space you have created. It's a nice gift you've given yourself.
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Yaaay! That's big news. Good for you. As time passes, eventually you won't even remember a lot of what you let go of. Enjoy the space you have created. It's a nice gift you've given yourself.
Thank you. I’ve done a lot especially since the pandemic started.

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I have been decluttering a lot in my bedroom especially lately

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I think I know what causing me to hoard.

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I think I know what causing me to hoard.
Would you care to elaborate? I hope the insight makes it easier for you to let go of what is not worth holding onto.
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Would you care to elaborate? I hope the insight makes it easier for you to let go of what is not worth holding onto.
I have realized that I feel guilty for getting rid of my stuff from other people like my parents

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I have realized that I feel guilty for getting rid of my stuff from other people like my parents
That can be a powerful reason to feel you have to hang on to things. Sometimes we keep a thing because we feel the peron who gave it would be hurt, if we didn't. That might be reason enough to keep a thing. But ask yourself if that is really true about each item you no longer really want. Usually, it isn't.

I'm very sentimental myself. It can be a struggle to balance that with being practical. Here's how I look at it: Clutter is like rocks in a backpack that I have to lug around. After a certain point, I get tired of "stuff" ruling my life. Every item I own requires a certain amount of maintenance. There is a limit to how much of my time and attention I want to devote to curating stuff. I've got better things to do. So have you.

You have made progress. Keep going, even a little bit at a time. It adds up. You'll like the result. Letting go of something that was given to you does not mean you've stopped loving the giver.
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