[tamzinrose]

What's so bad about cutting? I don't get why it's such a bad thing.

[Liquid]

I dont know anymore.

[ickydog2006]

I wish I could answer that. I know I don't deserve to be hurt...even if it is me hurting myself. Others don't deserve the pain it causes them. I know I shouldn't let something have that much control over me. Of course do I really know anything anymore.

[BamaSurvivor]

I'm not sure how to answer that, tamz. Like icky said, we don't deserve to be hurt like we do when we cut ourselves. The people who love us don't deserve to see us hurting like that, either. Aside from those two things, I'm really not sure.

[CompGeek]

Cutting hurts you and everyone that cares about you. also it can cause some pretty nasty infections

[blackdragon]

I cant answer that with a definite answer. But some theories (cant u tell im a psychology student Mrs. Docdragon lol)
One theory is that people dont know about it and they think we are going to kill ourselves or something
Another is that people cant comprehend why we would cut, burn, bruse our own bodys for releif.
Another one is that its a slow way of killing ourselfs which we all know its not true...

These are some reasons why others think its so bad to cut.
I cant tell you what u see when u cut for me its a way to release all the pain inside and have peace even if its for a second. And that i learned that talking, crying, venting etc is wrong and shamefull and i turned to cutting as the only acceptable way to vent and also punish myself for not doing something right or doing something wrong also. an example would be if i didnt figure out what my mom means and did something like oh say she wanted me to wash the dog do the dishes, vaccum, and clean the fish tank and i did all but wash the dog. I would take forgetting to wash the dog as a failer and i would punish myself. OOOh sorry this is a long post. But i hope this helps.

[tamzinrose]

Thanks for all the replies guys.

[Liquid]

My personal opinion is that self harming can only be seen as a bad thing to an individual if they feel good enough about themselves to not have to resort to it for relief. In which case it doesnt matter if its a good thing or a bad thing because it doesnt exist as something real.

Tamz, it's bad because you're hurting yourself. You're destroying your body with a sharp object. You're making yourself bleed and it may feel like a good thing at the time but let's look at it like this...
if you have or don't have children,
What if you found your daughter or son cutting themselves up with a razor or something else?
It's painful to know that you're doing that to yourself for me and I don't even know you. I had cut a couple of times in the past and I know the pain you must be going through inside your soul to be doing the cutting in the first place. That's what's really bad about it-not just the physical but also knowing the emotional hell you're going through.
I really hope you'll find peace within yourself soon and make cutting something of your past.
((((((((Tamz))))))))))

[Rapunzel]

For me the main thing is that SI doesn't address your feelings and real problems. It just makes you not care so much for a little while, but the problems get worse in the mean time.

But motivation for me to stop would have to be realizing the effects that it has on other people. It seems like you're only hurting yourself but it isn't true. When you hurt yourself you are also hurting everyone who cares about you, and there are more people who care about you than you think.

[tamzinrose]

Aww that's really sweet. *HUG back* Thanks. That was a really nice message to come home to.

[tamzinrose]

I hate hurting the people I love, but I really don't see how it hurts them. Thanks anyway.