Masturbation addiction

I've had a masturbation addiction since I discovered masturbating at the age of 16. I get off usually 15-20 times a day. (I'm a female don't be mind boggled lol) And no it's not in cycles..it's 365 days every year.

For starters I don't like sex. And on that note I also don't like much touching at all. I find it very boring and because of other issues I have I have no emotional connection with my partners. Having sex with me is the equivalent to having sex with a burlap sack. I would definitely rather please myself (which is a sign of masturbation addiction - I know)
I bring people back to my place (I've always been drinking and I'm quite seductive/playful when I've been drinking) and then I realize LOL why are you here? Go take care of yourself in my bathroom...you're not getting anything.

On top of that I have never been sexually attracted to a person I've seen out and about in my entire life. I don't have crushes, I don't think anyone's hot, etc. I get aroused only at night when I'm laying in bed and I imagine that's probably because I do enjoy the feeling of orgasms. (I mean who doesn't)

My addiction I think has to do with the fact I can't stand the feeling of being turned on. So I relieve it (can take me 40 seconds or less) and then I'm relieved for a minute, couple minutes and then I'm bothered again and 20 times later well there I am.

It annoys me because it's just this unsatisfying, time consuming annoying cycle.

Does anyone just hate the feeling of being aroused? Anyone got any ways to deal with it?

Most people have some kind of addiction. At least this won't kill you.

Idk. I masturbate a lot. Not sure if it counts as an addiction. It might be one.

Doesn't it hurt after awhile? I know the skin on mine is like raw and chafed. Even some tearing. Yet I still manage to do it 3 times a day usually.Sometimes more. Usually more. I sometimes have little to no semen come out. Even if it hurts I still do it. It takes awhile too sometimes. Like a good 10-30 minutes for each session. I feel relieved for a bit but then I am just wanting to do it again. Though usually I just end up playing with myself or something until I can't hold it in anymore.

I don't really hate the feeling of being aroused though. I like to go really rough every time. Not sure how it works for girls though. I know as a I guy I like to hit it really hard. Not sure how to explain it in a more acceptable manner. I like when I give them an awkward feeling. I really enjoy the sensation. I have a hard time getting off otherwise.

The only thing that makes me stop is when it stings too much because the skin is torn. Then I just sleep it off and it feels good enough for a few more rounds. Though I can go a round or two with it stinging even because it just adds into the experience.

Though I tend to have cycles personally. So not sure if I can compare in any way. I cycle pretty quickly though. Usually weekly.

Now that I look at what I typed I think it sounds more like bipolar lust than an addiction. Whatever.

LOL that is true. I've always gotten zero-to little satisfaction from substances. At least mine is free too, yeah?

Well if you count unsatisfied/bored partners as not relevant I guess I'm scott free.

Does it hurt? Usually no. But it get significantly less satisfying if it makes sense.

Ouch that doesn't sound very good...sounds like if you're in pain/chaffed you might have a problem too. Just an issue to work with.

It might be a manic cycle and you're hypersexual during them.

Wow, interesting. I'm no T for sure, but to me, just from what you've said, seems like your issue isn't an addiction to masturbation as much as being able to have intimacy and contact with another person and just being OK with being turned on. People need sex, so reliving that tension is normal and that's what you're doing.

Maybe you just don't get enough satisfaction from doing it yourself. For me, orgasms with a woman who I'm very connected with, physically and mentally, are on a totally different level and intensity than when I just masturbate by myself. The satisfaction with a partner can be worlds different, and the satisfaction lasts a lot longer. A lot. Even when I Skype sex with a woman, it's a whole lot better that just alone.

It would be interesting to see what your self-pleasure habits would be if you were able to enjoy being aroused, and be with another person sexually. Best of luck to you!

It probably is a manic cycle. I'm not diagnosed bipolar though so I won't say I am bipolar. I wouldn't know if it's just an addiction to masturbating or an addiction to sex or what it is. I've never had sex so. It might even be a fear of intimacy with another human being. I find it hard to be intimate with people. Intimacy is uncomfortable.

@ the OP... I'm a guy, so I hope you don't mind if I respond.... Have you ever considered having a guy help you have an orgasm? You would have to take the time to explain it to him. It might be something that would help you connect with the man in your life, if you're open to it.

Perhaps look into Sexaholics Anonymous, What is Sexaholics Anonymous?

Or possibly even a woman. Some would say that they are much more giving and tender lovers, and if you already have intimacy issues, maybe you should try a woman first. Nobody says you can't experiment, and find out what you like.

If you are feeling turned on that often in a day you may have Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD): Persistent genital arousal disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia I'd ask my doctor about it.

How is Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD) treated? | ISSM

So I'm a girl. I can't get off in under a minute. If you can, that's incredible.

