if it doesn't hurt and it doesn't bleed is it SI?

Thinking alot about this topic Would like all your views ??

**Everyone who lives dies, but not everyone who dies has lived**

hey who likes me turtle ?

<font color=purple> **Everyone who lives dies, but not everyone who dies has lived** </font color=purple>

I like him Crying.

Some people who live their lives to the fullest, who experience all the wonders and joy there is, are said to "have lived". Not everyone does that, or feels able to do that.

That is what I take it to mean.

Mary Alice

Your turtle is pretty cool!

Maybe this will help answer your question. It's from <A target="_blank" HREF=http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html>http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html</A>.

Do you deliberately cause physical harm to yourself to the extent of causing tissue damage (breaking the skin, bruising, leaving marks that last for more than an hour)?
Do you cause this harm to yourself as a way of dealing with unpleasant or overwhelming emotions, thoughts, or situations (including dissociation)?
If your self-harm is not compulsive, do you often think about SI even when you're relatively calm and not doing it at the moment?
If you answer #1 and #2 yes, you are a self-injurer. If you answer #3 yes, you are most likely a repetitive self-injurer. The way you choose to hurt yourself could be cutting, hitting, burning, scratching, skin-picking, banging your head, breaking bones, not letting wounds heal, among others. You might do several of these. How you injure yourself isn't as important as recognizing that you do and what it means in your life.

I think that what it means to you has a lot to do with it. I also think that we shouldn't have to be ashamed that we do these things. Besides being a sign that we have feelings or problems in our lives that we haven't learned a better way of dealing with, it is in itself a way of coping with these things. I don't think it's all that different from coping mechanisms that other people use like eating problems, addictions, etc. Maybe these coping mechanisms aren't constructive and don't actually make anything better, and we could learn better solutions, but self-injurers aren't fundamentally different from other people whom the general public tends to have less difficulty understanding.

I hope you're doing okay, or at least as okay as possible.

<font color=red>"Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing." -Harriet Braiker</font color=red>

"I think what it means to you has a lot to do with it" This sentence has brought me out of my cold induced daze. It is so spot on. What it reminded me of was when I cut my hand on a glass while doing dishes at my parents house. I had a therapy session a day or so later. I still had my bandage on my hand to protect the stitches. My T questioned me extensively that day about my injury. I think he wanted to know what that injury ACTUALLY meant to me. Was it subconscious or did I mean to do it in that dark place in my brain or was it an honest accident. It was interesting to set that accident side by side to my purposeful injuries. How does each one make me feel? What are the differences in feeling and the simularities. In exploring those aspects I think he provided me with a better understanding of my problem.
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson