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Trig Jul 01, 2024 at 10:00 AM
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Hi everyone,

I am currently 3 weeks free from self harm, it is really hard for me at the moment as, I am currently trying my best not to harm myself. I am trying everything I possibly can not to harm myself, but I am really struggling to not do it. Itís so hard.

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A therapist told me self-harm is a form of control, when you feel like things are out-of-control.

With that in mind, could you make a list of things you can control and use that in place of self-harm?

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A therapist told me self-harm is a form of control, when you feel like things are out-of-control.

With that in mind, could you make a list of things you can control and use that in place of self-harm?

Thoughts?
I donít really know what I can control, itís very difficult for me to know that.
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Something I've found helpful for me is to keep some colorful markers on hand, and when the urge becomes too much to resist, I'll write or draw on myself instead of scratching, picking or cutting.

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I don't know if you're still struggling as much as you were earlier, but when I avoid those urges it's by keeping myself incredibly busy. Cleaning sprees, learning more about whatever I'm really interested in at the time, exercising, grocery shopping if it's needed (or maybe get my favorite snack they sometimes have at the dollar store), cooking, looking at maps (obsession of mine), talking to people about their interests, whatever I can think of.

When I get to a "level of crisis down," I can use more solution-focused skills as opposed to doing stuff to do anything but self-harm. These are more the deep-breathing, grounding skills, mindfullness based exercises (yoga, tai-chi, etc), doing things to bring you into the present and focus on the idea of "I am here, I am safe, I am in control of my actions."

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