Masturbation as a Stress Reliever???

uchiha · Dec 13, 2012, 04:00 PM

Hi, I have general anxiety and I have tried different ways of relaxing, but what seems to work best for me is masturbation. However, I am concern because I find that it can also triggers my anxiety symptoms, like a tension in my head and heart palpitations. The palpitations happens afterwards. Has anyone ever experience such symptoms during/after masturbating?

A little history:
I am no newbie to masturbating, I have a long history of it. Masturbating does not hinder me having sex with my wife. I love having sex with her. I have no interest in having sex with other people. But I do know I need a little extra sometimes. I got to handle business when she is not in the mood.

It just occurred to me, that I don't have the symptoms when having sex.

AngelWolf3 · Dec 14, 2012, 08:45 AM

This could be way off base, this is just a hypothesis. Maybe because you are focusing soully on you when you masturbate, you are more aware of the anxiety symptoms that you are experiencing? Or they seem stronger because when you are having sex, you are also focused on your wife. I don't know? Just a thought. (I tend to notice my heart range change/it beats way harder than I would normally notice when I am alone.)

Don't know if that helps or not?

uchiha · Dec 14, 2012, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by AngelWolf3

This could be way off base, this is just a hypothesis. Maybe because you are focusing soully on you when you masturbate, you are more aware of the anxiety symptoms that you are experiencing? Or they seem stronger because when you are having sex, you are also focused on your wife. I don't know? Just a thought. (I tend to notice my heart range change/it beats way harder than I would normally notice when I am alone.)

Don't know if that helps or not?

That is plausible! When I am with her I do tend to focus on her reaction/pleasure which feeds into or enriches my pleasure. Whereas, when I am alone I am focused solely on me which amplifies awareness of my heart beating, etc.

Ok, it seems that masturbation might NOT be the route for me.

Thanks AngelWolf3

CantExplain · Dec 15, 2012, 12:33 AM

Do you experience any guilt or shame with respect to masturbation?

krisakira · Dec 15, 2012, 01:24 AM

My boyfriend will not engage in anything sexual when he even has the slightest headache because it exacerbates it, and makes his head hurt worse. I think it has to do with blood pressure.

uchiha · Dec 15, 2012, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Do you experience any guilt or shame with respect to masturbation?

Yeah, I do sometimes. I feel like I shouldn't be engaging in masturbation at my age, even if it has become more a stress reliever activity. I am sure there are better ways to handle stress

. I workout at the gym regularly. I also love to run. But those activities don't relax me at all, if anything I am more pumped. I can do a half marathon, and still have enough energy to have sex later that night. My wife don't get how I can have so much energy at times.

I don't smoke, drink alcohol, or do any drugs. I am very health conscious.

uchiha · Dec 15, 2012, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by krisakira

My boyfriend will not engage in anything sexual when he even has the slightest headache because it exacerbates it, and makes his head hurt worse. I think it has to do with blood pressure.

That could be it as well for me. Yeah, it seems I need to give up my favorite pastime.

Dec 15, 2012, 08:02 PM

i masterbate almost everyday, but i do it watching porn , just once a day, stress reliever, i dont see anything wrong with it, but i dont have a girlfriend.

Ladyzero · Dec 15, 2012, 08:29 PM

Masturbation is a stress release. Why feel guilt or give it up. Suppressing that urge will take some doing (aren't men born w a n k i n g ?) and the stress will build up. Men and women were designed to be sexual, masturbation is part of that. Men in general seem to do it more than women in my view, but we do it nearly, if not as much. My bf tells me every morning he is thinking of me, as he takes care of his morning glory, and again at night, he's usually at it again. It is part of our sex lives and not instead of, sex with our partners. A harmless pleasure, to be enjoyed, not suppressed.

