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Why not have a day of being nice? A day where everyone who is mean no matter how small, gets thrown in jail because for 24 hours we HAVE to be nice. Why is it easier for us to be mean than it is to be nice? Someone once asked me: What makes you happy? Besides my children, helping other people, making things less stressful for them. I had just helped someone with something and they could see the smile on my face from doing so. It feels good to be nice. The reward is... Rewarding!
I am not sure why, but we have learned to become so negative while being positive brings out the negative attributes in someone else. As if (me) being nice had some kind of malicious intention behind it. No. Some of us are actually just nice. It's harder for me to be mean than to be nice but will anyone believe that I am just naturally nice. Sure I have been walked on, stepped on, and even stomped on, but that didn't take away from who I am and I am just that forgiving too. We all have had tragedies that have been so devastating, and even though it feels like we won't be able to pull through - guess what? We do. If we didn't have the bad, we wouldn't understand the good. I guess you can say that I have had it with feeling sorry for myself and wanting to give up on humanity. People suck, but not all is us do. It sucks that I have to go through the pain and suffering like everybody else, I am only human. It sucks even more that there aren't too many people like me left. I hope I am wrong and there are other people who can be happy when they help an old lady across the street, or a lady with her grocery bags, or lend an ear to a stranger just because you can and they need it. I have done a lot of good deeds, and I don't say that to brag. I say it because I am proud. Even when everyone else things I have some kind of intention or motive or I want something out of nothing. Because it is really nothing to be nice. |
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Dear Phrysca,
There is so much truth in what you say. I am glad you are a nice person and commend you for it. Where I used to live people generally were taught to censor their negativity. It wasn't that these people were better than others. Far from it. They felt urges to mock, belittle, insult, antagonize and so on. But they tried to censor these. It made for easier and more friendly living. Where I live now, the idea is to "let it all hang out" and say whatever comes into one's thought stream. Self-censoring here is regarded as dishonest or psychologically unhealthy. It is interesting how different cultures prioritize values. I think being nice in words tends to spill over into actions too. It is as if a person who is habitually nice in speaking sort of tends to be nice in other ways too and tends to kindnesses. Maybe the contrary true as well. Maybe people who are crude in word tend to become crude and insensitive in action. I don't know. Sincerely yours, Yao Wen |
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The only problem is that there are too many people who have been and are hurting. Its hard to discuss things when they might be going threw hell on that certain day. EVery one is different and have a different mental illnesses. Its easy to make a day but Im not sure people would be up for that if they are manic it might make them worse.
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