I have similar intimacy issues except mine might even be more extreme. I am sexually attracted to people, I do find people hot and yet I avoid touching men at all. I have never even been in the position to have sexual contact.

I also get aroused quite frequently. However, I masturbate infrequently because I find that if I masturbate whenever I am aroused, the orgasms aren't nearly as good and they aren't even close to as fulfilling. One of the most fulfilling things for me is to let it simmer for a day or even longer and then handle it. Then again, I'm into a little pain or discomfort.

When I do masturbate, I greatly prefer to take it slowly and take time to really notice how it feels and fantasize or watch porn while doing it. I feel like making it more of an event or a special treat makes it more satisfying for me.

I feel like you might want to just try sitting with the discomfort. I feel like maybe you are hypersensitive to the feeling of arousal to the point where even mild arousal is something you can't ignore. It's kind of like if you eat the second you feel yourself have anything remotely resembling hunger. You'll become more attuned to the hunger and you end up eating more.

I disagree with some of the other posters that you should try to have someone else please you. I think that is an issue that relates to this one but is still a separate issue that needs to be addressed separately.

I see more of an avoidance behavior here than an addiction behavior (but I could be wrong) You mentioned being very uncomfortable with feeling any arousal, and trying to satiate that feeling at the first hint of it... I would try to look into that aspect of it and figure out why. You may have better luck dealing with the behavior if you look into what's behind it. Maybe beliefs around sex and arousal, or an incident(s) that may have lead to negative consequences? Maybe look at your beliefs around intimacy and close relationships? (All something to talk about with a therapist or a good friend).
I know I have issues with intimacy, so my ideas around sex and arousal are mixed up in that. Lately, I much prefer masturbation to actual sex with my wife (which really messes with our marriage). I also dislike being aroused but mine has to do with history. Maybe if you can look into why you dislike being aroused, you can either figure out how to make sex more enjoyable, or get more out of masturbation. (And for what it's worth, having sex with me was also "like having sex with a burlap bag" until I realized I liked women. It was a much more enjoyable experience with the right gender)...

As a male I can ejaculate 3 times per day until I am totally exhausted that I can't move. It is very pleasurable but so exhausting at the same time incapacitated during the weekdays and very hard not to stop. Gives me something to do.

I am starting to become more addictive (masterbate) and I masterbate 2-4 times a day. Sometimes more (like today, I'm smoking & it makes me horny) I'm also very into porn & my tastes are getting more hardcore. I need to stop if I ever want to have regular sex with a man again.

Any ideas on how to stop? Cold turkey or gradual? I have an additive personality so it's hard to stop once I've started something.

I really need anyone's advice or ideas. I'm new to this & have never told anyone til today.

Why do you believe that what you are doing has any relevance to your having a sexual relationship with a man in the future? What you are describing seems to be anxiety over a non-issue. Do you accomplish things during a day? study/work/clean/exercise - whatever it is that you plan to do during the day - do you accomplish it? If you do, there is no addiction. Addiction is a term that gets thrown around a lot without any basis. I'd say that simply by looking at posts, less than 5% of people who self-diagnose an addiction meet the criteria for addiction.

I love your answer. Your right about everything in your post & I feel so much better. Thank u

I used to be 'addicted' (No, I don't really think it's an addiction), I know what it feels like. It makes you feel 'exhausted', it got to a point where I'd think 'Should I study or should I just pleasure myself?'. On some days I'd wake up so tired that I'd skip school, if it gets to that point, then I think you need to do something. I told myself that every time I'd have sexual thoughts, I'd just go do something, like developing my hobbies and interests or meeting someone. and it worked for me.

Having said all that, I don't think it's wrong to do it every now and then.

I masturbate a lot (several times a day) and Im always bugging my husband for sex to the point he gets turned off. Usually when we have sex, I find it wasn't as good as when I do it alone.

I used to masturbate a lot in a day, I don't know but I think I've started it because of boredom. I'll put on some porn and then just go on from morning to eve and when feels like will masturbate it off. Then I just went back to my normal work. But I started noticing it when I went for a part time job in a book store in our place. I get all these thoughts and wished that I were in my room and masturbating. I lost it and I got off from the rest room of the store. After few months, I got worried and I became so frustrated and all. I started losing interests in having someone else in my life. I didn't want a partner I just went back to my room after the work. Some of my friends even thought that I'm not straight and kept distance.
After couple of years, I told my friends about the problem and one of them referred me to Bellwood Health Services, Toronto. She had actually called the service center and discussed my problem with one of the doctors there and on his suggestion I was taken for examining. 6 months of treatment and I don't feel that need for my hands to do the job. At the same time I got the interest of going to parties and meeting new people.