My Masturbation Story

Masturbation has many positive effects, losing zinc is negligible and is easily replenished.

What helps me is living next to a business. I can't masturbate because the floorboards move. I also live next to sensitive neighbours so i can't masturbate after the business finishes for the day.
I masturbate at most 1 time a day between 11 pm and 1 am.

Just a question - if you've been masturbating quite a lot since your teens (say like 13) and do it say daily - the loss of Zn, amino acids and stuff is obviously something not good - can it result in your "member" not growing as much as it should have? Zinc is important for testosterone levels as I understand it, and this has quite a bit to do with...you know...member size . Of course, it's not the only factor, but still.

I know Zn has something to do with hormones, because when I had acne as a teen, I just drank a Zn supplement and it cleared up! So, it must have something to do with hormone, especially testosterone, balance.

But, I think we are in any case not getting the stuff we need as guys from our food anymore, like Zn and other minerals/nutrients. I think masturbation is a small factor in the bigger picture of what we have to deal with today. Our food and water is all messed up. I was doing research at university on pesticides and so many of them are "estrogen (female hormone)-mimicking", and this stuff is dangerous at microgram (one millionth of a gram) per litre levels! Some are capable of turning male frogs into females even at these low levels! We are drinking this crap daily .

There are no positive effects to masturbation, and that includes this lie that if you don't masturbate you're more likely to get prostate cancer. And zinc isn't so easy to replenish and there's more then just zinc you lose.

Masturbation just drains a man of energy.

So stop trying - it is a form of insanity (a famous quote misattributed to Einstein) to do the same thing again and again expecting different results.

As many people have told you already, your self-diagnosis of addiction is 1) wrong and 2) backwards (that is, you do not understand the cause-and-effect of what has been going on in your life).

On (1) - as many people, again, have tried to explain to you, the diagnosis of addiction does not hinge on the frequency of masturbation but instead hinges on the degree of functional impairment. Meaning, your life has to be completely screwed up for you to be diagnosed with addiction. Your life is not completely screwed up - you are lonely and lack social life (and, likely, social skills...); your life is very monotonous and you have not found ways to help change that boring pattern, but still, you are functional. So you are not addicted - you do not qualify for the label.

(2) Since your life lacks variety, entertainment, zest, purpose, and direction, you might be drawn to masturbate a little more often to fill those gaps. Masturbation does not cause the lack of variety, entertainment, zest, purpose, good company etc. in your life. Trying to alter the pattern and frequency of your masturbation in the hopes of improving the quality of your life is pointless and an example of magical thinking. You need to actually make your life better, and that would require effort - not abstinence from masturbation, but an all-out effort to acquire social skills, friends, interests, etc.

You also labeled yourself abnormal (not normal). There is no norm when it comes to masturbation, and you are well within the range of what should not be causing you concerns.

You are sort of like a puppy chasing his tail in your attempts, again and again, to curtail masturbation frequency.

Set goals - not with respect to frequency of masturbation, but with respect to bettering your life. Since you watch too much manga, one obvious goal for you is to spend time outside, every day, without your cell phone. Just walk in your city - mindless wandering. Another goal could be to learn to cook - you won't be watching manga (you cannot be chopping with a chef's knife and watching anything other than your fingers) and you would develop skills that would help you socially later on (you could invite people over, you could cook at your girlfriend's place when you acquire a gf and impress her with that - lots of options). You could take classes - not only for new skills or educational advancement, but to widen your social circle.

A whole lot of other good things are possible if you just spend some time thinking it through.

And then, maybe, when you are too tired after doing those things, you would just crash and fall asleep, and next morning you will rush out the door to meet somebody, and, lo and behold, one day you will catch yourself thinking that you have not masturbated for a few days because you have been too busy. And that would be good for you. And if you continue to masturbate, it would be good for you as well - this goes back to the fact that there is no established norm for the frequency of masturbation.

