[boo-bearRAWWR!!!]

Well yeah, I finally decided to tell my friend Syd about my cutting and all that and she accepted it and all, which I am totally relieved about, but it still doesn't really, completely solve the problem.

I still haven't told my therapist and I'm getting a new one soon anyways... but idk if I should tell her. I mean the files will be the same so idk if I'll be asked all the questions again, but if I am idk if I will.... I mean obviously I want to tell her, but I'm being realistic with myself and I just can't see myself saying it. And my mum. I need to tell her before it comes out some other way. I would rather have her know from me then through someone else.

so yeah... help maybe? I know the simplest way you can really put it is just to tell them, but it really doesn't feel that simple right now. Just maybe some ways that I can tell or something would be helpful. Or just some support at least..

Thanks for reading!! xoxo

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[adam_k]

It is difficult to tell people and probable even more difficult for them to understand. Most therapist should get it, but I think the majority of people couldn't see how it helps people cope. Talking about it gets easier as you do it. That is one of the subjects I don't like to talk about with people. It is difficult for me. I wish you luck in finding understanding and help.

[madmusican]

Well done for telling someone. I know exactly how hard it can be and what you mean by it isn't just that 'simple' to tell someone. I have recently confided in someone I work with that I am self harming again after stopping for six years and that was really tough. I tried to be a bit cryptic about it and gave up and just blurted it out. Now they know, I find it easier to talk to them about it and they are looking out for me and helping me to get help.

From my experience, it is best if you are able to tell your mum without her finding out another way. My folks found out by accident when I hadn't covered my arms enough when they came round my house unexpectedly. It was really not the way I had wanted them to find out but they were supportive. I just wish I had had the opportunity to tell them on my terms, when I wanted to and how I wanted to.

Stay strong and take care,

Mad x

[turquoisesea]

that's wonderful!!

As per the therapist, I think it would be good to tell your current T, partially to PRACTICE telling someone and to practice being open about the problem in a safe environment. Also... if the files are transferred, it would still be beneficial for your next T to know what's going on. But it's really up to you.

Good luck!