FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
Upwards and Onwards!
Member Since Mar 2010
Location: Kent, UK
Posts: 7,878
14 309 hugs
given |
#1
I need to get out of this depressive helplessness cycle.
I have realised I need to be responsible for my happiness That life is not worth living if you cannot be happy and have things to look forward to That as much as it will take a huge effort to get myself out of this hole, and quite frankly I would like validation from others regarding my achievement, if isn't about others, it is about me I genuinely need to love myself and do things that are "selfish"; good for me without always second guessing myself about how it will affect others. I tend to then not make many decisions at all. I am looking for a self help book that can assist me in changing my mindset - has anyone got anything they can recommend? __________________ "I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
Reply With Quote |
unaluna
|
childofchaos831
|
Wise Elder
Member Since Mar 2009
Location: 8CS / NYS / USA
Posts: 9,153
15 885 hugs
given |
#2
Quote:
that said what I can tell you is that there are some great book sites online I cant recommend one specific site because psych central does have a rule of not posting other sites for the specific purpose of sending members to those sites, but I can tell you that if you use google and type in the words depression self help books you will find lots of websites where you can preview a variety of self help books that you and your treatment provider can match to your specific needs and what you want to focus on. That said if you are instead asking or would like to know what books …...I ...have found helpful for ………..my own...……….self help and treatment I can tell you that ………...for me...………...The Self Love workbook is one of my go to books as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy 7, also Anxiety, Worry and depression workbook, Mind over Mood 2nd edition all come in handy for helping …………..me...………. |
|
Reply With Quote |
Upwards and Onwards!
Member Since Mar 2010
Location: Kent, UK
Posts: 7,878
14 309 hugs
given |
#3
Yes, I would appreciate what books you have found helpful
I know every person struggles with different things, but there have to be some self help books that address "helplessness" when it comes to depression especially, how to get yourself out of that rut and start loving yourself, living life and being happy __________________ "I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
Reply With Quote |
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#4
I would type those search terms into Amazon.com, and see what book suggestions populate for you, sugarhorse1. No one can possibly know what book is best for you. Or, check your local library and do the same thing; enter search terms about what you wrote in your OP and see what book suggestions come up. That's a good starting point.
|
Reply With Quote |
sugahorse1
|
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#5
- "Do it" lets get off our butts: great book, it is mostly great quotes. Still good. The author died of AIDS and wrote it when he knew he was dying but you would never know.
- the power of now: The most life changing book I ever read. Some parts are hard to get through. Gives you an entirely new way of looking at the world. - full catastrophe living: Really long book from someone who knows what he is talking about. Almost none of the book is waste. Mostly mindfulness book but has some great parts that changes the way you are looking at things. - The Secret (though I prefer that on an audio book): goes to a belief (and there are tons of books about this) that YOU create your world. That your mind creates realty. Rhonda Byrne is a very positive person but she is such a cheerleader that by the time you are done you will believe it. - How the secret changed my life. Basically a book of testimonials about how using the secret resulted in positive things. Very entertaining and inspirational. |
Reply With Quote |
sugahorse1
|
Upwards and Onwards!
Member Since Mar 2010
Location: Kent, UK
Posts: 7,878
14 309 hugs
given |
#6
Thanks Emily, I have read The Secret once upon a a time. It probably is going to be useful, but maybe I'm not quite in the right space to be able to tackle something as "Motivating" as that, because it requires a lot of willpower from yourself. I'm not quite there yet. I think I actually do have the book somewhere at home.
I have never learnt about mindfulness to be honest. Maybe I should try The Power Of Now - it sounds familiar. __________________ "I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
Reply With Quote |
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#7
I might try that one first. I suppose for me, spoiler alert, that book was the first time that someone came out and said, paraphrasing, you have a little troubled passenger in your head that wants to hurt you. The author calls it the "ego" and states that the ego is what drives to pain and suffering. Most people are not aware of this situation and are therefore "highly associated" with the ego. So the ego controls you. But once you realize you don't need to listen to it... that you can just acknowledge that it is there and pat it on the head and say -- nice try - you get less associated with it and can be happier and more calm.
So when you are worrying about something thinking "I won't be able to do this" you can stop and step back and say, wait a minute, that is my ego talking, I don't have to listen to that voice in my head. Nice try ego. After reading it I saw clearly that the most toxic people around me were all highly reactive and you could tell they were completely associated with the ego. Agree about the Secret but I just find Rhonda Byrne so motivating... like a cheerleader. |
Reply With Quote |
Upwards and Onwards!
Member Since Mar 2010
Location: Kent, UK
Posts: 7,878
14 309 hugs
given |
#8
I need to get out of a cycle of learned helplessness. I need to drive my own life and happiness, and sometimes I need a motivational kick up the butt to get going
__________________ "I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
Reply With Quote |
Moderator
Community Support Team Member Since Mar 2006
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 11,334
18 76 hugs
given |
#9
There are a couple of books that have really helped me.
Mind over Mood, either 1'st or 2nd edition is fine. It's designed to be worked through on your own, but is also used in most Cognitive Behavioural Therapy groups here in Toronto. It addresses 2 issues depression and anxiety, so you pick the exercises that are relevant to you. The Mindful Way through Depression, by Siegal et al. It's a good intro to mindfullness as well as practical help for depression. I second Full Catastrophy Living. But I found when I was depressed, I couldn't concentrate on it enough to get through it - it's pretty dense. I like the easier to read "Wherever you go there you are." by Kabat-Zinn (Same author) as it's a kinder gentler intro to mindfulness. splitimage |
Reply With Quote |
LilyMop, sugahorse1
|
Elder Harridan x-hankster
Member Since Jun 2011
Location: Milan/Michigan
Posts: 40,109
(SuperPoster!)
12 66.9k hugs
given |
#10
"Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents" by Lindsay C. Gibson
Start reading this book for free: http://a.co/7TvqWmD |
Reply With Quote |
LilyMop, sugahorse1
|
Upwards and Onwards!
Member Since Mar 2010
Location: Kent, UK
Posts: 7,878
14 309 hugs
given |
#11
Thank you everyone!
__________________ "I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
Reply With Quote |
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#12
I really like Melody Beattie's books on codependency. They have helped me a lot.
|
Reply With Quote |
Reply |
|