I have seen a lot of teens like you on this site and their suffering - completely self-inflicted - is a very frustrating sight to watch. The thing is that those people who try to curtail masturbation end up, for the most part, talking about masturbation, or non-masturbation, or their struggles, and so on and so forth, and how they have managed to go for 8 days and 4.5 hours without masturbation but then succumbed to the old pattern etc. - nauseating.

All that time talking about the 8 days and 4.5 hours not masturbating could be spent actually doing something useful. Say, you apologized for your English, but your English is fine - go to your local public library or another resource that organizes volunteer effort and sign up to teach English to somebody who cannot pay for classes. That is way better than thinking about masturbation - you will have helped somebody succeed.

I think you need to read up on OUTWARD THINKING, because you are basically marinating in your own anxieties with no end in sight. You have talents and gifts for others - it is time to start discovering what they are, and not waste the precious days of your youth being a pickle in a brine of guilt that gives nobody, and you in the first place, any benefit.

That we are drinking this daily and not turning into frogs should tell you something about whether the tales about frogs are true.

Well, it is down to body size of the animal/human, frogs are small and have a different system. It's not that people are worried about. And, they are true! I have seen the articles in journals and the microscope slide images.

What I am saying is, at 2 micrograms per litre of water (which is extremely low level and very possible in almost all waters), this stuff does permanent life-altering changes to a male frog, what damage can't it be causing to us? We can't see it because we are larger creatures, but I am trying to show the guys here that "possible damage" caused by masturbating might be the least of our worries at the end of the day, if you consider the crap we are taking in everyday in our food and water. These things act like female hormones in the body, which can't be good for us men any way you look at it.

You will never turn into a frog my friend, that is impossible. This stuff is affecting hormonal systems in the body, so badly, that it can change FOR EXAMPLE a male frog into a female one.

I see your point - there is also pollution in the air etc.

I assure you that masturbation is not unhealthy. Sex, in any form sends much needed endorphins to your brain that aid in giving you balanced brain chemicals. I'm not a doc, but I know this from research. Don't feel guilty for it, enjoy it and allow yourself to feel sassifyed.

You are right about re-absorption. It's not necessary to release, (Your body absorbs sperm as quickly as it makes it). The endorphins your brain gets from sex can also be had from other sources like food, so you aren't depriving it by not having sex or masturbating.

Personal experience and my own research tells me the opposite. But I don't want to get into an argument about it. Everyone can do what they want.

This thread is so full of ignorance and misunderstanding it is unreal.
Do female hormones harm men? Yes if too much is taken in.
Is masturbating once a day normal? Yes, any other answer is pure BS.
If you wait for a day or two between sessions you may have heightened sensations.
Does masturbation make you hair fall out? Emphatically, NO!
Too much testosterone causes hair loss as do may medications.

Not masturbating or having sex frequently and regularly can cause muscle atrophy. If that happens your orgasms will be terrible, painful and very weak. This is a fact! Try Googling "Use or lose it" with regards to sex.

If quote something, such as, masturbation causes you to lose to much zinc, then post a link to a REPUTABLE source not some stupid article you read in a Womens Magazine!

OP you got some good ideas about making some positive changes in your life but other than those DO IT EVERY DAMN DAY IF YOU WANT!

That is my point exactly! Masturbation is the least of the problems facing a man's health, even if it can be regarded as a problem, which I think it can't even. Hence my posting on chemicals, etc. in water poses a bigger threat than masturbating ever could. That's my point, everyone is worried about masturbation causing you to lose this and lose that, but why worry about that if there are other things that are much worse for modern man's health?

BUT, that much would have been clear if people actually bothered to READ my post properly of course. The fact that I have to explain myself a second time is rather alarming to be honest, considering we are all adult men here who apparently can understand English. I don't like being called ignorant when I am not and I sure am not misunderstanding anything here. And, I don't like being told that I get my research out of a woman's magazine. You guys can scoff all you want at pesticides but if you guys knew what these things did to male species in all animals you'd stop laughing for sure.

Not everyone is worried about it. Most people are not worried about masturbation because there are far more important things they simply have to be worried about.

