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Trig Apr 27, 2014 at 12:03 AM
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So like I'm an adult, I'm 19. And I was wondering what would happen? I know when I was a minor the counselor could turn me in for being "suicidal" and my mom could force me to go to a mental hospital, but what about now?

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Default Apr 27, 2014 at 08:13 AM
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It depends on where you live, the severity of the cutting, your intentions with it. Generally, in the US, they cannot break confidentiality unless they deem You a danger to yourself or others. You can always ask your counselor about the bounds of their confidentiality, what would cause then to report anything against your wishes. You don't have to give details and they can't report you to anyone for asking about how they handle disclosures.
I have seen different reactions from different counselors. My high school counselor did not tell my parents without having conversations with me about it. None of my therapists ever disclosed without talking to me first and getting permission. Even when I was hospitalized, we had conversations about going to the er and voluntarily getting help when needed. But your best bet is to ask your counselor about their confidentiality policies. They can differ among agencies, regions, and parts of the world.
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Default Apr 27, 2014 at 09:00 AM
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You say your "school counsellor" .... is this at some sort of post secondary education?

MdngtRain is correct in that it depends on your location and your intentions with the cutting. Generally, if you are not in any immediate threat of danger to yourself or others, then the person with whom you are speaking is not allowed to break confidentiality. That being said, it might be worth a hypothetical conversation with this person about the limitations to their confidentiality. In this way, you can ask them under what circumstances they would be forced to share the details of your conversations, and then YOU can make a choice about what you would like to disclose. Don't feel pressure to tell them what's going on (if you're not comfortable) and they get a feeling like this might be going on as a result of your conversations. It's always your choice.

Also, given that you are an adult, it's unlikely that your mom could "force" you do go to a "mental hospital" as you would need to either admit yourself (given your age), or a higher body (e.g., the staff there, the police, etc) would need to be certain that you were going to kill yourself - and this is substantially different than cutting yourself... it all comes down to intentions.

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Default Apr 27, 2014 at 09:32 PM
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MdngtRain and Jacq10 are both right. My boyfriend's mom actually called my school's counselor and told her that I was cutting. The counselor called me in the next day and wanted to have a chat with me. She said that as long as I wouldn't do it again, she wouldn't tell my parents. Since I was 15 at the time, I think she was supposed to.

Currently, I'm 18. I opened up to my t about my relapse when I was 17. She asked a few questions to get a feel for my reasoning of cutting and to figure out how much control I had. She knows that I have a lot of control and knows I'm safe about it, so if I tell her about any new cuts, she just tries to figure out why I did and and we try to work through that topic.

I would also suggest that you do ask the counselor what they are required to say. Usually, as long as you aren't suicidal and you explain that cutting is a form of coping with stress or something (if that is your reasoning for doing it) then he/she usually wont say anything to anyone. Since you are 19, I don't think that it will be a problem for you.

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