[amye99]

Hi...I'm married to a wonderful man in every way except his pornography use. I won't go into a lot of details...but it started affecting our sex life and my self esteem. I would consider myself very sexual/sensual and am frequently told i'm very sexy/attractive. Didn't make sense that i wasn't enough for him.
I discovered all this a few months ago when I put a keylogger on our computer and noticed history obviously being erased and porn sites visited while i was at work or caring for my aging parents. Ouch!!
Anyway my thoughts on a possible solution to this problem so many women are facing is to try a little "reverse psychology".
I would get on the computer when he was at work and look up "women oriented porn"...i.e. large penis', hunk sex...etc...you get the idea. Leave it on the history and see how he likes it!! We can have ideals and fantasies too and let him see how it makes us feel to not live up to our fantasy. Of course i'm a little bit of a rebel and this isn't probably the healthiest way to find a solution...but boy do they get the point when it involves their ego.

[jelly-bean]

I like the idea but I'm not sure it's the wisest thing you can do. Maybe you just need to sit down and talk to him and air it out.

[hamster-bamster]

I have never been in your shoes, but I think your approach is bold & gutsy and should be effective. Just note that it can be effective in unpredictable ways. Your prediction is that he would not like seeing that. It is possible. And then hopefully he will get your message. alternatively, he may not object to it, so the message you are trying to send won't be delivered. But, it would open up a channel for potentially interesting communications between the two of you. Any which way, it cannot hurt.