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It's been... technically about seven years, but that was a one-time minor incident. Other than that I haven't cut in over a decade.
I'm new here and I think I should have started in the Grief and Loss forum, as that's my main issue, but this was bothering me today. I recently lost my fiancé. I met him... around seven years ago. I'm tired, and I don't really want to talk much... but I've been thinking about it. I'm going through a complicated grief and
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When I met him, I was pulling myself out of that hole, learning to live for myself. If I had met him even a year or two earlier, things would have been different. He's gone now and I want to run back to the only thing I knew as safety before I had him, but those places and friends are long gone... this is something that isn't. It's not who I am anymore, and it's not who he'd want me to be, but I'm having a hard time... I don't want to turn into that person again but, regardless of what he'd want for me, he's not here anymore. |
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(((Aurialia))) You've out grown those places of
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Auralia, Ruftin has given good advice. Can you do something kind to yourself? Cuddle a soft animal, eat chocolate, do some art? I haven't broken my habit yet and it's so hard, the first one is the easiest to resist however hard, it is your choice and you do have a choice, no one will make you do it and no one will do it to you. Someone helped me choose well this evening and I hope you will be able to choose well too. from the bottom of my heart
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I'm so sorry for you pain and loss. It can sometimes help to spend time with people you know even if it doesn't take all the pain away because it's still getting you out of your house where you can't be near the things that you're tempted to use.
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