Reasons Not To

I have only one main reason... that it upsets people. Especially those around you who love you so much, I try and put myself in their shoes sometimes...

and its not nice

babyg xxx

I'd like to add another...

Because I have got to know some people in here and NONE of you deserve to suffer like this....

Your all great people x X x X x

Well thanks for posting these some of us really needed these.
Liz

Well the reason I THOUGHT of before I went ahead and did it anyway was the fact that I finally found a really nice bathing suit that I feel comfortable wearing and if I cut where I was thinking that I then could not wear my nice new bathing suit for a while.

Well, its going to be a while now so if anything at least it pissed me off enough that I will remember this next time.

i think mostly because after i cant trust myself not to do it anymore... and it really hurts your friends and family...

i found all this very help full... thank you for posting this...

Very hard to socialise (can't go swimming, can't go gym etc)

Hmm...it's not THAT hard to hide...lol

But yes, it may hurt those around you...or, in my case, laugh and mock. lol

ok...here goes...the reason not to self injure (even though right now i want to) is because truth be told i am tired of being stuck in the past... and even though right now all the other reasons put aside... i want to get past this all this hurt and heal... si is the bridge that keeps me connected to the all the pain... i use it to keep from having to look at and remember or deal with the past and the present (because that is what i know how to do)... and until i am willing to look at and deal with the pain (and learn new ways of coping) i only delay the healing and have to keep replaying the hurt... and i guess in the long run... in reality... makes it all more hurtful...grrrrr... right now i would have really liked to figured out why it's ok to si ...lyn

- it's very addicting.[ longer you do it, the larger & deeper cuts get]
- leaves nasty scars.
- hurts family & friends to see you do it; and seeing the scars resulting after.
- gives other self-harmers ideas when exposed. [atleast for me seeing others; made me want to do it more] so save yourself & others!
- usually if parents find out, you'll get thrown in the pshyc ward; not fun. [all depends on you're parents decisions what to do with you though]
- after you do get over it; the scars you'll see everyday will remind you of it & can be triggering to start it all over again. plus you'll have major regret of doing it in the first place.
- other people [non self-harmers] usually non-understanding b a s t a r d s, will have the tendency to make cruel jokes about you & say you are weak. which in the end will make you feel like S H I T & want to cut, cut , cut. [ i have had a good dose of people make fun of me & give me very harsh speeches, even blaming me for their daughters self-harm. complete B U L L S H I T. [sorry for all the cussing. this is just a touchy subject for me & i would like you to understand how much it angers me!]
- people will assume you are unable to control yourself & are unstable. [again, the judgement].
- having to wear sweatshirts & jeans to cover cuts & scars.

I have to say, this is a really amazing thread. I'm going to write some of these reasons down in a notebook to carry around
What stops me is knowing my best friend will be able to tell what I've done. He's the only person in the world who knows about my SI and he's done his best to love and help me. I know how much my SI hurts him and I can't bear to disappoint him after all he's done for me. Knowing that he cares and that he believes in me keeps me holding on.

Y'all have shared so many good reasons not to hurt yourselves.

Here are my reasons:
- I have God siblings and younger children who look up to me
- If I am swimming in my own misery, I cannot even dream of helping others
- I deserve better (stop putting yourself in other's shoes, put others in your shoes - would your friends deserve it if they were in your situation?)
- My body is a temple and every day it is living on is borrowed time... there are people who do not have arms or hands or people who live with chronic pain who would give anything to be a healthy 21 year old with strong arms and a healthy body.
- My mother is dying of cancer. I want her to die happy. I want her to know she raised a child who - in the end- was able to conquer and make her proud... a child who was able to grow into a responsible, whole, happy adult.
- I don't do hurt myself in the hopes that tomorrow will be better... I like waking up fresh and new, not with a literal and painful reminder of yesterday's griefs.
- I don't do it because I love my fiance more than I am angry with myself.
- I don't do it because I want to work on making my mind healthier without my body to distract me...
- I want my mind to be healthy for my future children
- I don't do it... because deep down, I really do love myself =]
- I don't do it because I want to add more positive things to this world.
- I don't do it... because I want y'all to know that recovery can be achieved... I don't do it.... for you

~BxD

- Good luck to those on the road to recovery, and be safe for those who are not quite ready yet -

I completely agree with and all of your reasons especially number 7 about stealing sharp objects that do not belong to you. When I was high school I used to steal razor blades from the biology lab that were used for animal disections. Once I was caught at school self injuring and was asked where I got my sharps. When I told them where I got I was in serious trouble. But, I had no choice I had no other means of getting them. So to all of out there who SI please be CAREFUL!

There are always reasons not to do something. The reasons are different for eveybody. But sometimes they are the same. Now everybody has posted a lot great reasons we why should not SI so far. I think another great reason is if you have somebody that looks up to you even if that is just one person. THEY MATTER. And sometimes when they see us do this to ourselves it makes them as if they do not matter. Even if we know that is not true. We just have to remember that they are watchingand what we do matters. We all wish we had never started down this violent and vicious path of self-injury, so let's not influence another life or soul to do the same. However you look at it.

The main reason why I try my hardest not to cut ,

is simply because I don't want to upset my friends .

They mean so much to me ,

and seeing them get hurt because of my actions ,

is enough to make me want to die .

No other reason seems good enough .

I don't care enough about myself to care what people would think of the scars and I don't worry about the infections or anything else .

I just don't want to see those I hold close being hurt .

" Well thanks yourself, so you you. =) Could understand a maximum omen so, unless authorized not my best = English coins "

Few reasons not do it.
1 It is really not worth to hurt yourself. Yes it take away the emotional pain but the physical pain be there.
2. One may end in a psychward
3. A parent will treat you rude

The main reason and I like what my boss told me He was in a class and a teacher said"I want to see you next week not read about you"

my reasions to try not to hert my selth.
1. if anyone ever found out they would freek
2. it might land me in a mental ward
3. it is hard to do any thang one you are wereing long pants and long slive shirts in the summer
4. my selth ham feeds on it's selth. i get down i cutt i hill beather for a littel wile then i get lower so i cutt again... it is a bad cilcye.
5. if i do selth harm i have to clean up the blood.

Thanks to all of you. Today I really needed to read all of these just to get through the day. I just wanted you all to know that I really appreaciate this thread. I think it's very important to have something like this. That way, when someone is having a day where SI seems like their only way of getting through it, they can come here and see all the reasons why it's not. Thank you!

Some has hit the point. It is addicting. For me when I had cut I sometimes I feel like I couldn't stop. Then I will get so ashamed what I done that I just felt like cutting where it might end it all. I am doing better. I have gone 6 days without cutting. I am on some good meds. I think the other reason and been there. One may land in the hospital.

My main reason is that my dad gets really upset when I SI