Home Menu

Menu



advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
anonymous112713
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Default Apr 08, 2012 at 11:53 PM
  #1
How much porn is considered an addiction, or obsessive or not average...? ...
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote

advertisement
Anonymous32912
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Default Apr 09, 2012 at 12:19 AM
  #2
Quote:
Originally Posted by LolaCabanna View Post
How much porn is considered an addiction, or obsessive or not average...? ...
...I'm guessing the same as any other addiction Lola,

if it's having an impact on life real bad...then it's an addiction I spose.

...and the rest is all subjective to what a persons needs are?

some people have more libido than others, some might have none...so what is obsessive for one.....maybe aint enough for another! I don't know what average porn use is?...I'm wondering that there is no average...not with porn....(37.5 minutes a day per person as recommended by the government of the sex world!....haha)

and who cares what any one else thinks, as long as your life isn't a mess because of it...then it's probably not an addiction...just a really cool hobby
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
ponder1973
Member
 
ponder1973's Avatar
 
Member Since May 2012
Location: WA
Posts: 94
12
40 hugs
given
Default May 03, 2012 at 01:31 PM
  #3
If you are a full blown addict, it has been my experience that any pornography is too much. Sex addiction is just like alcoholism in some ways. Most people can have a drink or two and it's no big deal. Alcoholics can't even have a sip or it disrupts their lives all over again. Sexaholics are the same way, if we indulge in any lust at all we are in for another bender.

Anyway, that's my two cents.
ponder1973 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
autumnleaves
anonymous112713
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Default May 12, 2012 at 12:18 AM
  #4
So then how often do you masturbate? Are you male or female ? Relationship or No? Average day?

female - yes relationship - once a day minimum
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
LadyShadow
Wanderer of Distant Stars
 
LadyShadow's Avatar
 
Member Since May 2012
Location: North Carolina, USA. Originally New York
Posts: 24,961 (SuperPoster!)
12
9,375 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default May 12, 2012 at 12:36 AM
  #5
I would say I am a female - once or twice a day honestly it depends on my mood. You know I can go days without doing it or do it six times in one day. I don't get it. In my case, it's because of boredom. Or if I have a very sexually charged dream, when I wake up and I HAVE to. But those are rare.

Addiction? I would say its like with anything else like everyone else said. Everything done in moderation isn't an addiction. But, I can see it getting out of control. I thought I was a major sex addict when I turned 30, when I realized, along with help from my T that it was just a phase in my life I was going through.

__________________
Tales of Love, Motivation, and An Interesting Journey - Please Subscribe to my Website on WordPress:
Inspired Odyssey's Path to Wellness and Love
LadyShadow is online now   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
insideout
Veteran Member
 
insideout's Avatar
 
Member Since Oct 2005
Location: inside the matrix
Posts: 687
18
262 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default May 13, 2012 at 11:54 PM
  #6
female. relationship: no. How many times a day? change that to per week or month and I'd say: between once a week and once a month.
insideout is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
ponder1973
Member
 
ponder1973's Avatar
 
Member Since May 2012
Location: WA
Posts: 94
12
40 hugs
given
Default May 14, 2012 at 11:32 AM
  #7
Quote:
Originally Posted by LolaCabanna View Post
So then how often do you masturbate? Are you male or female ? Relationship or No? Average day?

female - yes relationship - once a day minimum
I try never to masturbate. I am male. Married.

I am a sex addict though so I am totally different and the rules that apply to me don't apply to normies. I try to let my wife initiate sex and I try not to manipulate her into initiating sex.

Sometimes I can go weeks with no sexual activity of any kind and not even miss it. Other times I can't seem to last more than an hour or two.

Everyone is different, even among addicts. My goal is to stop being driven and controlled by lust. If I don't I will eventually end up imprisoned, diseased, divorced without contact with my babies and penniless. It has become obvious to me that any viewing of pornography or masturbation takes me further along the addiction. I have to stop. That doesn't mean everyone should do what I do. I'm sorry I implied that. I'm just giving my experience.

Best of luck to all of you.
ponder1973 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
lost in florida
 
Thanks for this!
Nannylou
hamster-bamster
Account Suspended
 
Member Since Sep 2011
Location: Northern California
Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!)
12
3,729 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jun 11, 2012 at 05:58 PM
  #8
Before the divorce and before starting to take psychiatric drugs that make me unorgasmic, I usually masturbated about once a day (by once I mean a session of masturbation with multiple orgasms). In retrospect, I regret not turning some of these sessions into mutual sex with my husband. I would say that masturbation was therefore not without its price. I masturbated purely to my thoughts and fantasies and dreams, not to porn - porn does not turn me on at all. May be I simply was not exposed to the right style of porn.
hamster-bamster is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
bobbyjacks
New Member
 
Member Since Aug 2012
Location: socal
Posts: 2
11
Grin Aug 18, 2012 at 01:12 PM
  #9
Quote:
Originally Posted by LolaCabanna View Post
So then how often do you masturbate? Are you male or female ? Relationship or No? Average day?

female - yes relationship - once a day minimum
i masturbate at least twice aday. but sometimes i binge masturbate. that can last about 2 to 6 hours. i just don't want the feeling to end. i don't believe i'll ever be able to stop. the feelings are to intense too pleasurable. i love porn, i can feel that i'm part of what i'm watching.
bobbyjacks is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Emptty
Member
 
Emptty's Avatar
 
Member Since Apr 2012
Posts: 264
12
11 hugs
given
Default Aug 19, 2012 at 04:57 PM
  #10
If it interferes with your life or feels out of control then it's too much.