Jan1212 · Jan 02, 2013, 02:27 PM

What Angel said is fact, your sympathetic nervous system while thinking about your woman, tangles with your gratification desires- no it's not bad - that's what I call being passionate

While masturbating, it is just you

sex is complex it involves a lot of things I love that feeling

The Friend · Jan 05, 2013, 10:07 AM

I do not know much about this topic actually, however I would say I think that masturbation might have an emotional effect if you are emotionally depressed, or insecure. On the other hand however having sex with your wife, gives you to intimately understand that you are loved, wanted and supported. And somehow brings comfort, which masturbation rarely brings!! Another aspect is a probable unconscious trigger that would possibly give you an impression that you are "being unfaithful" as you are not with "her"(is not always true). I understand your type of stress as a possible actually indicative of a disturbing event in the past which lead to an an emotional insecurity, trying to express itself through excessive sex. You must deal with the little hurt child in you who is crying out for emotional support. Best Wishes, The Friend.

hamster-bamster · Mar 01, 2013, 12:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Ladyzero

Masturbation is a stress release. Why feel guilt or give it up. Suppressing that urge will take some doing (aren't men born w a n k i n g ?) and the stress will build up. Men and women were designed to be sexual, masturbation is part of that. Men in general seem to do it more than women in my view, but we do it nearly, if not as much. My bf tells me every morning he is thinking of me, as he takes care of his morning glory, and again at night, he's usually at it again. It is part of our sex lives and not instead of, sex with our partners. A harmless pleasure, to be enjoyed, not suppressed.

That is very sweet, his thinking of you and letting you know aboout it.

Mar 01, 2013, 09:32 PM

masturbation can make you feel guilty if you do it to excess. besides, it changes your entire mood later during that day. Teh more guilty you feel about it, the worse it gets. I advise you to not be in closed spaces but in public areas so that everyone can see you and know what you're doing.

hamster-bamster · Mar 01, 2013, 10:08 PM

Masturbation cannot make anyone feel guilty. It can relieve stress or cause headaches or cause a wide range of other PHYSIOLOGICAL reactions, and give joy or tire you or make you sleepy etc but it cannot make you feel guilty. It does not have that kind of power. The only thing that can make you feel guilty is your mind.

Mar 01, 2013, 10:40 PM

are there specific medications that can cause you to become more sexual than you should?

hamster-bamster · Mar 01, 2013, 10:49 PM

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are there specific medications that can cause you to become more sexual than you should?

Wellbutrin increases the drive in some people which is seen as a positive effect.

In general, if you think that you can develop a drug that makes people more sexual, you should drop everything you have been doing and start visiting venture capitalists to get funding. Do invite me to sit on your board, please.

Mar 01, 2013, 11:07 PM

i take sudogest to clear my sinuses and every time i do, i take up the old habit again.

hamster-bamster · Mar 01, 2013, 11:10 PM

Is. Sudogest brand or generic?

Mar 01, 2013, 11:11 PM

what do you mean by that?

Mar 01, 2013, 11:13 PM

i think it might have been the prozac or ritalin that i took several years ago. i'm blaming it totally on that. if they're the reasons why i'm doing what i'm doing now, then obviously that's it.

hamster-bamster · Mar 01, 2013, 11:32 PM

Prozac can kill sex drive.

If the sinus medication is brand, meaning, new and under patent, then contact the manufacturer with your discovery. They may pay you well for that.

If the sinus medication is generic, meaning, old and off patent, then you can post your discovery on the internet for everybody to see and take advantage of. You will not get paid but will do public service.

You need to understand that in the world of adults, and, especially, those with mental illness or diabetes, becoming more sexual is desirable. Ok? Not a problem, but a goal. So if you know how to reach that goal, go ahead and help the mankind.

Mar 01, 2013, 11:57 PM

how does prozac kill your sex drive? i thought it only had to do with anger management. and also when i eat certain foods like spare ribs or drink too much jamba juice after school for snacks, i become a little sexual when i get home.

hamster-bamster · Mar 02, 2013, 12:01 AM

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Originally Posted by heyitsme7

how does prozac kill your sex drive? i thought it only had to do with anger management. and also when i eat certain foods like spare ribs or drink too much jamba juice after school for snacks, i become a little sexual when i get home.

You need to start a blog with your observations about the connection between spare ribs, jamba juice, decongestants, and drive. You can out banners ads for JJ to earn a bit.

Prozac erases the drive in some people. In others, makes it very difficult to reach orgasm.