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Revu2 · Feb 15, 2023 at 11:19 AM

Day 11 is to attend more to hunches and intuitions.

Day 12, begin practice of 1 sentence journaling.

2/15 j: Feeling ready to invoke the spirit of Solon as guide/model for my challenges in my condo association. But yucky, but learning anything is always a bit lucky. From Yuck to Luck. Beautiful day.

Revu2 · Feb 17, 2023 at 05:58 PM

Today's tip involved using a simple coin toss to assist with raising your intuition into awareness. I believe Freud used this method, but he was not credited in the clip.

Especially good when it seems divergent paths have equal weights and you can't decide. So, set option A as heads; B as tails, and flip a coin. Look at the result and then track your reaction to the result! So if it lands Heads and you feel down, then intuitively B had an edge. Also, if it lands Heads and you are thrilled, then A had the edge.

SF story: "In citation after citation, folks write that that Freud sometimes surprised people struggling to make decisions in life with a suggestion that they flip a coin. Then Freud would say (in quotes), “Then look into your own reactions. Ask yourself: Am I pleased? Am I disappointed?”

Seems good enough to allow for now, though doubts exists whether SF did and said such a thing.

Revu2 · Feb 18, 2023 at 11:45 AM

Feels like I'm being offered back to consciousness tips and tricks I've known about and tried. Probably because I did read Luck Factor maybe 16.28 years ago.

This sets up well for posing a question to the I Ching tomorrow. It's about waves of high stakes life/work challenges. I call it the trials of Yü the Great. The task of asking a question would be getting it 8 words or less. This alone is a meditation.

How do I open myself to work-easing help, people, and tools? 11 w

How do I welcome all people and things that will ease this work? 13

What is the sacred way from Overwhelm to Cake Walk? 10

Help me attune to the Serendipity I need. 8
r

Revu2 · Feb 19, 2023 at 10:11 AM

Tap N2 N2ition:
Decide what you want to do:
Stop
Feel
Act

That's all for today.

Revu2 · Feb 21, 2023 at 01:03 PM

I answered the questions in this quiz (attached) and my average landed around 77%. Generally good. Probably higher depending on how I interpret "out of town friends visiting." How far is out of town? Do they mean staying overnight? So I scored 50% on that due to confusion. If I "call it" and say it means from beyond the borders of the city and simply meeting for a meal or show, then its nearly 100.

Revu2 · Feb 22, 2023 at 10:26 AM

Good vibrations ... today flip the switch on positive expectations ... use imagination, example stories, random stuff to keep expectations high.

I'm talking about

Revu2 · Feb 26, 2023 at 11:14 AM

Try: I am a lucky person and today will be a lucky day!

I can be even luckier in the future.

I deserve good luck and I will receive some luck today.

mine: I'll have to content myself with being luckier than I deserve. (nod to Jane Austen).

Revu2 · Feb 27, 2023 at 09:47 AM

Setting lucky goals. Gentle & reachable.

Main areas: work, health, relationships, self care, peer 'talk story.'

Lucky goal #1 - Would LOVE to get a Daily 5 min talk story partner. Have been without a steady, reliable and equally into it partner for this for years. I have spotty sessions but nothing as steady as I want.

I want to happen magically as any new complexity sends me into tilt.

Revu2 · Mar 01, 2023 at 10:16 AM

CBA - divide a sheet, one side costs, other benefits. List, compare, then there you are.

Another method that I've taught is the pro-con balance sheet. Bit deeper as you can cancel off matching parts and arrive at "net" decision keyed to what's left after the elimination round.

Revu2 · Mar 03, 2023 at 10:47 AM

Off we go to Stonehenge on day 21 for a live stream of the sunrise there on the summer solstice. Pleasant sort of intermission, with the spirit of centering and declaring our goals at such times goads luck our way.

Day 22, Visualize luck. Not much more to add. Looked at the total views in the last 2 years: 26 people.

Revu2 · Mar 04, 2023 at 12:30 PM

aka Seek the Treasure in the Trash

Turning bad luck to good: Tips
1. Think of how things could be worse.
2. Does the unlucky event really matter?
2a. Reframe: from "not the best interview (sad feeling") to "Well, I got in a real-time practice and probably this wasn't a great fit for me anyway."
3. Compare situation to someone seemingly less fortunate.

Revu2 · Mar 05, 2023 at 12:39 PM

What great things might happen out of this misfortune.

Own example still leaves a residue of if only hadn't X happened and I could have pulled off my plan.

So, quick summary, I happened to let myself run into overdrive mania and lost $20,000 of money I could not afford to lose manically trading options. I was new to options and had had overwhelming success paper trading. Feeling like Dostoevsky writes of. I commented on this in a book I wrote for boards of directors. Mr. D's comments in red.

