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Apr 10, 2006 at 09:38 PM
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My first time was when I was 8 and have been SIing off and on for 30 years (yup I'm a big ole 38!). I am wondering if there are any other adults on this forum who SI? I belong to another forum for SI but it is all younger people and sometimes I feel odd pouring my troubles on them.
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Apr 10, 2006 at 09:59 PM
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Hi Cher,
Yes, a lot of us here are adults, whether we like it or not. I've been 29 for something like 7 years now (I lose track ... maybe intentionally). I was about six when I started, and it's been on and off too. Haven't done it for the past 2 months and 2 days now, and this time I'll make it for six months. I almost had six months last time. The next six-month mark coming up is going to be triggery though because I'm supposed to have a birthday around then, and also the one-year mark from being assaulted. Where do we get this compulsion to remember being hurt by getting hurt? Bullies were part of the problem when I started, um, 30? years ago. Anyway, yeah, we have adults here. Welcome to Psych Central 
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Apr 10, 2006 at 10:56 PM
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i am 45 and i still SI but less often....but i often think about it
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Apr 10, 2006 at 10:58 PM
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There are members of all ages here who SI, but it doesn't seem to matter about age. We all have something in common that we can share with one another and look to each other in support, and no-one need ever know your age. I have recently found out that i started SIing when i was 6- by picking the skin off my lips continually til they bleed (and I still do it all the time) and I am coverred in scars all over my body. But anyway, yes there are heaps of 'adults' here in this forum, and they are all a wonderful bunch of ppl, as are the younger ones. In fact, some of the 'younger' ones are so mature i can't believe their ages!!! Welcome.
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Apr 10, 2006 at 11:55 PM
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Thank you all! I guess I just needed some reassurance. Sometimes I think to myself as long as I have done this you think by now I would understand why but I still don't know. I do appreciate the response to my thread. I look forward getting to know you all.
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Apr 11, 2006 at 09:56 AM
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I'm 37 and have been SI'ing offf and on since I was 9 or 10. I'm currently stopped although I frequently still have the desire to.
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Apr 11, 2006 at 10:14 PM
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Thank you splitimage.
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Apr 11, 2006 at 10:48 PM
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I'm 44 and used to SI quite a bit. It showed me that I was alive and that I could feel things. I haven't done it in quite some time although tonight I came very close. Way too close.
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Apr 11, 2006 at 10:56 PM
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And I thought there were only a few of us adults here. You can count me in too.
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Apr 12, 2006 at 03:39 AM
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<font color="green">At 50, I am surely an adult as well. I am working hard to stop so have not posted much in here. The last few weeks have been rough and I am back at it.</font>
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Apr 12, 2006 at 11:33 AM
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Thank you again ALL. Dalila, I'm sorry you have had some rough weeks. I am glad you came back to get some support.
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Apr 12, 2006 at 03:19 PM
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me too. anyone have any ideas how to stop? I am totally embarrassed by it. Even my husband doesn't know the extent. I haven't undressed in front of him for a very long time.
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Apr 12, 2006 at 10:49 PM
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<font color="blue"> Welcome to PC cherybery. There is a sticky post at the top of this forum Things to Do... that might help you. TC!
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Apr 15, 2006 at 12:43 AM
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Yes, I am much older than you and I still struggle with SI. I have gotten so much better, but this week has been especially difficult and I have SI'd for the first time in many years. I think this time of year is a trigger for me. So, don't feel alone. Try some of the things on the post for things to do instead of SIing. Red marker, tooth brush, etc. I hope you stay strong, but if you slip, don't beat yourself up. That will just make it worse. Forgive yourself and go on. I'll watch for your posts, so let us know how you're doing with this.
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Apr 15, 2006 at 10:02 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
BetseyK said: me too. anyone have any ideas how to stop? I am totally embarrassed by it. Even my husband doesn't know the extent. I haven't undressed in front of him for a very long time. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Same here Betsey. HUGS __________________ [b]If you can’t be a good example, then you’ll just have to be a horrible warning.[b] -Catherine Aird |
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Apr 15, 2006 at 10:04 AM
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Thank you Sky! I will check it out.
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Apr 15, 2006 at 10:13 AM
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Thank you sweatpea! Your absolutely right about not beating yourself up afterwards. I ended up having to cut before I could even get the courage to go to work yesterday. But thats how I view SI, that was yesterday and I leave it at that.
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Apr 15, 2006 at 05:28 PM
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<font color="purple"> Hi Cher,
I am 35 and am an S/I 'er. I have been since my pre teens.... </font> __________________ Melinda  Today, NOW! Is the time to tell that someone you love them..... because tomorrow just might be too late! 
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Apr 17, 2006 at 11:03 PM
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I'm an adult cutter. I've been doing it for the last 15 years and have no desire to stop. Unlike most people, I am very proud of my cutting and the scars I have.
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Apr 18, 2006 at 06:24 PM
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I'm 38 also. You are not alone with this one.
Keep safe and HUGS! __________________  complic8d"Don't say I'm out of touch with this rampant chaos-your reality I know well what lies beyond my secret refuge The nightmare I built my own world to escape." ♥evanescence♥
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