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I am reading the secret. And no matter what you think of the law of attraction, I can't help but notice that to do what is required for that... I would need to take my life and turn it inside out. It occurs to me that much of the successes people have with the LOA is due to this abrupt change in their lives.
I would need to be: 1. Happy a lot. No or little negative thoughts. 2. Trusting. 3. Kind. 4. Unconcerned with my finances. 5. Grateful. 6. Basically, ignorant... knowledge isn't power... it is often misery. Someone once said that innocence is the lack of knowledge.. and I can't help but see that here. People become happy and joyful and because, they are kind of regressing into they way they were when they were children almost. But, whatever works works right? My current life being: 1. Unhappy and consumed with negative thoughts. 2. Untrusting and guarded. 3. Kind of mean. 4. Ungreatful 5. Obsessed with information - after all knowledge is power... but there is no doubt knowing things makes me worry about them. Is getting me on a first class ticket to misery town. But here is the question... CAN I DO IT? I am 48, is it possible to change your life like this at this age? |
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I do wish a lot that I could undo my entire life and start over doing a good job this time.No ,not possible in reality.But I can be content with what I am now.Life at present is what it is because of million things happened in the past.The ripple affect may continue into future IDK.I think acceptance is key here.I have read the secret too.Interesting book though.If we can accept our present reality we may sincerely see through the truths of us and others.That may result in new beginning.
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Hm-m-m-m... well... I don't know. I do believe this is possible. But, although I have tried to make significant changes in the way I lived my life in the past, I always ended up sinking back into the same old ruts. So I think, to some extent, it may depend on the person. Just because I couldn't do it doesn't mean it's not possible. And, actually, I would suspect being 48 might be a great time to do it. You're old enough to "know your way around the world", so to speak, but not so old that you've yet begun to run out of steam.
One problem I always had was I was married & my wife had expectations as to who I would be & how I would live my life. So I wasn't free to simply do whatever I wanted to do... or be the person I felt like I should have been. In your case, if you're not encumbered by family relationships, that may make it easier to simply throw caution to the wind & strive to become the person you believe you could be. I do think, if you want to try to evolve from the person you are now, now is the time to do it. It won't get easier the older you get. __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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Though I am not married with kids and I agree that would be much more difficult. Quote:
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All of that being said, I think perhaps the key is to do this slowly. One step at a time so people don't notice too much. |
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The appointment was great as well. The cleaner did a great job. There was one bad thing that they think I might have a problem with a root canal but I will see if I can put my mojo to work on that. When I got to work I keep giving out positive and kind vibes. Not in a weird way but if my friend complained I redirected the conversation to something we could be excited about and pointed out that maybe things could still go her way. We went and got coffee and sat on the ocean in front of my workplace. It was 78 degrees amazing sun, sitting on the ocean in a lovely table, and as I said, we are so lucky. Later on the subway my friend goes.. "man who gave you the positive pills today." I laughed and said, high on life. Before leaving work I said to myself, this trip home will be eventless and fine... and it was and in the car on the way home I said, when I arrive my cats eye will be better and, it was! It seems to be coming along. The thing is... acting this way was.. so far, an amazing boon. It is as if I had a weight taken off my chest. I feel like the universe is my friend not my enemy. I felt all day like I had a friend beside me... while normally I feel like the universe is out to get me. Instead of fearing walking into the house I wanted to get home. Instead of dreading the dentist I knew it was going to be a good session with a personable cleaner. Ok maybe I drank the kool aid and in a week this will be another fad but, got to say, it seemed like a pretty good day. |
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I believe fully in the ability to change your life. I have many times over. The problem with the secret and books like it are it are you can change your life. I was content in my 2nd marriage, I thought that was a bad thing. I had thoughts that came to pass. IT ruined my life. Thoughts do create our reality. Right now I'm working on a dream. I did when I was young but didn't follow through on the steps. I'm seeing if it works now that I'm 45. Opportunities do present themselves. You have to take them. I cracked my brain because I got spun out on all the avenues my life was taking. I'm trying not to the let that happen again. But yes our thoughts do create our reality. But there's more to it than that, and it can quickly get out of control.
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I have tried to incorporate more positive things into my life. That is a good thing. |
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Not for nothing but there are many reasons to and ways we can change our lives. One with our motivation and two without hesitation. I have the power to be a better me. I am glad you did not put in a resignation letter, because both your stability and ability are important to make changes to your life. But yes, I agree with your conclusion that small changes, slow and steady are most effective.
Working together with your very best means of positivity, we do act in a way that we can achieve what we want only when we know what we want and we make our own means of getting there. For example, I had a yelling fit today, yes I yelled and screamed, and I did not know what I was after. But I did figure that out in the process, all it took was the release of a little over the top energy. But I have a strong knowing of myself and a strong knowing of what I believe is wrong and unethical. Just a bit of a fit. No harm done. I live a life of non-violence but I could be a little more peaceful and patient with myself. One of my goals has always been to learn and understand things a little bit better and do what I can to be a better, more altruistic me. How can I do this before understanding myself? I sit alone pondering, in thought while the rest of the world remains in motion. I take my own time as needed, I try not to get in anyone's way, and I ask for help when I'm good and ready. Last edited by Anonymous40258; Sep 27, 2019 at 05:38 PM.. |
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In the last month I have been 1. slightly more happy. 2. slightly more trusting (and unfortunately it is looking like it bit me in the arse). 3. Much more unconcerned with finances and that has brought me joy. 4. Slightly more greatful... I often forget to be grateful. 5. Slightly more ignorant... it is so hard to avoid the news these days. |
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If you want to change any part of your life, you will when you are ready to change. Change is scary because the outcome we plan for cannot be guaranteed. So, you have to accept that risk comes with the desire to change. |
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I don't know but I believe the solution needs to be specific to you, to your pattern, rather than some general idealistic prescription.
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I believe it would depend on understanding your particular pattern and how it might change. If that happened to be the same as some generic lifestyle principles, that could be implemented by the self, then it could work.
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What do you believe? What are you telling yourself about change?
The answer you seek is inside you!! I could leave it at those two lines but I won't. Change happens all around us. Often we don't realize that change has happened. Take the temperature outside, that changes gradually, and if that changes, then we can TOO!!! Change is a constant. Figuring out what we believe is the best way to understand what our subconscious tells us. Then taking the time to write then read what we wrote on change can help us to see that change is possible. It sounds like you like reading. Look up Daniel Fisher, M.D. Ph.D., and Michelle Bengtson, both of them recovered from mental illness, for me Fisher's book was a blessing. Knowing that recovery is possible, that change happens helped me to understand that I'm not stuck in the medical model of mental illness. The medical model says that those with issues with mental health never recover. That is NOT true!!! Fisher and Bengtson proved that, and they are not the only ones. Change does happen. Science isn't the most helpful thing when it comes to behavior and connection. But that is my opinion. and It is NOT up for debate. We need to be vulnerable for change to happen. |
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