[blackdragon]

Oh nothing serious just got yelled at by a co worker.. i cant talk about it.. i feel its my fault even though the other co workers says it isnt. I feel rotten inside... nothing i can do nor anyone else... Just wondering why am i such a pain? cant i do anything right? Am i that big of a failer?

[wisewoman]

You sound like a very responsible person to me. It is hard for me to not be perfect because when I make mistakes it makes me feel vulnerable. Some days I feel like being a hermit and never showing my face again because just working and being out there is a vulnerable thing to do. Remind yourself that you are okay and that you are good. Don't absorb the your bad stuff just because someone is angry with you. Their anger is their problem. Hope this helps.

[SS8282]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((Black))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Sorry that happened. Maybe that co-worker has some issues. Try not to listen to him/her, and listen to the other co-workers.

[Zenobia]

I find it so hard to let go of the negative comments made by other people. For instance, I have been working extremely hard on getting the book section at work into order since we moved our store to its new location. I have put in time off the clock to do this as well. It has given me headache after headache, the kind that feels like a nail running through my forhead. Anyway, I finished it, yippee. At the store meeting yesterday I showed the other employees what I did and how I was going to work it so that books will be easy to find and how I was making signs for the individual sections that will make it easier for the customers to find what they are looking for. Somehow the Gay and Lesbian section came up and a co-worker was amazed that we had one. She didn't know we did and wanted to see where it was. I lead her over and showed her. It is in the area with all the relationship stuff and life situation stuff. Well, another person said "I have a problem with it being near death and dying. and I have a problem with it being on the bottom shelf. I don't have a problem with them blah blah blah blah." I felt so frustrated. I worked hard on this and placing that catagory was extremely difficult because I didn't want to put it near psychology or self help so I put it by "right-lively hood" which is a section with book for people who are searching for their identities in their jobs. I felt of all the places this would be good. It just happens that right lively hood is a shelf below death and dying and the fact that we are a very small books store means that we don't have room to put every subject on its own book case. ANYWAY, I should have just shrugged it off but it upset me so much I came home and wanted to self injure. It is all so stupid. I mean I did the best I could. My boss has said over and over how good a job I have been doing and so have all my other co-workers. But this one negative comment which is stupid anyway sent my on a downward spiral and ARGH! I guess it is because survival as a child meant not being a problem which meant taking every negative comment and internalizing it so that there was no way I could make that mistake again because to make that mistake again would make me a problem.

I am sorry I rambled on. Just wanted you to know that you are not the only one.
Carrie <font color="blue">

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Carrie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You did great! Remember that you can't please all of the people all of the time. One more thing to keep in mind: Remember what a great person I think you are! I'm not alone in this thinking, so...

(Jeez! Something has to go on the bottom shelf! If you changed places with something else, you'd have those people *****ing! Dang! Forget it and pat yourself on the back! )

[blackdragon]

Thanks... last nite my mind just kept rambiling.. i was so worried that i would be written up... But one of my coworkers said if she ever written u up for that, that i should tell my boss that it was very rude, inappropriate, and degrading to do that to me infront of people and fellow coworkers.. and that she should of handled it better... Well my boss today seems to not know what happened yesterday.. hopfully it remains a secret.. i dont think i could handle her..... thanks for the help.... i did slip up, the thoughts got to me.. im ok now....