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#1
Oct 31, 2008, 11:43 AM
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I am a 7 year cutter. Now I have been clean for 4 months! I am so excited!
 But my awesome freind, we'll call her Spring, has started cutting again. She read this book called CUT, and now can't stop. She has over 40 on her arms! It bugs me!!! No one is trying to help her, her boyfreind and her other freinds could care less! But I really want to help her get through this. As an ex-cutter, I know how damaging it can be. I have the scars to prove it. She told me in these exact words, "I like it, its fun. I guess you could say I'm self destructive." And then she giggles. I kind of wanted to whack her on the head.  I'm really at a loss what to say to her. I do think she wants help...her hinting is so obvious. She has a fastination with crazy houses and straight jackets...so I'm not sure if she's trying to get to go to one. I know I have to tell someone, I told my mom and she says to just be there for her. any tips on how to get her to stop? It took me 7 years to! It shouldn't be the same for her/// P.S. She's ADHD too...I don't know if this has soemthing to do with the over the top cutting.... |
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Nov 02, 2008, 10:45 PM
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 (((((((GothGirl)))))))))))Well, what about talking to your guidance counsellor at school about this? Some sort of other "older figure" who might be able to help? Sometimes people cut for attention... is that what she may be doing? If she's a danger to herself though, you need to ask for help.
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Nov 03, 2008, 05:27 AM
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Well....the fact that she is so open about it says SOMETHING ( not sure what!). Even if it is a means to get attention....that is a pretty "out there" way to do it, you know? I agree with Christina86....maybe bringing it to the attention of your guidance counsellor will help her get the attention and help that she needs.
And congratulations to you for being SI free for 4 months! I know how hard it is, and that's a huge accomplishment. Please be careful to not let your friend trigger you. 
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#4
Nov 04, 2008, 12:42 PM
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yeah I'd say she has a problem. It doesn't matter if she likes it or not, it's SI and sounds like she is in the addiction phase. When we cut (assuming most of the people in this forum have a problem or have had a problem), we release endorphins and can get like a high from it. It is addicting for a reason, to escape, to feel better(high) or whatever. I'm also a recovering drug addict and I can only be an example for another addict. Tell her you care and if she wants to talk about changing you are available. But remember you need to take care of yourself first. If she is triggering you, tell her and don't spend as much time with her. I loved my sponsees when they would relapse but I did not need to be around them when they were high. Tell her it bothers you when she romanticizes it and that when you are around her your'e not going to hang out with her when she's obsessing out loud. She has to want to change. You can't recover for her. Sometimes reading self harm books can even trigger me. Take care.
 Together we can.
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Nov 05, 2008, 02:36 PM
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Congratulations on your own struggle to quit cutting yourself. I too cut at one time, many years ago. My therapist (do you have one?) helped me quit. I remember I had a few relapses and that was that. It is interesting that your friend talks about it. It would be great if your friend had a therapist to guide her. Even an intelligent priest, pastor, or rabbi might be helpful. Always remember though to put your own mental health first.
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#6
Nov 06, 2008, 11:04 AM
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Thank you guys!
I did actually have a relapse after she had cut, I felt pretty guilty. But we are having a contest to see who can quit the fastest. I threw my razors away and she gave me her things to throw away. She's been calling every day to give me the updates, and basically I think she's serious about quitting. SO, alls going pretty good! Thank you guys for the advice! I did tell someone and they are helping her out as well> Thank you again ya'll! Brooke
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#7
Nov 07, 2008, 01:47 PM
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Good job gothgirl..All we have is today. Sometimes when we help out someone else it helps us. We see in others what we see in ourselves sometimes. When you reached out to her, you were reaching out to yourself. You can do this.
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#8
Nov 07, 2008, 02:19 PM
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my little bat friends to the left are flying over to you to give you some love with their bat wings. demonica
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#9
Nov 13, 2008, 12:29 AM
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thats a great contest! seeing who can quit the fastes. once you get past the point of the actual point of cutting, you get to the point of it being life threating. so just dont get to that point. because thats where i am. and its not helping with me trying to quit. but im so glad that you two are supporting each other. and that you threw away the things you used.
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