Someone once told me the more you watch porn the more you objectify women(in my case, men) at the time I didn't believe it but now I do. Being sexual with a loved one is so exciting, the human body is so beautiful but porn just takes away the mystery, makes it harder to be attreacted to 'the real thing' and makes you less sympathetic for the opposite gender and their sexuality.

I have issues with sex... I'm addicted to porn and I'm dealing with the negative effects. I started out watching occasionally and it tturned bad.

Good luck.
Move carefully towards this. Try to respect yourself and people of the opposite gender, whether you watch a ton of porn or choose not to.
Emptty is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Emptty
Member
 
Emptty's Avatar
 
Member Since Apr 2012
Posts: 264
12
11 hugs
given
Default Aug 19, 2012 at 04:59 PM
  #11
Also, the more you masturbate and watch porn the harder it is to orgasm when you're doing the real thing!! Your significant other may feel inadequate because of this, I know mine did!

Btw, I'm female.. 2-20 times a day. No relationship but many sexual partners. Not normal haha
Emptty is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
hamster-bamster
Account Suspended
 
Member Since Sep 2011
Location: Northern California
Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!)
12
3,729 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Aug 23, 2012 at 09:57 PM
  #12
Quote:
Originally Posted by Emptty View Post
Also, the more you masturbate and watch porn the harder it is to orgasm when you're doing the real thing!! Your significant other may feel inadequate because of this, I know mine did!

Btw, I'm female.. 2-20 times a day. No relationship but many sexual partners. Not normal haha
I have never watched porn for pleasure, just masturbated to thoughts, but I have never found any inverse connection between masturbatory orgasms and the "real thing"! They were both pretty good!
hamster-bamster is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
kristimanilla
Junior Member
 
kristimanilla's Avatar
 
Member Since Jan 2012
Location: Georgia
Posts: 17
12
Default Aug 29, 2012 at 01:47 AM
  #13
Quote:
Originally Posted by PlatinumHeart View Post
I would say I am a female - once or twice a day honestly it depends on my mood. You know I can go days without doing it or do it six times in one day. I don't get it. In my case, it's because of boredom. Or if I have a very sexually charged dream, when I wake up and I HAVE to. But those are rare.

Addiction? I would say its like with anything else like everyone else said. Everything done in moderation isn't an addiction. But, I can see it getting out of control. I thought I was a major sex addict when I turned 30, when I realized, along with help from my T that it was just a phase in my life I was going through.
I think finding out whether it is a habit or an addiction is also a good idea. Just because you do something out of habit doesn't mean it is a bad thing. However, if you are addicted then I would address the issue with a professional as well as posting on here. Addiction would be like if you think about it all the time and it affects your normal day to day life. Can you orgasm without the pornography is also a way you can identify how it affects you. I've heard it can desensitize people and eventually they are unable to orgasm without it. That is no good.

__________________
~Kristi
kristimanilla is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
kala83
Veteran Member
 
kala83's Avatar
 
Member Since Jul 2012
Location: Columbia,MO
Posts: 638
11
88 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Sep 15, 2012 at 03:21 PM
  #14
I am un sure if i have an issue with a sexual addiction or not...I do have a very high libido and I enjoy having sex wither thats with someone or masturbating but its not truly as though I feel like I can't function with out it. I just find it enjoyable. and I know that getting off is a rather healthy thing for you to do.

I got to a point in my relational life I struggled so much with sex with others and making expections for others that I just started feeling odd I guess. A lot of my friends always would say to me.

"you need to love your self before someone else can love you" so I became more affirmed I guess in masturbating and finding ways to make love to myself when I did not have a partner of my own.

Some days I have a bad issue with keeping how much I do it at bay and sometimes not so much. But I think that might be that i possibly have ADHD and that can have an impact on your impulsiveness
kala83 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
lost in florida
Junior Member
 
Member Since Sep 2012
Posts: 7
11
7 hugs
given
Default Sep 18, 2012 at 03:18 PM
  #15
Quote:
Originally Posted by ponder1973 View Post
I try never to masturbate. I am male. Married.

I am a sex addict though so I am totally different and the rules that apply to me don't apply to normies. I try to let my wife initiate sex and I try not to manipulate her into initiating sex.

Sometimes I can go weeks with no sexual activity of any kind and not even miss it. Other times I can't seem to last more than an hour or two.

Everyone is different, even among addicts. My goal is to stop being driven and controlled by lust. If I don't I will eventually end up imprisoned, diseased, divorced without contact with my babies and penniless. It has become obvious to me that any viewing of pornography or masturbation takes me further along the addiction. I have to stop. That doesn't mean everyone should do what I do. I'm sorry I implied that. I'm just giving my experience.

