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#1
Feb 17, 2014, 01:32 AM
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I have been married for 10 years, but I have had a boyfriend for the last year and a half. My husband and I have never really had a good sex life. It has always been boring and lacks passion of any kind. No matter what I try to spice things up, it doesnt work. Which is why I found a boyfriend in the first place. Now, I cant stop seeing the boyfriend. I want to be with him sexually every day. ALL day. He is passionate. Loving. Sexy.
My problem now is that I feel like I need more. I cant see the boyfriend every day.......really only get to see him a few times a month if even that much. So now I want to find someone more. I know its wrong, but I am not happy unless I have sex at least once a day. I get depressed if I dont have sex. Masturbating doesnt help. I need the closeness of being with a person. I feel like a *****. But I cant get what I want or need at home. My husband is a wonderful man who is perfect in every way except for sex. What do I do?? |
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#2
Feb 17, 2014, 02:24 AM
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What do you want? You said that you want more- is that more sex, more of the person, or more new partners. Are you in love with the new one?
If you feel this person is worth it. You already have your choice-- but if you think there is a happy ending at the end of this, with both, sorry hon, You will be sadly mistaken. Better your decide between the two while it is still your Choice to be made!! Xxo |
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#3
Feb 17, 2014, 02:29 AM
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I want more sex with the boyfriend. But it is almost impossible. He lives an hour away and I cant get over there more than I already do.
I dont know what I want. I love my husband. Like I said, besides sex, he is perfect. I love my boyfriend. He is awesome at sex and makes me feel beautiful. But we tried to have a relationship years ago and it didnt work. I wish there was a way to morph them into one man. That would be perfect. |
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#4
Feb 17, 2014, 06:52 AM
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Would your husband consider sex therapy? More than likely he is going to find out you are cheating. How will you deal with that?
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#5
Feb 17, 2014, 08:29 AM
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I can imagine a man making a thread like this. He'd be absolutely slaughtered.
You can't have both, choose one or the other. The husband should get rid of you. |
 cjw2013, emgreen, trying2survive
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#6
Feb 17, 2014, 11:33 AM
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Wow. You have a problem I WISH I had. Best thing I can tell you is to enjoy it  but seriously, think about what you are doing. I think human monogamy is played out, BUT...you are married and as you can see, the cultural expectations that tag along with that are hanging over your head and no one will cease to remind you of that. Do you love your husband? Really love him? I'm not trying to make you feel bad like some here, but I think that is a valid question that you should spend some time thinking about.
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#7
Feb 18, 2014, 08:50 PM
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Maybe you should be single , you might care for your husband and been with him for along time but you aren't fully happy and life is short and you can't keep cheating on him if you can't give up good sex then you can't be with your husband it seems like right now you need that passion in your life so you need to experience it but do it in the right way and not hurting your husband
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Feb 18, 2014, 09:26 PM
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I am surprised of the lack of remorse you show. Your poor husband....
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#9
Feb 18, 2014, 09:53 PM
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Everyone says "poor husband". HE is the one who pushed me away. HE is the one who refuses to try to change our sex life. He is the one who ignores me every day. He is the one who puts his friends above me.
I am sorry for being a cheater. It is not who I want to be. I do not feel good about it. But I do have needs. Desires. and a hubby who is unwilling to give that to me |
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Feb 18, 2014, 11:18 PM
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Mar 07, 2014, 12:39 AM
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#12
Mar 07, 2014, 01:18 AM
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This is tough. I honestly cant offer any advice past coming clean to your husband and divorcing if you're sexually incompatible. Cheating is unacceptable no matter what. Please rethink this.
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#13
Mar 07, 2014, 07:02 AM
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does your boyfriend know you have a husband? Because your cheating on not one but 2 people. What may be an idea is to seperate yourself from both for a while to figure things out. Maybe neither of them is right for you? Either way the path your on will lead to pain for all concerned. I mean no disrespect but have a heart as someones will get broken.
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