Stopping.

vulnerome · Jan 15, 2008 at 12:52 AM

So, for various reasons I will not be cutting again, not unless I decide I want to end up in a whole lot of trouble. And that's fine, I am ok with stopping.

The thing that is bothering me is how to keep myself safe when I am dissociating. Traditionally that led to much worse injuries, but now it could lead me to a total hell. Is just being committed to stopping in the here and now enough or am I kidding myself?

GoodMama · Jan 15, 2008 at 10:22 AM

(((((((((((((Vulnerome)))))))))))))

I'm sending lots and lots of gentle hugs your way! It takes a very strong person to decide not to SI and I believe "the YOU" is stronger than "the THEM." I don't know much about disassociating but all you can do is TRY to stay strong. Your friends here will help you ... but best of all, God will help you. I believe that.

Stay strong, Vulnerome!

Good Mama

chiz · Jan 15, 2008 at 01:33 PM

Hi

Please stay motivated in avoiding it. Help yourself by focusing on the idea that it will do you no good and that you'll be happier if you don't do it. You've said it yourself, you'll end up in trouble if you cut, so better stop now.

You may not overcome it that easy but you just need to do it. Eventually, you will get rid of it. Just stay motivated everyday.

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Perna · Jan 15, 2008 at 01:45 PM

Do you have any sort of relationship with the others? You could talk to them, get them on the bandwagon or at least hear them out so you can know if they're angry or unhappy with your decision?

vulnerome · Jan 15, 2008 at 08:45 PM

I have no others, I just leave myself or something - I come into myself and find injuries I never intended to make.

If it happens again the real life consequences don't bear thinking about, so it's really important that I find away to avoid dissociating altogether.

sujunew · Jan 17, 2008 at 04:44 AM

(((((vulnerome)))))

The most important thing to do to keep yourself safe is to keep whatever 'tools' you use out of the house if poss. That is the only way I have ever managed to not SI when I dissociate. I am not saying that it is guaranteed (I am very resourceful when I dissociate I have discovered) but it does help a whole lot. Also if you are really strong in yourself that may be enough to get you through those times.
If you are able to identify the triggers before you dissociate you can either distract yourself and stop 'going' or place yourself in a safe environment first. If you have reached a point where you just 'go' without even realising it try to think back to the last thing you remember and from there try to work out the triggers and warning signals. The awareness of this helps to manage it better.

I hope that you are able to stay strong.
irish

vulnerome · Jan 17, 2008 at 01:01 PM

Thanks for the advice Irish. Haven't a clue what has triggered it in the past, it has just happened as it were.

Told my therapist about it today and she didn't really have anything to say other than that it must be scary to be that way. It isn't really, what is scary is what will happen if I ever cut again.

sujunew · Jan 17, 2008 at 03:58 PM

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Thanks for the advice Irish. Haven't a clue what has triggered it in the past, it has just happened as it were.

Told my therapist about it today and she didn't really have anything to say other than that it must be scary to be that way. It isn't really, what is scary is what will happen if I ever cut again.

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You've said this a few times- how scary the consequences are if you SI again. If you don't mind me asking, what WOULD happen if you cut again?

vulnerome · Jan 17, 2008 at 07:45 PM

I get turned into a crack *****. Fun times. Oh and I might lose a finger or two as well.

So it is kind of important that it doesn't happen.

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