Best of luck to all of you.
Wow! Cudo's to you for being so honest with yourself and others about the nature of your addiction. I wish my husband could be so insightful. We are on the verge of divorce, and are subject to loosing hundreds of thousands of dollars due to his infidelity. Even more importantly, we would have the most phenominal marriage and partnership if he didn't cheat. It seems so obvious from the outside, but he still casts the blame on other things.

Good luck with your battle. Do you mind if I add your family to my prayers?
lost in florida is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
ponder1973
Member
 
ponder1973's Avatar
 
Member Since May 2012
Location: WA
Posts: 94
12
40 hugs
given
Default Sep 18, 2012 at 03:31 PM
  #16
Quote:
Originally Posted by lost in florida View Post
Wow! Cudo's to you for being so honest with yourself and others about the nature of your addiction. I wish my husband could be so insightful. We are on the verge of divorce, and are subject to loosing hundreds of thousands of dollars due to his infidelity. Even more importantly, we would have the most phenominal marriage and partnership if he didn't cheat. It seems so obvious from the outside, but he still casts the blame on other things.

Good luck with your battle. Do you mind if I add your family to my prayers?
That would be great Lost in Florida. Prayer always helps, thank you. I'll say a prayer for your family too.
ponder1973 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
OneInBillions
Member
 
OneInBillions's Avatar
 
Member Since Oct 2012
Location: Utah, USA
Posts: 251
11
23 hugs
given
Default Nov 15, 2012 at 02:42 AM
  #17
Hopefully this doesn't count as a thread necro, but I am concerned about this too. I'm male, no relationship, and I masturbate 6-7 times a week, normally, and upwards of 14 times in a week when I'm feeling particularly horny. Some weeks I find myself thinking about sex all the time, and I get so anxious to leave work just so I can go straight home and do it. Sometimes I really worry that I'm addicted to pornography and masturbation, but then that might be my strict Christian upbringing rearing its ugly head...

I really want to know, how much is too much? Are there actually negative physical effects to so-called "over-masturbation," or is it just healthy behavior? I've tried Googling it so many times but there are too many differing opinions out there, especially with all the anti-masturbation activists. The Wikipedia article on libido states "there is no measure of what is a healthy level for sex." I'd like to believe that I just have a strong libido, or maybe its just my instincts screaming at me because I'm 28 and still a virgin... But I'm worried it could be a symptom of a deeper problem.
OneInBillions is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
hamster-bamster
Account Suspended
 
Member Since Sep 2011
Location: Northern California
Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!)
12
3,729 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Nov 15, 2012 at 09:55 PM
  #18
Quote:
Originally Posted by OneInBillions View Post
Hopefully this doesn't count as a thread necro, but I am concerned about this too. I'm male, no relationship, and I masturbate 6-7 times a week, normally, and upwards of 14 times in a week when I'm feeling particularly horny. Some weeks I find myself thinking about sex all the time, and I get so anxious to leave work just so I can go straight home and do it. Sometimes I really worry that I'm addicted to pornography and masturbation, but then that might be my strict Christian upbringing rearing its ugly head...

I really want to know, how much is too much? Are there actually negative physical effects to so-called "over-masturbation," or is it just healthy behavior? I've tried Googling it so many times but there are too many differing opinions out there, especially with all the anti-masturbation activists. The Wikipedia article on libido states "there is no measure of what is a healthy level for sex." I'd like to believe that I just have a strong libido, or maybe its just my instincts screaming at me because I'm 28 and still a virgin... But I'm worried it could be a symptom of a deeper problem.
I would not worry about 6-7 times a week which is basically once a day so it does not cut into your other activities - just stop worrying and be happy, hopefully you will get into partner sex eventually.
hamster-bamster is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Real Magic
Member
 
Real Magic's Avatar
 
Member Since Sep 2012
Location: Washington
Posts: 72
11
8 hugs
given
Default Nov 16, 2012 at 11:51 PM
  #19
I think it depends on the person, just like some people can drink socially and its no big thing, while others take one sip and go raging alcoholic instantly.

But i think a good rule of thumb would be if porn starts interfering with your ability to socialize or deal with life or find a partner than its probably too much.

__________________

Real Magic is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
OneInBillions
Member
 
OneInBillions's Avatar
 
Member Since Oct 2012
Location: Utah, USA
Posts: 251
11
23 hugs
given
Default Nov 18, 2012 at 03:05 AM
  #20
Quote:
But i think a good rule of thumb would be if porn starts interfering with your ability to socialize or deal with life or find a partner than its probably too much.
Yeah, but that's the thing. I don't socialize with others at all, so I obviously can't find a partner. I'd say I don't deal with life very well either... But that's probably just unrelated mental health issues, right?

This is kind of why I'm worried. I really can't tell if my daily porn fixes and frequent masturbation habits are a problem in and of themselves, or if they are just symptoms of a larger problem.

Guess I won't find out with any certainty, either.
OneInBillions is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Real Magic
Reply
attentionThis is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 10:00 PM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.