"87 reasons s/i is NOT the way to deal."

Found this on an SI board for teens, it's a Christian forum, so much of it has to do with God, but not all of it, and it seems the general population at this board is theistic, so I figured it'd fit ok. I thought it was an interesting idea, at least. They started it a few days ago, and, as can be seen by the different writing styles throughout the list, people would add one or a few as they felt. Obviously doesn't offer much of an answer, but may offer motiviation against SI.

1) The scars inside are really hard to heal.
2) The scars on the outside are really hard to explain
3) Because even though we're blind to what it does to others, it hurts them more than we could ever understand.
4) Because cutting will not solve your problems.
5) Because you are destroying something that is not your own (can't remember the verse)
6)because your always wanting more...
7) Once you start, quitting seems nearly impossible
8) The longer you s.i. for and the more of a habit it becomes, the harder it will be to stop.
9) Not only does it add more hurt and problems to your life, it also masks teh reall issues and because you don't deal with them they only keep on hurting and building up inside....
10) it's never enough... u always need 2 keep doin it more n more 4 it 2 have any effect, which ruins ur whole like
11) because it gives you the illusion of relief but than a few minutes later or the next day things are way worse
12) Because God is bigger than our problems.
13) Because it kills the social life...people treat you different, like glass, like you could break if they say the wrong thing.
14) Because cutting only puts your pain on pause
15) It doesn't take away the emtiness inside. It just makes you feel more isolated and alone.
16) Cutting doesn't really give us the release that we envision it to. I remember when I was feeling really horrible, so I thought I would cut. I really didn't feel much of a release, even though my mind kept on thinking that cutting would be a release.
17) because you constantly feel like you're hiding something
18)scars make the pain permanent..that is, they leave a permanent mark that will never really fade once your pain does...
19) Scars can limit you in future things you want to do, if you'd have to wear short sleeves.
20) you become more self-conscious about how you look
21)it makes you feel worthless when people say you cut to get attention
22) because your cutting up God's body, not yours... 1 Corinthians 6:19
23) because your telling God you dont need him when you cut... (that really struck me when someone told me that when I wanted to cut)
24) scars on the inside last longer then those outside.
25)'cause people glare at you and get mad at you when ever you have a stupid lil scratch
26) because people dont realise that your still the same person
27) because your friends will/do freak out about it
28) it makes u feel like a failure even tho ur not!
29) there are so many people out there willin 2 listen 2 ur problems... n most of them r right there under ur nose the whole time!
30) It's hard to stop and easy to start again.
31) It allows you to distract from real problems instead of dealing with them.
32) It screws up your relationships - especially when others don't understand.
33) It's a denial of the power that God can have in your life if you just acknowledge and serve Him.
34)no one ever seems to understand whats happening to you
35)When I am fusrated or Need help God can take alway them feelings any way
36) I am Gods child and God would not want me to cut or hurt my self
37) Paper is more fun to cut and hurt any way becuase it not alive and good way dealing with angry and furstion!
38) Could get in a lot trouble by cuting any way
39) God can heal any thing
40) with fait i can move moutrain that means if i belive that God can heal me from this it will happen!
41)because god is bigger
42) because when you hurt your self you hurt God
43) because it's your body you want last long
44) It doesn't just put the pain on pause; it makes the pain worse by adding something else to deal with.
45) You become paranoid, always feeling like you have to watch your back and cover your tracks (even when you haven't done anything) or else you'll get caught.
46) You can get in some serious trouble if you're in a car accident or something and are sent to the hospital.
47) New marks are a pain and a half to hide.
48) A part of you will always long for the freedom to wear what you want.
49) Scars take so long to heal
50) the blood stains chotles
51) Maybe Jesus wasn't a cutter - but he was cut and pierced for you. He took the nails and whips - so we don't need to.
52) There's always the risk of infection... or unexpected bleeding later.
53) It hurts God by destroying what he spent precious time on. Your Body.
54) It hurts you by keeping you from facing reality
55) It solves NOTHING
56) People never know unless you tell them, because who would suspect that
57) Because you're youth pastor will find out, drag you to counseling against your will, you'll be a topic at the elders meetings, and eventually....they'll tell your parents against your will, even if you are 18 and you beg them not to!
58) it will lead to other things such as ed because you feel overly self consious- thats how my ed got started
59) its a major turnoff for guys when they know you are a cutter
60) People will forever ask you if you are still cutting or will suspect if they see a scratch or something (this one was already posted)
61) You get attached and don't grow in God
62) It hurts your friends and makes them confused
63) You always have a secret
64) It confuses you
65) It makes you feel lost
66) It leads to more...
67) It pushes God out
68) It makes you so much more angry and hurt
69) It makes you feel inadequate
70) It ruins your relationships if you aren't uber careful
71) Starts to consume you, your mind, and your soul
72) Sets you apart from God and others.
73) Leaves you dpressed and feeling worse.
74) It slowly kills you
75) You continually want more
76) At first you think that you are in control, and that you are using this to punish yourself. Then as you go on you realise you've lost control and your being overpowered by this desire for self harm.
77) You feel like noone will take your pain seriously unless you do something drastic, but then your too scared to admit your pain incase they find out about that drastic measure and think you are a freak.
78) You except too much from ppl who try to help you
79) you lose feeling, but gain too much. in other words, when your foot goes numb, it hurts worse when you cut it then when it had feeling.
80) you give up, but still hold on
81) when you finish it feels like you've been dragged behind a bus for 47 miles down a gravel road.
82) you always feel guilty and guilt drives you to s/i more
83) you end up remembering your problems and pain everytime you see your scars
84) you can never look at a knife or sharp object the same way again
85) you jump whenever someone asked you what happened to your ankle or wrist when really and honestly you got scratched by a cat this time
86) you are not you're own you were bought with a price
87) you get a sick feeling whenever someone says something about blood, knifes, or they play around by dragging a blade across their skin though they mean nothing by it.
Plus two extra added after the 87...
88) soon enuf, it becomes the problem.
89) It can cause others to want to cut 2

Thanks for this....I am printing it out and am going to put it in my journal so when I feel like I want to cut like last night I can just read the list.

Don't Blame me I just do what the Voices Tell me to do

I may not be a teen, but I am also printing this off for me and my best friend skippingdeer, so she can better understand why I cut, or why i have the urge to cut..

Thank you ever so much for posting this here..
I would give you hugs, but I am not sure if you like them or not..



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This is a really great thing to post! Thanks!

Jenn

Glad you posted to share



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This is a great post. Thanks for sharing. I am a Christian, can you tell me what site you found it on.

Kim