[HopefullWanderer]

My girlfriend has depression and bipolar disorder. I personally suffer from depression and anxiety. We have both had to deal with self harm and eating disorders. Needless to say we help each other through a lot, she's my rock and I am hers. Lately she has been going through a really hard time and has been struggling with suicidal thoughts and urges. She hasn't hurt herself in any way for quite a while but I am so worried about her. I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman and I'm so afraid she's going to hurt herself. Is there anything I can do to help her cope with and get through hard times. I read to her when she's anxious, it calms her down. We talk through our feelings with one another and I do my best to be there for her. But is there anything else I can do to be there for her? I feel frustrated and anxious and lost.

[Skeezyks]

Hello HopefulWanderer: The Skeezyks welcomes you to PsychCentral! May you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

If this is really serious, then your girlfriend needs professional help. Suicidality should not be treated lightly. I know. I've tried... more than once. No one would ever have expected it. Have you asked her, straight-out, are you thinking about trying to kill yourself? If she says yes, then it's time to seek professional help.

Experts in the field of suicidology tell us that it's okay to ask. In fact, it's important to ask. You won't put ideas into the person's head. And you may just save their life. From what you wrote, it sounds to me as if you're doing what you can do. But there is a limit to what you can do. If you're really concerned, try to get her professional help. I wish you both well...

[elevatedsoul]

yes please get professional help... supporting each other is good but sometimes need professional intervention when it gets that severe...

asking her if she is really thinking about killing herself i dont think will make it worse, i've read that its a good thing too..

i know if someone asked me i probably would say no - but if my significant other asked me i would be honest ... i have suicidal ideations but to me thats a little different than being suicidal...

wanting to die and wanting to kill yourself is big difference right?

please take care...

[Fizzyo]

I agree with the previous two posts.

It sounds like you are a great support for her, but sometimes more help is needed.

Remember to take care of yourself too, you need to be as well as possible to give the support you want to give.

[random_emotion]

I agree with the others and also I would ask your girlfriend if there is something more/different you can do to help her

i hope you and her will be okay!

(((((hugs))))

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