[smmath]

hey i responded to a woman who wanted to talk to someone. she rejected me. now i feel aweful and depresssed and now i want to cut. she wasn't trying to be mean, but she hurt me. does being rejected merit cutting?

[kaliope]

I know being rejected hurts, but you dont deserve to hurt more because of it. You did a good thing by reaching out to someone you thought needed support. It was a shame she did not appreciate your efforts. Treat yourself to the same compassion you were wanting to give this woman.

Please dont hurt yourself. Get yourself someplace safe. Do something good for yourself. Be kind to you. You deserve it. Hugs

[unaluna]

there's other fish in the sea.

I just saw kaliopes response. hers is much better.

[Sannah]

[tohelpafriend]

[quote=smmath;2166632]hey i responded to a woman who wanted to talk to someone. she rejected me.

now i feel aweful and depresssed and now i want to cut. she wasn't trying to be mean, but she hurt me. does being rejected merit cutting?

No, most certainly rejection or anything else doesn't merit cutting. You did the right and good thing...you responded. Let her own the problem!!
Some of us here are so sensitive...I can relate to what you wrote, though I've never been a cutter. I tried to be a friend to someone here at PC and got burned and rebuffed over and over. I now know what I am truly looking for in a friendship with a guy....someone who is emotionally generous and understands how NOT to hurt a woman. But someone else (a guy) reached out and was supportive about something..., so I felt happy again to know there are more fish in the sea.

This happens with women, too. There are just givers and takers. I feel better when I give, but I give too freely. I'm going to try boundaries chat today. Sorry I rambled on , but your post was important because we all get rejections in life; it's how we react or respond to them that matters I guess. Maybe try to figure out with your T, if you have one, if this goes back to something you felt in early childhood, perhaps a rejecting parent.
My mother was just rejecting by nature, not even aware of it; only later in life did I see her evil.