Pornography-when is it ok, when is it not?

I had access to porn when I was 11 yrs. old. A friend of mine's Dad drove a magazine delivery truck and I rode home from baseball practice with them a few times. His dad said we could have a few magazines so I grabbed some porn and stashed them in my room when I got home. So that was my official start of porn addiction at an early age.
I didn't see any movies until I was 17 and that set me on fire. I was a virgin until 19 and then I enjoyed some really good sex with a few different lady friends that were older than me and made sex a learning experience too.
I started having problems with depression and had long periods of low self-esteem where I watched a lot of porn and didn't hardly ever date. i got married and things were fine until I had to go on blood pressure meds. That put a big damper on our sex life. I turned to porno without my wife knowing and it gave me a guilt trip. I finally felt that it wasn't fair to hide it from her and now we are working on getting things going again. Porn may always be a temptation to me. I would lie if I said it didn't appeal to me. But we agree that we don't have to have it in our marriage.

I think my biggest concern is about not wanting my wife to wonder who or what I might actually be thinking about while cooing her...and refraining from porn is the only way I can assure myself I am honestly trying to be honest and fair with her. Nevertheless, I suspect she is aware when something as common as a television commercial might set things to rolling...and I do not beat myself up over that. Overall, I just try to be true to myself and true to her while practicing being content.

Check out Patrick Carnes' works, such as "Contrary to Love". He has some assessments that can inform you on this matter.

The Skeezyks simply does not go there.