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Location: Southampton, England
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#1
Hi everyone,
I am currently 3 weeks free from self harm, it is really hard for me at the moment as, I am currently trying my best not to harm myself. I am trying everything I possibly can not to harm myself, but I am really struggling to not do it. It’s so hard. Last edited by FooZe; Jul 02, 2024 at 01:28 AM.. Reason: added trigger icon |
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Poohbah
Member Since Aug 2022
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A therapist told me self-harm is a form of control, when you feel like things are out-of-control.
With that in mind, could you make a list of things you can control and use that in place of self-harm? Thoughts? |
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#3
I don’t really know what I can control, it’s very difficult for me to know that.
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Little Miss Potty Mouth
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Something I've found helpful for me is to keep some colorful markers on hand, and when the urge becomes too much to resist, I'll write or draw on myself instead of scratching, picking or cutting.
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Monster on the Hill
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#5
I don't know if you're still struggling as much as you were earlier, but when I avoid those urges it's by keeping myself incredibly busy. Cleaning sprees, learning more about whatever I'm really interested in at the time, exercising, grocery shopping if it's needed (or maybe get my favorite snack they sometimes have at the dollar store), cooking, looking at maps (obsession of mine), talking to people about their interests, whatever I can think of.
When I get to a "level of crisis down," I can use more solution-focused skills as opposed to doing stuff to do anything but self-harm. These are more the deep-breathing, grounding skills, mindfullness based exercises (yoga, tai-chi, etc), doing things to bring you into the present and focus on the idea of "I am here, I am safe, I am in control of my actions." __________________ [Insert thought-provoking and comedic quote here] |
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Member Since Sep 2024
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Thank you for the suggestions. These help. I have started SH'ing again after years and years of being "clean". I want to stop it before it gets too far. I will try to employ some of these. Thanks again. |
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Member Since Jul 2018
Location: a place far away
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I hope you're safe, but I understand the "need" behind self harm. I'm in that space now and I don't really care about things to do instead.
__________________ Once you are real, you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.... |
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