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Here is my problem today. Sometimes when overconfident, I find ways to discourage myself. I get depressed and don’t see why I should bother to rebuild myself or my esteem or why I should seek help doing that. Trying different ways of “following” behaviors of others, only to learn there were reasons I held my confidence close. Then I remind myself, an achievable goal is more productive than than something beyond my immediate reach.
I am a procrastinator, but hold onto my anxieties and fears only in small doses. Some people enjoy journaling in this regard. For me, writing is one of my least favorite things to do. I don’t care for journaling because I feel misunderstood with anything beyond a basic greeting or hand shake. If I do journal, I like to then transform a successful entry into something useful, productive or something nice to look at. That is the spark I love most. Whether that be a painting, a poem or sketch or other form of creative expression. Once done I get a feeling of accomplishment, thus building my own confidence in myself. Timing is very important to me. Time alone is also very important to me. If your body says, today is not a day to stick your head in a book, maybe your body has a point. After all, we are all connected in mind, body and spirit. Another thing, I can’t read your mind, so stop asking me to. My own mind, I am comfortable with. If I can’t create, I read. If I can’t read, I practice yoga. If I can’t yoga, I nap. If I can’t nap, I bike or spin. If I can’t bike I go for a walk. Personally, my outlets all manage different stressors(what may also be called triggers or triggering events)and I know I can be dark (and I can also be a dork) about it. If I am not in a state of mind where I want to explore my interests, I take a walk, I talk with someone, I talk with my 11 year old pup, Ember, or I practice a simple task with confidence. Your confidence is built within yourself and your own esteems. My priorities are to not let a minute of my life be taken from me and to be my own me. Everyday, I am my own example. Everyday, there is a you and there is a me. I am not forgiveness, but I practice forgiveness everyday and everyday I forgive myself too. My advice on confidence is more or less this. Don’t take on anything you can’t handle on your own. That is how I feel today. So here I’ve answered my own questions on confidence. Only on days that I am not practicing do I still feel like I am better (only a little more or less moody) than and able to build myself up again. I believe in me. |
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Hi! Great post! I really enjoyed how you emphasized the strong connection from our body , mind, and spirit and did not compartmentalize. It was helpful for me to read your post because it took away any shame or guilt one feels associated with their goals.
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How did you go about finding out which outlet helps with what stressor?
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Thanks prb32. What do you mean about removing yourself from guilt or shame? Are they different. Yes, I like to compartmentalize but am not organized enough to, yet. For me, breaking up my thoughts might be damaging. Idk, what do you think?
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Hi, what a good question? Personally, living among a family of busy individuals, I am someone who often needs to adjust my day to the needs of others. While there are certain activities that I preform on a regular basis, there are other activities that can only be performed according to the environment and my surroundings. I’m learning how to adjust to my environment to continue to practice the things I love. Create routines and maintain steady pace. Thats what helped me the most.
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There are also many well-written articles, blogs and discussions here in the Psych Central archives. I will post later with links.
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Here are a few readings for the earlier discussion:
Science Says This Is How to Break Any Bad Habit How to Build a New Habit — And Make it Stick 20 Tips to Tame Your Stress 4 Tips To Change the Way You Deal with Stress Natural Remedies for Dealing with Stress Welcome to the Habit Change forum Your best new habit in 2018 |
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As far as always being on the go, create routines and follow regular cues like a time of day with more or less traffic, church bells, set your own alarms, even heating a 10 minute pizza could provide structure to your day. The more habits that you create, the more you can focus on the task your working on. When out of the house- always make sure you are well fed. Bring a few snacks and know where local eateries are. Become a regular customer where you like to eat and take time to fuel yourself before studying and exercise (even if that is only walking to class). Put a bell on your bike or create a jingle with your keys, if it helps the time pass. Do less and take in more of your surroundings, but try not to be rude to others who enjoy silence. Those are my suggestions.
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