Escalating situations resemble gambling. Though a gambler might play dozens of spins of the wheel at the roulette table in an evening, after the initial decision to play at all, subsequent bets are not genuine decisions, merely a continuation of that first commitment. Dostoevsky described this moment before the plunge in The Gambler:

I confess that my heart was pounding in my breast and that I didn’t feel at all cool and detached; probably I had felt for a long time already that I would leave Roulettenberg a different man and that something was about to happen which would radically and irrevocably change my life. I felt that it was bound to happen.

One can see in another Dostoevsky passage what Janis called overestimation:

I believe I had something like four thousand gulden in my hands within five minutes. That’s when I should have quit. But a funny feeling came over me, some sort of desire to challenge Fate, an uncontrollable urge to stick my tongue out at it, to give it a flip on the nose.

Note the “funny feeling” Dostoevsky’s gambler gets. Here literature points to a facet of escalation some researchers miss—there exists something in the emotion-action-results process of persistent gambling which feeds a hunger beyond material success or failure. The gambler, confronted with losing at the wheel, dice, horses, cards, etc., confronts reality’s mismatch to his or her intense feelings of confidence. He or she attempts to regain both the confident feeling of precognition and external success by increasing his or her betting. The gambler continues until all is lost.

Yup. From this crash, I secluded myself as much as I could manage and keep earning money. Externally, just a few people knew of my disastrous trading. BUT, Phoenix guided me to looking at drastically saving money. My original intent was to trade well enough to pay off the mortgage and then keep trading to save enough to travel the world. Well, I abandoned traveling the world and focused closely on paying off the mortgage.

It was then I noticed a flue in the financial patchwork (system grants too much thought to the interactions of financial organizations). Our main mortgage (mtg) was $130 K. Our secondary mortgage line of credit was $50K. What if we pulled out $80K from our savings (including retirement accounts) and paid down the $130 K to $50 K. Then borrow the $50 K from the secondary mortgage, pay off the main mortgage to $Zero, and pay back the 2nd mtg as fast as we could. The 2nd mtg had 2 great features: 1) the total was lower so any interests added would be lower; and 2) the interest rate was lower as well.

Well, we did all of that, after acknowledging we were screwed if a dramatic life event needed lots of money.

Two funny things happened. First when we deposited the $80,000 against the main mtg our credit union gave us a friendly call. Apparently they had never seen anyone do that before and wanted to double check.

After another 3 years of paying down the principal on the 2nd mtg, we went to the credit union for the last payment. Apparently, interest accrued by the second, so we had a couple of funny rounds where our transfer to pay it off returned with a few pennies of balance still due. We had to say, figure out the final balance in 5 minutes, and pay that. They said next time to give them a heads up and they would have it figured out before we arrive. Next time? Not in this lifetime!

Monthly housing payments before paying it off: $900 a month for 18 remaining years. Minimum payments for the 2nd mtg paydown: $160 per month. Monthly payments now: zero. We're still on the hook for property taxes which run under $80 a month because we qualify for the lower income exemption/benefit.

So, Phoenix, thank you.

Revu2 · Mar 06, 2023 at 09:30 PM

This day for review. Currently I'm feeling lucky in these ways.

Lucky I'm here. Walking & waking under my own powers.
Lucky I get chances to excel.
Lucky I connected with a film critic who has invited me to a class on film criticism.
Lucky that the Annual conference for writers, AWP, is in my home town again. 16000 writers. It requires steady stamina and intentional bed times (which I usually don't bother with).
Lucky today that I stumbled upon an historical novel about Hamilton's wife. Which gave me an idea for what to write about at a scene writing workshop I plan to attend at the conf.
Lucky that my brother knew my mother's finances very well and has been dealing swiftly with sharing out the estate. Wasn't our experiences dealing with our dad's money.
Lucky I trust myself to handle tax returns and so have finished my partnership's and my own for 2022.

Revu2 · Mar 07, 2023 at 08:27 AM

Used the orange circle in the middle of two sets of black circles. One was inside BIG black dots, and the other inside small black dots. They do look different. A way to show that how one sees an event guides how one thinks about luck.

Revu2 · Mar 08, 2023 at 10:34 AM

1. Assume you Can Do something.
2. Do something NOW about the challenge.
3. Build a menu of options of what to do (search, talk, doodle)
4. Select best options for you
5. Begin and keep on with small steps.

Enjoy the trip back to the land of Good Luck.

Revu2 · Mar 12, 2023 at 12:10 PM

Shamash is returning to the 4 principles to close out. Today was the First:

build a network
take a more relaxed attitude to things/life
open self to new experiences.

Revu2 · Mar 14, 2023 at 01:13 PM

No Sound! Thought something was off with my computer.

Slides, though: Listen to hunches; take steps to boost intuition.

