[jtb80]

I am a 34 year old man writing out of sheer frustration because I suffer badly from this problem. It's all very well when you're 17 but it's mortifying and frustrating at this age. I worry about it all the time. It does happen to men our age, but there is nobody to talk to about it and I am getting so down - truly upset and frustrated about it. I still suffer with persistent unwanted erections on a pretty much daily basis-yes, thinking about sex / being around attractive women etc doesn't help, but I often get them for no reason at all. I get nervous in the summer about it and always worry about it on beaches etc. I have taken to wearing tight briefs under my work trousers to hide it which can be uncomfortable and irritating. Ex-girlfriends have been very mixed in how understanding they've been about this issue. Currently Im single again and this can and does accentuate it. I get very down about it and have thought about seeing a doctor many times-it's just the embarrassment of it all. It's just, at 34, I truly thought that this would no longer be such a problem. Some days are fine, most days are problematic but many days are just unbearable with hourly erections that are just a total pain. I just wanted to ask am I alone here, and has anybody ever managed to find a solution or 'magic pill' to stop it. Advise needed and please, no jokers. Thank you.

[kaliope]

hi jtb
this sounds like a serious problem and I can hear your frustration. maybe posting it in the mens focused support would get you more answers. I would definitely go to a dr and have it checked out. I know it is embarrassing but it does sound like a medical issue. maybe going straight to a dr that specializes in this sort of thing would make it less embarrassing since they deal with this sort of thing on a daily basis. I think it would be a urologist, wouldn't it? because it doesn't sound sexual to me and I think you are thinking about it from a sexual perspective and that is what is making it embarrassing. like you cant control yourself and that doesn't sound like that is what this is. you just ask yourself, what is more embarrassing? dealing with continual erections or going and talking to someone about it and being embarrassed for twenty minutes and finding a solution. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[jtb80]

Thanks Kaliope - really appreciate you replying.
I didn't know that there was a mens forum so I will re-post on there.
Thanks again for your help.