Kid with a trigger finger

No, it's not me!
It's a kid in my grade...and he didn't actually have a gun persay, but he had a knife.
He's been in the hospital for the past two weeks but is apparently coming back on Friday. I thought this was way too soon, shouldn't he be in the hospital longer? All of his friends are worried sick, and ready to rip anyone a new butt for making the slightest bullying remark.

This happened in class yesterday:
me-"Yeah, but Josh, kids are still making fun of him. Even after he almost died! It's not right!"
Josh-"Yeeeaaah...I know."

"Like Ben Anderson."
"Ben?! That one?! Gimme something to throw at'm."

I just can't wait until Keegan comes home.

Well, that's a touch question to answer Ebpm. You seem like you're pretty smart about these things your friend is going through right now. I'm sure you know by now that there are special hospitals for these kinds of things.

Nowadays, there are specialized hospitals and clinics for just about everything: skin clinics, sexual centers, heart and circulation issues, hospitals for people overweight, orthopedic hospitals, and even hospitals and clinics for people with our types of issues.

I can remember that, not so long ago, having a heart attack could mean a week or more in the hospital. Nowadays, if they catch it early enough, they can treat it in just a couple of days. For people with mental issues, the same thing is true: what used to mean months of treatment can mean just a few days or a week or two. Plus families and friends have a MUCH better understanding of what to do and how to do it.

The most important thing to understand is that he's coming back to school because the doctors at the hospital say he's better. It sounds like he spent some time at one of the specialized hospitals I talked about earlier: they had the time, the expertise, and proper tools to make him better.

Being treated for what your friend has is just like any other illness: not every treatment is exactly the same. Think of it like this: if two people break their left arm, but in different places, the cast will probably look the same, but you don't know what is under the cast.

Remember that you and your friends need to be supportive of your friend. If your school has a counselor or a nurse, talk to them, I'm sure they can help. If somebody is talking about making fun of or picking on your friend, tell a teacher or the principal privately before your friend comes back...make sure somebody in authority knows who they are.

It sounds like your friend has a lot of friends he can rely on. Support your friend, but don't push them too hard or too far. Be supportive and be a friend.

Good luck to you!

Metro

Thanks so much! I'm just worried is all. He's an awesome kid and to watch him slip like that hurt so badly. It stirred up sickening memories... Remembering when I had those thoughts myself, and how I got through it, but he obviously didn't.

We're all waiting on the wings for him I can tell ya...

You are a good friend Ebpm!

I can't wait!!! He's coming back soon! I don't want to smother him when he gets back but I've missed him so much! Apparently he was on facebook, and he's coming back sometime this week! I'm so happy, and every sinlge person is ready to help.

But a few kids are kind of nervous too...I'm trying to defend this kid without giving away that I've self injured, and have had his same thoughts...it's also very hard not to rip them new butts when they give him crap even when he isn't even back yet. But I guess since I haven't been sent to the principal that I'm doing a pretty good job. Heh, for now.

With Halloween coming up I might egg a few of the offenders' houses....or not.

Okay, so he CAME BACK!!! AND I GAVE HIM A HUG!!! well uuuh...THREE HUGS!
"Well...I feel loved.", he said. But this is the bad part. The most horrible, despicable thing...they switched his house. You see, at our school everyone has a house/team. (like at Hogwarts in Harry Potter, only we don't live there)
I'm on the Apollo team, this kid was too until they SWITCHED HIM OUT. they called Apollo "faulty", "troubled", and "a bad influence" when the house they moved him to is a *****HOUSE! a f***ing ***** HOUSE! Gemini house is awful, and he begged to be put back into Apollo but they wouldn't let him! The kids who bullied him on the bus are in that house and he has nothing but friends in Apollo! People were crying all day today, and the only reason I didn't was because I was afraid to! I missed him so much and now I'll never get to see him again!

Can you talk to a teacher? Are you still able to speak with him at some point?

Keep being as much of a friend as you can be... and that includes letting others know if there are things going on that adults should know about. It is not easy to watch a friend be in a situation you know is bad for them.

I have his number but I guess I'm a little nervous about texting him....I don't know why though, the worst thing he can say to me is "Go away" and Keegan wouldn't say that-ever. Because he's just not that kind of guy. And now people think I love him.

I DO love him but it's more of a protective maternal love than a 'I wanna make out with you' love...it's weird.....and I'm not sure of what to do about it...

Maybe your drive to help him is because you really understand what he is going through and this is what you would want? Give it a go?

I can agree with that. I think I've always gotten brissled when people make fun of one another. It's almost like a favorite pastime nowadays anyway...and some bad news, i texted him and found out if I want to say hi I have to call him...

This makes me very nervous and I think I'll just make a Facebook instead....X-P

FB is a good start........

I gave him a hug when I was in a computer lab!!! The teacher only let me go and I think that's because I nearly catapulted through the cieling when I saw him in the hallway...xP

I love him a lot, but it's getting really confusing. I love him in a certain way, then I love someone else in a different way, and then I love someone ELSE in another way...I'm torn and it sucks. God I feel like I'm in a teen romance novel about vampires.

You know the one...X'-/

How did he respond to it?

its ok - we can love many people in many different ways - some as friends - some as partners - some because we share interests - or experiences

I think you really feel for his situation - i hope he is doing ok in his new House - are the bullies stil picking on him? i hope not

wishing you both good luck

P7

Sannah:
He hugged right back, really hard and when he saw me he smiled and was all happy. "Hey!"

P7:
Yeah....some of the kids that bullied him are in Gemini...I don't like that house...

Thanks guys! ;-)