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Old 01-01-2021, 02:19 PM   #251
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Default January One Twenty Twenty One

It's funny that all this fresh year stuff is entirely made up by human line drawing. Anyway, to launch my year I've begun a practice I learned about from a sermon maybe 30 years ago. He said open your year with generosity and write your first checks as gifts to organizations you care about. He encouraged writing checks so the process could be drawn out and savored.

I just made two gifts, one I did via paypal and the other I wrote a check. DONE

In the process I noticed that a loan we thought we'd paid off twice in December showed a Zero balance AND 98 due. Confusing. So I called their service line and we had a friendly chat. She put in yet another payment and booted this to a loan officer for resolution. Ha, first day of the year and I find a flaw or bug in a system.

Most excellent start.
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Old 01-01-2021, 04:42 PM   #252
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I liked the idea. I wrote two checks to charities. Now - a little writing, a little laundry, and it will be a lovely day. Talked to my kid on the phone. She's doing a scrapbook of 2020. Very cool. I offered to help, and then found out that there's not much I can do for her. She's way better at this than I am.

Okay, happy new year.
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Old 01-03-2021, 09:32 PM   #253
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First, finding flaws.

I spent lots of time in 2020 looking for flaws in social logic. There's plenty. One current one is the c-vax is not fully tested. Many "front line" health mishmash (usually called a 'system.' Ha, that's a flaw right there) workers are refusing the vax. But, these vaxxes are as sound as any, just accelerated through the standard 3 rounds of trials.

But the three so far:
1. My Credit Union showed a balance due of both Zero and 98. Twice we thought we'd paid it off in December only to find a pesky balance showing up. We could call this 3 flaws, cept it probably is the same one.
2. I watched an Amazon delivery man place a box at a building in which clearly is still being constructed. I got it and walked the 5 houses down the street and delivered it to the right address.
3. My partner signed up for what she thought was a one-time support payment on Change.org only to see that they were going to take a monthly donation to Change. Figured out how to cancel but to my mind, they have the staff, the time, & ways to test, so it was a flaw (or intentional) that it happened at all.

Now for failures: So many. What got me to thinking about this was a blogger's project to collect failure stories. Also, Stanford University has a Failure Project, and my local university when it allows students on campus mimicked S.U. a couple of years and had their own failure project. I think it might help me to confess a few.

1. I pulled myself out of line for getting my drivers license while in high school. During drivers ed, I got distracted by a question from the instructor and swerved. Totally spooked me that maybe I wasn't ready for the scanning attention required.
2. When I did want my license, I overreached and tried to pass with a manual transmission. Failed that way 3 times. Finally passed with an automatic.
3. One day while working as a lowly instructor at the local university, I lost it in front of 100 students. I see now that had something to do with irritability while maN*x.
4. During another Man*c/grieving episode lost tens of thousand of dollars in wild market speculations.
5. At the very first time I was running an adult ed class on creativity, I didn't notice the operation had 2 locations. Got dropped off (before I had my license) at the 'other' location without a means of getting to the right one (no cell, building dark and locked).

That's just five. I'm exhausted.

Donald Hall, when commenting on Casey at Bat's 100th anniversary and the many sequels it inspired where Casey hits the ball out of the park:
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None of the triumphant sequels will do. None show the flair of Thayer's ballad, its vigorous bumpety heptameter and mostly well-earned rhymes, or its consistently overplayed language. Most important, none celebrates failure. Casey may strike out: Casey's failure is the poem's success.
Perhaps my own failures are my life's successes. This should keep m'ed spinning a bit.

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They always say that we learn more from our failures than we do from our successes. I've certainly learned from my mistakes, but apparently I haven't made them all.
My challenges are to learn how to use Twitter - I know the basics, but there's so much I don't know. My second big challenge - to get myself to move more. COVID has shut down my swimming and gym workouts. Walking is rough on my foot, but I'm going to do it anyway. I'm getting so stagnant. Apparently, the drought is still with us, so I'll go out today.
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I spoke/wrote too soon. The sky was dark gray as I walked out the door, and I was walking back with a cold wind and some rain in my face. Still, it felt good to get out.
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De, keep searching for the right exercise.

Yeah, those third-party proverbs about failure are suitable for compost. When I cross my failures I feel pain in my gut. These are not private "I didn't complete a crossword" failures. I had witnesses. 100 in the university case. Many friends for the driving. I disappointed a whole class of people I didn't know by not showing up. Embarrassment, shame, disappointed in myself.

"Lessons" feels like these can be equated with learning 12 x 12 = 144. Ha!

Shake, onto my day of errands. But first, breakfast.
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Interesting that you brought up the pain of failure. I find I can handle the pain better when there's some success mixed in with the failure. But - this is weird - when I think about my life, I mostly remember the embarrassing moments, the times I've hurt and disappointed people. The times I've been wrong. I know I done good things too. Why can't I remember them.?
I think failure is hardest to handle for those who had a lot of success early on. I was smart, got good grades, behaved. Then, after college, suddenly no one was interested. And I see a lot of young people going through the same thing - they hit that point - usually somewhere around twenty - when suddenly life is smacking them down instead of supporting them. I think of all the child stars that end up on drugs and in all kinds of trouble. Some do okay, but a lot of them don't.
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Looking out to February I have several things I'll be putting some steps on every day.
  1. Working on my meeting support project
  2. Facilitating two fun workshops. A. On Liz Lerman's Critical Response Process. B. On 'The cull of the wild' about letting go of what no longer serves.
  3. State and city taxes to complete by end of January. One gave an extension. Not going to use it.
  4. Yuck list: visit to dentist.

Plenty.
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Suddenly, this website has a ton of ads and links I don't want to click on.

On the happy side, my kid got her second COVID vaccine shot, and my MIL gets her first in a few days. Yay!

Me - just same - o same -o. When we're done sheltering, I want to visit Dawson City, Canada. In the summer, of course.
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Yeah, i noticed the ads, too. I guess a way to keep it free to us users and keep the lights on.

Just reminded myself of ways to save time when reading nonfiction: skip the opening chapters. These are the horror stories and the review of the history of the problem under discussion. Don't need that, I understood what the book was about from the title.

Sometimes I read from the last chapter back till I feel i got enough of their solution tips to shut the book.

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