Revu2 · Mar 14, 2023 at 01:19 PM

Lucky people expect to be 'fortunate' in the future. Think that things will work out for them or possibly things could have been much worse. Have a go at achieving their goals even if chances of success appear slim.

Expect to get on well with others.
Try affirmations ... today is going to be another lucky day.
Set lucky goals, short, medium, and long term lucky goals.
If luck is on my side ... I have a good chance.
Pro/Con Balance sheet (cost-benefit analysis).
Visualize good fortune

Revu2 · Mar 15, 2023 at 10:37 AM

Let's roll off this series with these tips:

Lucky people see the beneficial side of bad luck
Lucky people believe ill fortune will turnaround for the best
Lucky people don't dwell on bad luck
Lucky people take steps to make bad luck a one-off event

And with this, I'm recharged to get luckier. So far, I've met 2 fantastic young women, one who wanted to hold a film discussion group and another who is convening regular groups to discuss the I Ching.

I'm lucky to have a past of serious activism facing off against people given enormous powers by the mishmash: politicians of various sorts and greedy corporation leaders.

I'm lucky to trust my own ability to make sense of laws, codes, rulings, and structures.

I'm lucky that for anything I want to do there's a blog, podcast, and book about it.

Goodbye luck series, hello LUCK!

Revu2 · Jun 15, 2023 at 11:07 AM

Awoke with a rare span of time to reflect while still in bed. Cataloged all the ways I feel exhausted. An exhausted list of exhausting. A tired list of fatiguers.

After some deep breathing, I invited Spirit to offer some ways to cope: and it did. Here are some:

1. Welcome all Helpers and Assistants.
2. Set when to stop on a task: a. get to a base. b. covered a distance. c. time runs out.
3. Hide the Rest. (like the pun on this one). Pad my planning with a fatter buffer. Say I have a meeting @ 7 pm and travel time is about an hour. Leave 2 hours before and 'rest while in motion' for an hour. Find a coffee shop to read an article. Get off the bus a stop or 2 before or after the one I need and walk about. Take an unusual path to get to where I'm going. Sit on a park bench and breathe.

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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Feb 15, 2023 at 11:19 AM #21 Day 11 is to attend more to hunches and intuitions. Day 12, begin practice of 1 sentence journaling. 2/15 j: Feeling ready to invoke the spirit of Solon as guide/model for my challenges in my condo association. But yucky, but learning anything is always a bit lucky. From Yuck to Luck. Beautiful day. __________________
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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Feb 19, 2023 at 10:11 AM #24 Tap N2 N2ition: Decide what you want to do: Stop Feel Act That's all for today. __________________
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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Feb 22, 2023 at 10:26 AM #26 Good vibrations ... today flip the switch on positive expectations ... use imagination, example stories, random stuff to keep expectations high. I'm talking about __________________
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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Feb 26, 2023 at 11:14 AM #27 Try: I am a lucky person and today will be a lucky day! I can be even luckier in the future. I deserve good luck and I will receive some luck today. mine: I'll have to content myself with being luckier than I deserve. (nod to Jane Austen). __________________
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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Mar 01, 2023 at 10:16 AM #29 CBA - divide a sheet, one side costs, other benefits. List, compare, then there you are. Another method that I've taught is the pro-con balance sheet. Bit deeper as you can cancel off matching parts and arrive at "net" decision keyed to what's left after the elimination round. __________________
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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Mar 03, 2023 at 10:47 AM #30 Off we go to Stonehenge on day 21 for a live stream of the sunrise there on the summer solstice. Pleasant sort of intermission, with the spirit of centering and declaring our goals at such times goads luck our way. Day 22, Visualize luck. Not much more to add. Looked at the total views in the last 2 years: 26 people. __________________
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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Mar 07, 2023 at 08:27 AM #34 Used the orange circle in the middle of two sets of black circles. One was inside BIG black dots, and the other inside small black dots. They do look different. A way to show that how one sees an event guides how one thinks about luck. __________________
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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Mar 08, 2023 at 10:34 AM #35 1. Assume you Can Do something. 2. Do something NOW about the challenge. 3. Build a menu of options of what to do (search, talk, doodle) 4. Select best options for you 5. Begin and keep on with small steps. Enjoy the trip back to the land of Good Luck. __________________
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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Mar 12, 2023 at 12:10 PM #36 Shamash is returning to the 4 principles to close out. Today was the First: build a network take a more relaxed attitude to things/life open self to new experiences. __________________
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Revu2 Grand Member Member Since Aug 2013 Posts: 856 11 4 hugs given	Mar 14, 2023 at 01:13 PM #37 No Sound! Thought something was off with my computer. Slides, though: Listen to hunches; take steps to boost intuition. __________________
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