Thanks a lot to my mum. ........................................ I hope you're happy mum. You should have aborted me or didn't have it so I wouldn't be here. It's good I shouted at mum, she deserves it. I am a mistake because mum and dad aren't for each other. I haven't hurt myself. I just need to vent and chill out.

[Ardmore]

Just because your mother is who she is doesn't mean you were meant to be, you deserve better then this, I'm sorry about your mom.

Vent if you need to but don't be so discouraged

Originally Posted by Ardmore

Just because your mother is who she is doesn't mean you were meant to be, you deserve better then this, I'm sorry about your mom.

Vent if you need to but don't be so discouraged

It's okay. My mum annoys me sometimes.

[Ardmore]

Mine too

Originally Posted by Ardmore

Mine too

I'm not alone. I'm sorry for being annoying.

[pegasus]

(((((((( happycheeks )))))))))

I'm not sure how old you are but the environment you are in is not doing your mental health any good at all. Can you look into moving out?

Originally Posted by pegasus

(((((((( happycheeks )))))))))

I'm not sure how old you are but the environment you are in is not doing your mental health any good at all. Can you look into moving out?

I'm 18 but I can't move out. I don't have a job or money. Unless... I could live on the streets. That's how much of a scum I am.

[pegasus]

(((((((( happycheeks ))))))))) I'm sure social services or womens refuge would help you. You deserve to be happy and free from abuse and that is not happening where you are living right now. I know it is a big step to move away from home but it will probably be the best thing you can ever do for yourself. If you went to a womens refuge, they would help you, you'd have a roof over your head, with no abuse and they would help you receive some benefits until you find your feet again. Look into it, you deserve better.

Originally Posted by pegasus

(((((((( happycheeks ))))))))) I'm sure social services or womens refuge would help you. You deserve to be happy and free from abuse and that is not happening where you are living right now. I know it is a big step to move away from home but it will probably be the best thing you can ever do for yourself. If you went to a womens refuge, they would help you, you'd have a roof over your head, with no abuse and they would help you receive some benefits until you find your feet again. Look into it, you deserve better.

Isn't that where women who have been abused by their partners go?

[pegasus]

It doesn't have to be a partner. The fact is, you are living in an environment that is very abusive and you need support to get out of it. Womens refuge is just one organization that can help you.

*hugstightly* happycheeks

((((happycheeks))))

[Sannah]

I just asked you this morning if your mum made you feel bad about yourself and here we have it.

Originally Posted by Sannah

I just asked you this morning if your mum made you feel bad about yourself and here we have it.

Should I chuck myself out on the streets so I don't have to suffer with my mum?

I won't bother posting. I'll just keep it to myself.

[nicoleb2]

Happy - Please, keep posting. We are all here to listen and help each other!!

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

Should I chuck myself out on the streets so I don't have to suffer with my mum?

I won't bother posting. I'll just keep it to myself.

What did you think that I meant by this post hcheeks?

Originally Posted by Sannah

What did you think that I meant by this post hcheeks?

I overreacted I guess.

[Sannah]

But what did you see in it that made you overreact?

Originally Posted by Sannah

But what did you see in it that made you overreact?

I thought you was telling me off. I didn't cut myself though.

[Sannah]

You thought I was telling you off? After all of the threads of yours that I have replied to you see me as someone who would tell you off? Or maybe you can't see me through your projection? (You project onto me your past experiences - how your mum treats you.)?

Originally Posted by Sannah

You thought I was telling you off? After all of the threads of yours that I have replied to you see me as someone who would tell you off? Or maybe you can't see me through your projection? (You project onto me your past experiences - how your mum treats you.)?

I'm sorry. What do you mean by ou project onto me your past experiences - how your mum treats you? It's not my fault.

[Sannah]

Projection isn't something you do on purpose. People project because of what happened to them in the past. It is a totally subconscious mechanism.

Are you afraid of things being your fault?

What I meant is that you assumed that I am like your mother even though I have never done anything mean to you.

Originally Posted by Sannah

Projection isn't something you do on purpose. People project because of what happened to them in the past. It is a totally subconscious mechanism.

Are you afraid of things being your fault?

What I meant is that you assumed that I am like your mother even though I have never done anything mean to you.

Ohh I understand now. I am kinda afraid because I don't want people angry at me if I did a fault. You're not my mother so I wouldn't think you're my mum. I just feel like I done something wrong.

[Sannah]

Projecting your past onto others can cause problems. I can understand but a lot of people who don't understand psychology would not understand.

So you are afraid to make a mistake because an angry person scares you? This would really affect how you act. It sounds very constraining for you.

Originally Posted by Sannah

Projecting your past onto others can cause problems. I can understand but a lot of people who don't understand psychology would not understand.

So you are afraid to make a mistake because an angry person scares you? This would really affect how you act. It sounds very constraining for you.

This is why I hate abuse from parents because it can damage relationships and so on. I don't understand psychology. I am worried about making a mistake because people might tell me off or be horrible to me. Angry people do scare me. My mum has been very angry in the past and it scares me.