If you go on a forum about breeding exotic fish and spend some time on it, you may believe that everybody is worried about the purity of the water in their aquariums. Pretty much same here.

Mumble... mumble... precious bodily fluids...

OK, people are clearly missing the point about what I am saying here, and I don't know why, but so be it I guess.

The water was one EXAMPLE, I could have quoted anything to be honest. I am saying masturbation is the least of our worries as men IF we believe it is a problem even (that excludes a certain group of people right there, what is not clear here?).

Some people mentioned mineral shortages as a consequence of masturbation, some people mention other stuff, the list goes on. I am saying that the world we live in today is not good for a man's health, and it's nothing to laugh at, they are truly serious problems. It is so serious that IF masturbating were to cause any issues, that would be overshadowed anyway by the onslaught of other stuff facing men's health today.

Who says we are not getting a shortage of zinc in food anyway? Or any of the other stuff mentioned. I doubt losses through masturbation is going to make a big difference anyway.

Come on guys, I'm not speaking in Greek here.

Women's magazine encourage masturbation. Just like all your other mainstream garbage. You'll believe anything mainstream doctors tell you whereas I don't.

Also basing off my own experience and countless other men who abstain from ejaculation. It's not sex or masturbation, it's the ejaculation that is the problem.

But anyway here's some links.

by Lawrence Wilson, MD

If you skip the spiritual elements of what he talks about, the rest is correct in what he says. I've experienced many of the things he mentions there.

Semen Retention?What is it & Why Bother? | Better Love and Sex

As well as book I read " The Tao of sexology ". As well as many famous athletes and other such as Sigmund Freud who abstained from sex after 40. I'm not saying you have to go that far.

But your mainstream doctors will of course claim masturbation is completely harmless but they have drugs that need to be sold, and you're right, masturbation every day is normal, because society has conditioned everyone to be undisciplined " I want everything now". If everyone was an alcoholic, you'd think that was normal to. Doesn't make it right. You think a drop a semen, the thing that creates a whole life isn't precious? You believe it because you've been told it.

But believe what you want. Don't be suggesting what I'm saying is incorrect though, because you don't know what you're talking about. And testosterone does cause hair loss, when it converts to DHT which is linked to too much masturbation.

Thank you sir! Thank you for posting again and for defending yourself. I can't see why someone who has a different opinion must be told they are ignorant and misinformed and that they don't understand the topic. Thank you for defending your opinion!

The ironic thing is, he/she's the ignorant one. If they think the tap water is safe to drink also.

Wow, one could not get worse information.... No, emphatically no, a male does not lose or "give away brain and spinal fluid" when he ejaculates. Even thinking this is hilariously preposterous. The male reproductive system has no connection to Cerebrospinal fluid. There is no pathway for the Cerebrospinal fluid to travel into the male reproductive system. There is absolutely ZERO proof of this and it really doesn't even need to be studied because of how preposterous it is. Any biologist would know this instantly because it is impossible. As far as the zinc and other unspecified "minerals" that you claim takes 3 weeks to produce is just completely false and has been proven so and can be easily explained. The amount of zinc, amino acid and citric acid expelled in a male ejaculation is extremely minuscule. There is a reason the male body can produce semen at such a rapid rate. It has VERY basic qualities that are easily met by daily nutrition. I'm not trying to insult you, but you REALLY need better sources. Very little of the things you have claimed to be fact are no where near it.

And I am far from an advocate for chronic masturbation (mainly because of the psychological/isolation aspect), but you can't just spout off ridiculous things like "semen has spinal fluid" and be taken seriously.

Please tell me you're not bringing conspiracy theories into this....

It's a so-called conspiracy theory because you believe in mainstream rubbish. You're clueless. You're also very wrong if you think you can replace the zinc, protein and amino acids lost during an ejaculation after just a day. And 20% of semen consists of cerebrospinal fluid but of course your biologist well say the opposite. I don't really care what they say. I know as well doing my own research and how much better I feel when I don't ejaculate to know who's spouting BS.