[SlumberKitty]

I'm not sure if this post should be in the therapy forum or this forum. I went to see a new T last night (I had seen her one time previously) and she and I were talking about SH and she said "Let me see them" so I did. I didn't totally mind, but a part of me minded. I don't know why exactly. I guess its because it's sort of a private thing and I know I'm there for help but its not like she's an MD. I don't have a problem showing my PCP or even my dermatologist. Although I do hate it when my PCP comments on old ones. It's like, yeah...so...what's done is done. The T asked me what I used and I told her then I pulled my sleeve down. It was weird. Has anyone else experienced this? I don't know how to feel about it. I feel kind of bothered by it but I also kind of understand that she needs to know what she is dealing with. I feel sort of conflicted this morning. I don't know what she thought about them and maybe that is part of the problem. I didn't feel judged, I just felt too exposed or something.

[spiritpanda]

My therapist had asked me to show him when ever i told him. To us just flashing them is a sign of trust in our broken world as we dont just go around waving them in the air. the conflicting part idk what to say on the but the somple fact that you just showed her without hesitation when just meeting her is astounding

[guilloche]

Slumberkitty, do you think you could talk to your T about your mixed feelings, and maybe ask her to clarify why they asked to see what you were doing?

I'd have mixed feelings too. When I was SH'ing, none of my Ts ever, ever asked to see what I was doing. It actually made me feel worse, I think... like even my Ts didn't want to see me or deal with it. (I didn't always tell the last T, because his response was always to recommend DBT - but he didn't seem to know a lot about it!)

I'm not currently SH'ing (though I still want to, sometimes) - but I've talked a bit with current T about it (very reluctantly, not something I wanted to discuss!). She still doesn't know all the details. But, sometimes I wonder if I'd feel better, or more validated maybe(?), if she'd look at the scars. I don't know though. It's hard.

[SlumberKitty]

Originally Posted by spiritpanda

My therapist had asked me to show him when ever i told him. To us just flashing them is a sign of trust in our broken world as we dont just go around waving them in the air. the conflicting part idk what to say on the but the somple fact that you just showed her without hesitation when just meeting her is astounding

You're right. Showing SH is a sign of trust. Thanks for the reply.

[SlumberKitty]

Yes, I think I will talk to my T about why she wanted to see. I'm feeling better about it now...not as exposed at least. Thanks so much for the reply.

[eye2797]

I have never showed my T's my SH or and have they never asked. I have shown my PCP only because most of the time I need to have them stitched up or steri-stripped. He may ask If I have and I will show him that I have not. I have more trust in him than I do my T.

If the first time a T asked it would be hard for me, I guess only cause I never had one ask. I also SH on my upper thighs so not in a easy spot to show.
I would ask about it to them.

[Rive1976]

She never asks.