Worried about reverting

Oh, how much I can relate, @Stuck1nhead! .sadhug: Change is hard. I struggle with it as well. You're not alone. I can't really tell you what helped me because the truth is that I'm struggling with this right now. Perhaps a good suggestion, like @KD1980 has said, is to remind yourself WHY you're doing what you're doing. Sometimes we're so caught up in it that we forget the reasons why we're doing it. For example, if you want to lose weight, and you're following a diet, a good thing to do is to remind yourself every day that you're doing this for your own physical health and the reasons why you're doing it. I'm sure there are plenty of books and articles about will and patience as well. I'm so sorry I can't help you more Feel free to hit me up anytime, my dear, sweet friend! Don't you EVER give up! Keep fighting and keep rocking! Sending many safe, sweet, warm and WONDERFUL hugs to BOTH you and your Wife, Stuck1nhead!

First...please be easy on yourself. I don't know a single person, never met one, who has an easy time with change. Even if it's a positive change.


I do not believe in "lazy", I do believe that lack of ability to change indicates a sense of depression and being discouraged.


I want to say that you are so courageous to open up about your difficulty with making lasting changes.

You have explained to us in other threads that you are dealing with a number of issues. I think its important to prioritize your goals and to some degree tackle them one step at a time.Yes, for the sake of your health you can build healthy eating and exercise into your daily routine (your wife would have to join you on the eating plan most likely, but healthy eating is good for everyone).I have found that for me aerobic exercise (not a moderate stroll tho any excercise is good)is necessary for weight loss and it is mandatory for dealing with/preventing depression. Healthy eating doesn’t mean you have to get a diet booklet and follow particular recipes. Just cut way down on carbs and eat tons of veggies,fruits, skinned poultry and fish. Avoid red meat or trim,drain the fat off it. Try to fill half your plate w vegetables. There are very low cal treats available,like 40 calorie fudge popsicles. Start reading labels—look at the calorie counts on boxes. If you are a novice w nutrition, look at the weight watchers program. They are calling overweight the new smoking so your on the right track, and you DONT want to get or aggravate diabetes,not to mention all the other weight related problems.
Try to break things down , prioritize, and set achievable goals in steps so you dont feel overwhelmed and feel like giving up. Reward your self for reaching goals, something you and your wife enjoy for sticking to your exercise routine or losing a few pounds or whatever.
Your resolve to change is the most important thing as other posters have said. We’re with you!!!!Hugs.