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Default Feb 05, 2014 at 02:51 AM
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I've been dating a guy for 3 months now and at the beginning of our relationship we discussed sexual desires, fantasies etc. We both admitted to having an interest in or fantasy of having a threesome or possibly swinging with another couple. However, this was all prior to any real feelings evolving between us. Since then he constantly brings up sexual things in conversation (mostly via text). We can be talking about the weather and somehow he finds a way to mention wanting me with another girl. He watches porn at least 4 times a week and I'm assuming it's more often than I know about. We have had a few arguments about him constantly talking about sexual things and I have expressed how much it bothers me yet the behavior continues. He apologizes and says it won't happen again, but the following week he goes right back to saying the same things. The more I try to explain how I feel he seems to be very avoidant as he completely changes the subject. He denies having any sort of sexual addiction, but his behavior seems odd to me. Just last week while we were having sex he mentioned something explicit involving another girl. I tried not to get too upset by it, but it did bother me a great deal knowing he was thinking of that during our love making session. I feel there is a big difference between having a fantasy and actually acting on it. I do my best to try to fulfill him sexually, but it seems that he's always obsessing over his fantasies. Is this normal behavior or does my boyfriend have a problem?
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Default Feb 20, 2014 at 07:16 PM
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As it has become so readily available, more and more men are seeming to have issues with porn. Whether or not your boyfriend is "addicted"? Only he and you can answer that question by going to a therapist pr taking a self-assessment test.

But, I would say he has a problem with respecting your "boundaries" or "limits". You've told him you don't want to hear about those types of fantasies or graphic sex talk, yet he ignores you. That's a warning flag to me that he's not mature enough or capable of "respecting" your boundaries.
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Default Apr 20, 2014 at 11:59 AM
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There is no such thing as sex addict... but in your story, I can say that your boyfriend is uncontented of what he have.. it sounds like I judge him but sorry to say it..

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Default Apr 23, 2014 at 07:45 PM
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have sex with him more maybe invite another female friend to join or two
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Default Apr 23, 2014 at 10:42 PM
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#1 there is such thing as sex addiction

#2 don't listen to browning

He will never be satisfied with only you, period. If you want to have a wild threesome and go swinging then go for it and have your fun. If you're not looking to do that then break up with him immediately because he's not going to let up on this. He'll either break you down and make you do something you don't want to do or look elsewhere if you don't want to do it.

But if that's really what you want to do then listen to browning.
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